Over the past couple of months, my wife and I have been having lots of drama because she's polyamorous, but I'm innately monogamous (at least thus far).
She has a boyfriend now and it's been a struggle, but I've finally accepted/realized that there's no actual threat of her leaving (which was the core source of my anxiety and jealousy).
So we're doing awesome now! We still have sex, snuggle, and generally carry on as normal, just that she also has someone who is satisfying that need to experience new relationships.
I would recommend doing something like what I did in this photo. I originally just did a simple hook like you posted, but some very high winds bent it, and it was somewhat loose - I still don't know how it stayed in.
I cut a piece of angled steel, drilled holes, and painted with white Plastidip. Then used some nylon spacers with the marine hook. I have not had any issues at all, it's been 7 months and they're rock solid.
Yes, they are metal pipes/fittings that I got from Lowe's (local hardware store). I used a spray paint with the term "hammered" in the name, it gives a nice textured metal coating, since they don't look this nice off the store shelves!
Just chiming in to say that while I can understand some people's frustration, I support this.
The community here is great and I'd like it to stay that way.
In real life, I choose to associate with good people and avoid areas where the quality of people who can show is completely unpredictable or not my taste.
i prefer a chill bar with quiet outside seating and no live music. I go there specifically because I'm not looking for a biker bar experience.
I see it as a strength to the fediverse. It's no different than different forums back in the day. I do understand that my above statement would be akin to different communities, but I agree that even if someone's behavior is only "bad" in a community where that was acceptable, it does affect the community as a whole, knowing that they're lurking (in terms of feeling like this is a safe space).
Keep up the good work, and thank you for having to make these difficult decisions; I know it's not easy.
That's what I think, those who are actually interested in managing a quality sub will likely learn how the fediverse works and move, since the quality of people here will, on average, be higher than the unwashed masses.
roblarky @ roblarky @beehaw.org Posts 2Comments 23Joined 2 yr. ago
My week has been one of growth.
Over the past couple of months, my wife and I have been having lots of drama because she's polyamorous, but I'm innately monogamous (at least thus far).
She has a boyfriend now and it's been a struggle, but I've finally accepted/realized that there's no actual threat of her leaving (which was the core source of my anxiety and jealousy).
So we're doing awesome now! We still have sex, snuggle, and generally carry on as normal, just that she also has someone who is satisfying that need to experience new relationships.
So overall, my week is going great