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  • Congratulations! I'm just past a month, and I absolutely get it. It's especially fun on those days when you're feeling extra dysphoric 🥲

    Something that's helped me a lot was realizing that it's just a really lazy coping/defense mechanism from the brain. Being trans is kind of (incredibly) scary, and so it's just those echos of fear and doubt saying "Well, maybe if you just weren't trans, things would be way easier!". Then you can calmly tell that to shut the hell up, and continue living your best life :3

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  • the implosion mechanism to initiate the chain reaction compressed it to about half the volume.

    Y'know, I've done a lot of "hobby research" into nuclear weapons, but never really did the math on the degree to which the pit was compressed. Just on an intuitive level, it's already a bit difficult to fathom solids compressing, but not unreasonable to imagine. However, in my head it was like, a couple percent at most. Forcing a solid ball of insanely dense metal into a space half of what it originally was just blows my mind even more.

  • I just got my ears pierced today 😊
  • Correct. Don't touch them, rinse them with saline, and you'll be g2g. I got mine done last week and I absolutely love them. I hate needles, but oh my gosh I can't stop looking at myself with them. And congrats!

  • Like Elon Musk, 1 in 3 bosses admit they are pushing RTO because they're so upset about wasting money on all those empty desks
  • But you can only sell if someone is buying, and the moment you list that huge skyscraper on the market and find out that the only offers you're getting are 1/10 the asking price, suddenly the other massive commercial buildings you have on your balance sheets (and those of all your rich buddies) suddenly drop 90% in value, and it's revealed the emperor has no clothes

  • Reflecting on past mistakes
  • As someone who recently came out as well and has at least had a bit of time to work through this a bit, you're gonna be okay.

    This is something that, whether you realize it or not, weighs on you in an unimaginable way and unfortunately that crushing weight causes an immense, unending pain that can get directed towards others. A lot of us have those feelings, and while you can't undo the things you've said, you can definitely make amends for it, and this is a great start.

    You're going to be reflecting a lot for the next few weeks I bet, and just make sure you're not too hard on yourself. You've made an incredible step in accepting who you are as a person, and ruminating on past mistakes isn't doing that. That person is gone. You're obviously still "you", but in accepting yourself now, that scared, suffering, angry person is no longer scared and suffering and angry.

    If you can, therapy, or even just journaling can help immensely. Externalizing some of the thoughts you're having by writing them down, at least for me, tends to calm things down a bit and keep them from constantly buzzing about your head.

    Stay strong, and feel free to reach out. We're here for you.

  • Let it grow and flourish. Parasites should be eradicated.
  • That's because conservatives are very individualistic for whatever reason. Instead of seeing systemic issues they see bad apples.

    Because conservatism inherently relies on fear of change, simple thinking, and avoiding the discomfort of questioning the status quo at all costs. You want to believe that everything is hunky-dory the way it is, and avoid thinking too hard about all the ways it might not be.

    It's uncomfortable to think that the system you're participating in and benefitting from might be the cause of it. No one ever wants to think they're the bad guy. It's the reason they hate stuff like CRT so much, because it's an incredibly uncomfortable thought to imagine that everything they've known and tried to maintain is actually a complete nightmare and they've been part of it in some way.

    The world is much scarier when you see the pain and suffering so many experience, and it's through no fault of their own. No matter what they do or didn't do, some people just get dealt a shit hand, either by chance, or because of systemic issues. It's much easier to say "The system I believe in is totally fine and just, it's their fault they haven't been able to reach the same place I have".

  • Which CEOs are actually worth keeping around?
  • Did they actually go through with it? I remember them attempting it, but then immediately backing down and issuing a very reasonable response letter basically saying they were clearly in the wrong and allowed the union to form. I could totally be unaware of any more recent developments though.

  • Is it safe to have a child? Americans rethink family planning ahead of Trump’s return
  • But see, according to my awful family in Oklahoma, they voted for Trump specifically to keep their daughters safe from all the pedophile trans people who are raiding the bathrooms of their grade school like orcs sieging Helm's Deep. Sure, their daughters now have no reproductive rights and they've never seen or met a single trans person, but this was definitely the best decision to keep them safe and healthy.

  • Democrats Ignored Pleas To Address Price of ‘Eggs and Gas’, Campaigners Say
  • Then sadly, knowing how a lot of my friends shopped when they were broke, I bet that it is something like a convenience store. Not saying that DC isn't expensive, I was literally just there visiting a friend who lives there, but I also live in an area with a CoL well above the national average and coffee still isn't $20 for cheap pre-ground stuff

  • Democrats Ignored Pleas To Address Price of ‘Eggs and Gas’, Campaigners Say
  • Maybe at a more expensive convenience store, or he's like many idiots that shop somewhere like Whole Foods and because they're used to seeing some $70/bag organic free-range non-GMO gluten-free coffee grown in the Himalayas by a small sect of previously uncontacted monks, the "cheap stuff" is the $20 bag of stuff that's similarly overpriced.

    The most I've ever paid for coffee in the US was $20/lb at a local artisan roaster, where they're blended and roasted right in the store. Usually my normal coffee is about $3-5/lb

  • How's your week been?
  • I finally started to come to terms with being trans, and this week has basically been non-stop coming out to people, which has been kinda rough to say the least... My wife and I were married for 4 years and planning on kids, but she saw some clear signs and really made me introspect and finally come to this realization. She's struggling hard and doesn't know what to do, as she feels like she has to mourn the man she married and "doesn't want a wife".

    She moved out on Monday, and we had separate Thanksgivings with friends and had to explain to friends and family what was going on. I have a phenomenal support network of friends who've been helping me through this, but my family is distraught beyond belief at what the future holds and feel absolutely blindsided by all of this. Which, to be fair, I've done a phenomenal job at hiding it, even from myself.

    Even despite all this, I feel like I've never been happier, which almost makes it feel even worse at times knowing so I've hurt some of the people I love the most so much. It also just causes so much of that doubt to come rushing back in, that I'm "faking it", and that things can "go back to normal". I know it's just a coping mechanism, and that rationally I have literally written pages of peer-reviewed journals with pretty clear "Here's why you're trans, dummy", but goddamn if it doesn't make the whole thing that much harder when those pangs of doubt come creeping back in and making it feel like I'm throwing my life away for nothing.

    TL;DR it's aight

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