Greercase @ Greercase @lemmus.org

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This is a women only community focused on things that relate to women. The comic is not saying the problem is exclusive to women, just that it affects women, though Wikipedia and most articles acknowledge it's more prevalent in women's fashion. I'd recommend taking your comment to the original thread since I don't think it's relevant here.

I love them. Been following their stuff for a while. I saw this yesterday and honestly don't get the obsession with anti-aging. Maybe largely because I'm not hetero, but I don't find myself caring about visible aging on anyone. It's hard to feel consistent about it though because if we could magically decide to not age I would probably do that, but having individuals and society dedicate time and resources to anti-aging feels wasteful and on the whole negative. I think part of it comes down to not wanting to contribute to this culture of idolization of youth and unobtainable beauty standards, but if we could all magically obtain it I'm not sure I would feel the same way. There was that movie Uglies which I never saw, but I think the difference is that I don't think I would want to change myself to be more conventionally attractive, but I wouldn't mind not giving into the "ravages of time" if it could be magically avoided by everyone.

Unrelated to this post, but I almost cross posted your recent contribution to comicstrips here. I thought it was super cute and relevant, then noticed it was you posting it. Would you like to cross post it yourself? Also went to your profile page and I have incidentally already seen and upvoted around 90% of your posts lol. Thanks for contributing to my Lemmy experience so much!

I'm glad you said this because I was having a difficult time answering before I read this. Most things I regret doing/not doing are because they don't align with my core values and I'm human so unfortunately I sometimes do things I shouldn't or avoid doing things I should and apparently do both of those equally.

I don’t know if your name is actually Gwen, but if so great choice! If I got to pick my name from the start that'd be it.

I'm pretty vibes based. If I have an event with polite company I'll shave visible legs and underarms, but otherwise I can go up to two weeks without and not be too bothered by it. It really just depends on how I'm feeling on any given day. I like to keep things at least tidy for my monthly visits, but I'll switch the style up to keep myself entertained.

I have friends that shave every day, friends that revel in not shaving all winter, and friends that have stopped shaving completely. I had a friend who dyed their underarm hair for fun back when that was more popular. Just mentioning these to showcase some more variety. Society can be really restrictive and demanding about this, but the reality is whatever works for you is valid. 💖

It seems like you answered your own question for the most part. Generally when people complain about getting attention for their features, breast or otherwise, they're likely talking about attention that's negative or makes them uncomfortable. There will always be outliers, but I don't think people are regularly complaining about the fact they have a partner who respects them as a person and respects their entire body who just happens to find their breasts attractive. You seem to acknowledge that being viewed exclusively sexually by strangers can be uncomfortable, so I'm not sure really what else there is to it. You can feel however you like about your body and the way people look at it, but I always encourage doing the work to investigate those feelings and make sure they are truly yours and there for the right reasons. Sometimes it's nice to feel attractive, but it's important not to need external validation to know your worth. As long as you're comfortable and not in danger, you do you.

That whole project partner thing can be overwhelming and sometimes even damaging or traumatic. I'm glad you were able to set up some healthy boundaries for yourself.

I feel like even the step parent role can be a challenging one for younger people. It still takes a lot of patience and grace, but definitely often distinct from a primary parent/guardian role. Thank you for sharing how your views have evolved on that!

That's sweet she was trying to impress you, but a bummer it was just talk. Glad it worked out well in the end. I also really like camping and my partner does not. I actually prefer going solo because for me it's about being able to blend into nature and be free from constraints which even a partner can add. We also do short hikes and such together and it's been a really nice compromise. Really love your line "sometimes we come out stronger by letting go of our expectations." Thank you for sharing your experience!

If someone wants to open a separate community, I'm not one to stand in their way, I just am not sure what the purpose would be. I feel like most things posted to that community would probably be a better fit in an ask women or general feminist community.

My other concern would be if we're advertising it as some kind of brother community, who is setting the rules and responsible for moderation? Here it's easy to block people posting in bad faith (since it's mostly men), will people over there continue to block these people? I don't mind men chiming in elsewhere, but it would be weird to have it devolve into an "I was blocked there so I'm going to come here to say unsavory things".

TL;DR: I don't mind. I have questions that don't need to be answered but maybe are worth them thinking about, but I like that anyone can start a community on the fediverse and don't want to restrict that. If it ends up going poorly we can just stop associating with that community.

Much love to our mod team. Appreciate you all asking the community and appreciate the guy asking as well.

My introduction to the ad was someone talking about the backlash to the backlash, so I also had to look it up separately. It did seem like a lot of people were being gross about it. I also like to know how clothes will look on my body type, so I totally understand how the ad was not directly helpful to you. I'm not sure how "look how good our clothes look on attractive person" is better than "look how good our clothes look on a diverse group of people / we have something for everyone", but I guess that's why I'm not in advertising.

Did you read the post and still have no thoughts, or had you not heard about it previously, or something else?

If a brand is using harmful messages to frame their ads, I think that's worth noting. I don't think things like pride collections make a brand good, but companies that have not pulled back on their pride collections despite backlash certainly are saying more than companies that are folding under the pressure. To a certain extent marketing and culture are intertwined and if we allow brands to market using harmful messages then we are signaling that it's acceptable culturally. I'm not saying this in reference to this ad necessarily, just in general. I don't want to see Pepsi advertising that they're the most popular drink at the klan rally. It normalizes klan rallies and demonstrations that they don't mind being associated with them. That's a loss in my book. Obviously it's an extreme example, but things have an effect, even passively.

Thank you for the suggestion! I looked it up and I see some listings on thread up, but can't seem to find their actual site or what retail store carries them. I don't mind 2nd hand, but they don't have my size. Do you know where you got yours?

Similar to krejall below, it looks like plain text in the first comment. The next one is not rendering the spoiler either, it's all plainly visible within the block quote section. I see other people's spoilers are working on another app, so I'm not sure why yours aren't, but since yours are rendering on the web it's probably not a you issue.

I purposely didn't mention hawk girl because I don't feel like she was a character, much less a female character. She could've been replaced by an actual hawk with no powers or anything and the movie would've been identical.

I feel like even the message of kindness was a little muddied by the lack of actual character development, but I promised myself I'd stick to issues with the characterization of women because the whole kindness part of this story was a whole different thing.

Edited to add: Thank you for your comment. It's nice to see I'm not the only one to take issue with it.

I don't believe it was a reddit app, but it's all good now either way.

Your comments do not look to have spoilers to me, just fyi. I'm not sure if you meant to have them or not, but if so they're not rendering correctly for me. I think I was able to get it though. Thank you for pointing that out.

Oh, I had it correct then. Apparently my app does not support spoiler text. Good to know. Thank you for the information!