Yes that’s exactly it. He works long and hard at a job he wants to leave so I totally get it. But I’ve had to really start articulating that I am up every 2-3 hours at night PLUS looking after baby all day. A baby who is much harder work than the sleepy little newborn he got to know on his parental leave! We are just in this awkward phase where baby has a lot more needs so the load is heavier and we haven’t quite figured out how to distribute it.
After crying basically every day for the last week I realised I’m not coping and that my partner has been letting me down, I have finally asked for more help. Looking after a baby basically by yourself 24 hours a day and being sleep deprived is hard.
I was trying to be the perfect mum, partner, housewife… I had this idea that if I did all the chores and cooking etc, partner would have more time to take baby when he’s home. Guess what he did instead? Play Zelda all day. Lol.
Well I’ve asked him to step it up. We have a sleep consultant coming to help with baby’s sleep. I’m going to hold MIL to her promise to come help out more. I’m considering trying to get baby into daycare earlier than we thought for a day a week so I can reclaim some sanity… we shall see.
I feel you. The thing that always sends me in an existential tailspin with work is the lack of freedom in when you get to wake up, when you get to eat and for how long etc. I hate it.
Yes I was honestly quite upset! Checking the DT is part of my lil neurodivergent routine so realising it didn’t come back after the few days freaked me out.
Yeah I want to get on board with the “stick it to the man” vibe but the loss of the DT with no warning after I merrily logged off/deleted the app thinking I’d be back and “seeing” everyone in a few days was genuinely distressing. Mildly distressing but I was still upset to lose a place I had been going to multiple times daily for a year with zero warning. I have been so confused with the lack of clarity and the confusing post they’ve just put up that is very ironically lacking in accessibility/clarity.
Pretty much what it’s like! I’ve been relying on it since we had baby and only my partner can drive at the moment. But once I get my licence I am hopefully saying FU to the supermarkets altogether and shopping elsewhere as much as possible.
Oh my gosh yay I found you all. I have been so sad without the DT I missed everyone :-( Where else to post my anecdotes such as the following:
Woolies massively messed up my order today. Received half of some other family’s order. I have all their dairy, including a bunch of kids stuff. They presumably are the ones with my week’s worth of dinner meats, among other things. I am now the owner of 6L of milk, 3 tubs of spreadable butter, a ton of kids yoghurt pouches, and much more. I am going to have to see if any of the mums at play group want any of it.
Woolies had been suspiciously good with my orders there for a while, absolutely zero issues the past several orders. I feel like I’m being punished for finally trusting them lol! Waiting to hear about a refund…
Yes that’s exactly it. He works long and hard at a job he wants to leave so I totally get it. But I’ve had to really start articulating that I am up every 2-3 hours at night PLUS looking after baby all day. A baby who is much harder work than the sleepy little newborn he got to know on his parental leave! We are just in this awkward phase where baby has a lot more needs so the load is heavier and we haven’t quite figured out how to distribute it.