You're right, I didn't come at this neutrally. I didn't get that you were talking from the perspective of being a guy, sorry. I respect that you still try to assume good intentions and you're right that it will probably get you further than assuming the worst about people. I might have been talking about a different point than you, but my view on that is still the same. I just do not think the guy in question had other intentions than to pick up a girl and I do not agree with his conclusion at the end. The whole concept of the incel mentality is just frustrating to me and I have no idea how to handle that. And yes you're right, that if the guys were a bit more elaborate on why dude was in the wrong they could've helped the dude. I mean he probably doesn't have friends in the first place which makes it even worse to try and talk to people.
Yes you definitely have a point, I guess it would be better to assume the best and show compassion. I think it's just more difficult when creepieness becomes danger.
From my experience, they're usually very nice people that really enjoy all animals
Maybe this is a stupid question, but what do you achieve with self-hosting music? What do you do with it? If it's only on localhost then I could just play the music locally? what is it for? :)
So the girl is wrong for not wanting to be sexually objectified by a random stranger...? If you knew how much women are harrassed and objectified all the god damn time when going out, you would know that being polite to these guys only sends them the wrong signals and makes them think that you are interested and they have a chance, and will make things worse. The core problem with these incel guys is that they feel totally entitled to a womans body and attention. They aren't! Yes everyone deserves a happy and healthy relationship with others and social connections, but these guys are so bitter that they literally think spending 30 dollars on a beer should give them access to a girl. If they would genuinely want to just have a conversation with them he wouldn't have drawn the conclusion that he stated at the end. He wouldn't have to feel that rejected. It's because he was there especially to find a girl to date, that the girl couldn't live up to his expectations.
Women aren't objects to obtain or fuck. And honestly most women get harrassed and stalked and get unwanted attention from men so much that they sense the intentions of these guys immediately.
You're literally telling us that you did actually put in a ton of labour, so it's not completely passive
Sorry Pink Floyd is my favourite band and I totally do not feel like a boring person 😂
In my experience dog owners often like to control another being, cat owners like to just let others be.
Yes, I am being treated by a neurologist. I have tried a lot of meds and sadly none really seemed to help long term.
Could go both ways, but really the change has to come from within, they will have to change this in the end
Do you think he will actually do that, or is it just an empty threat?
Wait Trump is talking about using the military against American citizens??? (Maybe I missed this, I am Dutch so I don't watch American news all day)
Most apps literally don't work right is you do not enable all location services
Hi, welcome to the Lemmy Grimes fan page! I realised there wasn't one yet so I made it :)
As the title says. For me it's always the same: at first, my boss is understanding, but when I miss work because of a migraine for the 15th time, that compassion kind of dulls away... At some point, they start complaining that I am unreliable and they always seem to be waiting for when I get better, as if there is a cure for this chronic condition.
I always feel like somehow it is my fault for being sick and I feel like I let my team down even though I know it's the last thing I want.
How do you guys cope with it? What do you tell your boss? How do coworkers view you? Any tips and tricks are always welcome!