serenissi @ serenissi @lemmy.world

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nice point

this exact same thing happened to me a while ago. I really doubt some human blocked my account though. after hours of customer support call and emails (from another account) it finally got unblocked but neither yhe support agent nor me had any clue what happened.

I learned the lesson and gradually moved the dev accounts to a proton email instead.

we're still kind of weird.

that's the best part of it

then the regular stuffs should work like going out and meeting new people randomly, making friends at work and doing social service, reading circle and such, joining hobby based group or simply going to a club.

edit: from other comments, you switched country. so perceived cultural difference could make it bit difficult to fit in. it is completely normal and it will get easy soon enough.

do you have social anxiety?

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most of the times non-autistic people do not truly understand what it is to be on the spectrum. that's not anyone's fault and that doesn't mean they are insensitive. definitely there are assholes but that's besides the point.

I've seen people who insist on saying I'm just introverted and that's fine for me. I don't see autism as disease in particular, rather a trait that makes life different from that of most of fellow humans.

that being said, my hunch is people around you are probably, misleadingly, thinking that you being on the spectrum means you don't like social interaction. it happened with my not-so-close friends too (I'm generally open about this and to some extent visibly autistic. though not into trains lol. (I love trains as efficient public transport ofc)). They assumed, from the social battery perspective, that social interaction is quite draining and thus I don't like it.

in reality it's very different. social interaction is draining except for a few very close people. but I usually like to be in the social scenario. as someone with autism for whole life, I know what kind of interactions are tiring, how to manage them and in general various workarounds. I found this to be the case with irl autistic friends of mine too.

so I think you can talk about hacker stuffs, do social interaction related to it (discussing projects, doing talks for example). and try to enlighten them that you love hanging out with them, it just works in a different way. if they lack any empathy still, it's better to consider them as toxic and go to a different hacker community and/or make new friends. it is difficult but probably the best option.

this exact situation happened to a close friend of mine. she is autistic and whenever she opened up, friends stopped hanging out, trying to give her alone time. this lead her to pulling out of society and loosing hope on friendship completely (I didn't know her much back then). few years later she found friends, both autistic and not, and as happy as ever because they now understand this very aspect of her.

I'm sure you'll find good friends too and you don't have to hide yourself for that.

never ignore your mental health.

do consider what elders around you say as suggestions and give them a good thought. don't blindly assume it to be wrong or right even it seems so. most often it is somewhere in between.

know your situations and consider the consequence of people you trust breaking it. if the potential consequence is harmful enough to you, try to re-think your decisions.

also, I think you already know this since you're on lemmy, be aware of child grooming. it's better to know the risk than to fall for.

btw what do you mean 11th or 12th? any one of them? I'm curious about your country's school system. you people go to university at 15??

https://cwe.mitre.org/data/definitions/125.html

out of bound reads and you're reading garbage now.

WTF I JUST READ

wtf

*insensitive 🤦🏻‍♀️

no idea what I was thinking

I guessed most fedi people

I know this is meant to be a joke but it is incentive.

the game is irrelevant

fmhy is truly awesome!

aside, visiting other piracy sites isn't a security risk. there won't be a zero day browser exploit on a random site. just don't run any software downloaded there. for pirated games having a separate gaming pc or running it under a different user/sandbox is always recommended, no matter where you got it.

please refrain from pointless fearmongering.

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you know what's funny about turning it off and on? my home isp had a problem. the uplink packets were dropping very often, downlink was fine. I called tech support.

as usual they said the 'IT hello'. I said already tried. the guy made me restart everything on call. nothing changed. soon they sent two guys. they came all the way to turn the optical interface off and on and tp change the dns to isp one (obviously I never use that). they soon realized the problem isn't here and called the isp. after some furious cussword exchanges they told the isp the IT mantra. and voila! they restarted their switch (cutting off internt to an entire locality lol) and everything went normal. that day I knew the true power of that mantra.

most gui apps need restart, certainly hugely complex 'os' like browsers. in theory you can do something like live patching but it probably isn't worth the effort with session restore.

Edit: misunderstood 'forced'