This country is pure evil and rotten to its core. There is no redemption for us. No one will come to save us. It is only going to get worse.
And that's not even getting into how flooded the sector is with the hundreds of thousands being laid off for the past few years
Drug dealers and OF girls aren't the ones making your life miserable Greg.
Building a registry of trans people is pretty frightening as well
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The new policy could have wide-reaching impact and could affect many of the 92,000 trans adults living in Texas.
By Lil Kalish
Emily Bray was supposed to be celebrating on Tuesday morning. After years of trying to change her name and gender marker, the 27-year-old YouTuber received an official court order from a Texas judge that she was at last, in the eyes of the state, the woman she had long known herself to be.
But that elation was short-lived.
An hour later, she logged onto the private Facebook group where she and other trans Texans discussed the bureaucracy of changing one’s name and gender in a state that is becoming increasingly hostile to trans people. One person shared that they had gone into the Department of Public Safety to update their driver’s license that day and learned that the agency had issued a new policy, barring the use of court orders or birth certificates to change one’s listed sex.
“There’s no other way to describe it than a gut punch,” Bray told HuffPost.
We're on the same side here. I am a trans person. If a republican gains the presidency the consequences will literally be devastating to my life and liberty. Every single day republicans are crafting and putting forward policy to make my life harder. I am not a politician, I do not craft policy, but it seems like asking for a plan from people whose jobs are to craft policy to stop the plan that is currently underway to erase my existence and gain permanent capture of the US doesn't seem like that much of an ask does it? If no such plan is crafted, then the second a republican wins the white house it's over, there's no going back and we can kiss our freedom goodbye. Please I am begging for just a shred of empathy here
Putting up safeguards is literally an action. We have them all over the place. You could put in laws or executive orders that prevent the actions of p25 from being put into place. Maybe even consider expanding the supreme court if that would help. If it's literally a threat to our democracy then it should be treated as such. The federal government stops nefarious schemes all the time, why is this any different?
What do you mean VOTE? THE CURRENT PRESIDENT IS A DEMOCRAT. P25 has been out for ages and what have they done about it?? They could even give us their plan to stop it! But as it stands, yes we might win this election or even the next one, but if they don't do anything about the threat that p25 poses all it takes is one slip up and WHAM we immediately live in a dictatorship. The democrats aren't treating p25 as the very real threat that it is or else they'd be doing something about it other than using it as a guilt trip to make us vote.
I would be able to let out a sigh of relief and a deep anxiety would be lifted if they could give us a plan to stop it, but as it stands all they have is keeping the dems in power which let me tell you we've already lost multiple massive multi decades long precedent while under the biden administration and not a word on how we're going to get it back. Somehow the republicans win whether they're in power or not but not for the democrats oh no we get nothing
I don't know if you know this but p25 is already well under way with massive changes being made by the captured judicial branches as well as heritage foundation approved bipartisan bills being passed.
The administration has the entire plan in their hands. They could at least act in some way to put up safeguards so that our democracy isn't instantly dismantled the second a republican president is sworn in. Otherwise it's only a matter of time before it happens regardless.
Edit: All y'all demanding me come up with a solution. I am the one asking for anyone in charge to come to with a counter plan. The republicans have a plan to dismantle the government as soon as they enter power and are currently enacting pieces of their plan under a democrat administration. They will continue doing so regardless unless they are stopped.
WE CANNOT COUNT ON WINNING EVERY ELECTION IN PERPETUITY
As soon as the republicans win it's over. If there is nothing that can be done to stop them THEN WE'VE ALREADY LOST
Edit2: The biden admin might not have congress, but they could at the very least create proposals or laws that could stem the tide and hold on to them until they know they would pass, but as far as I'm aware they haven't done or talked about anything like that
I have an upcoming appointment for an FFS consultation and was wondering if there are any questions y'all recommend asking 🙂
Y'ALL ARE LETTING IT HAPPEN WHILE IN CHARGE OF EVERYTHING
They dropped their support for the abolition of the death penalty from their platform
Don't worry, there are plenty of suburban apartments to get the worst of both worlds these days
I had a whole bunch of them including the vasomotor ones like hot flashes and night sweats, but the ones that I'm mainly worried about are that it started making the joints in my hands painful and giving me frequent carpal tunnel flare ups as well as severe dry eyes and made my vision a lot worse
This is mainly for the women here who've had GRS/orchi, but if you experience these then be sure to see your doctor either way ~
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Please don't judge my story too harshly I have terrible mental health lol.
I got an orchi some time ago and when my hormones were tested shortly after, my estrogen was about double what it should be so my endocrinologist reduced my estradiol dosage by half. Shortly after I started experiencing some of what I would later learn are menopause symptoms. I thought they were my body getting used to the changes from the operation and just soldiered through them. By the time I saw my endocrinologist six months later they had become much worse and were pretty severely impacting my quality of life.
I'm on a higher dose now and I'm sad to say for me it is not an instant fix. A week later and I'm still experiencing issues so if anyone knows generally how long it takes symptoms to resolve I'd love to know lol. I'm mad/disappointed in myself for letting things get as bad as they have and worried that they won't get better. I appreciate y'all reading <3
I played super Metroid for the first time in 2019 and it was amazing. Felt like it hadn't aged at all and the atmosphere was incredible
GBA Final Fantasy ports are great as well as Final Fantasy Tactics Advance. Also highly recommend Mario and Luigi: Superstar Saga and Golden Sun
Yeah obviously those kids should be picking themselves up by their boot straps. Sorry kids there's no such thing as a free lunch /s
First, if you have any interest in seeing this movie, do not read anything about it, just go see it as soon as you possibly can.
mild spoilers
Holy cow, what an incredible movie. It felt like I was having a mirror held up to me showing my past self the entire time. I've never felt existential dread/despair that was so personal to me in a movie before. I was completely blown away by this movie and it has left me utterly shook.
explicit spoilers
The movie is like the IRL equivalent of taking a completely in denial trans egg and shaking them by the shoulders as hard as possible. When Maddie was talking about Owen's memories being jumbled up, that was literally me. The words 'there's still time' on the street raised my desperate hopes for Owen, but in the end that's all they were. It shows us all the hell of choosing to live in denial in perpetuity and how devastating that is. It's hard for me to convey how personal the experience of this movie is, but holy hell.
interpretation spoilers
I also wanted to ask how y'all interpreted a couple of points. First, the act of having to bury yourself to escape the midnight plane. My interpretation is that going through the ego death of finally acknowledging your true identity to yourself and shedding your false identity. The second is the mirror scene, which my interpretation is the small 'dipping of the toes' back into the memories of having explored gender identity in the past and taking comfort/energy from them. But I'd love to hear your interpretations on them.
What did y'all think of it? Any film recommendations in a similar vein?
The political situation for trans people in the southern US has been devolving rapidly and I'm looking to move to a protected state. I'm going to start applying to jobs soon, and I've been considering whether I should apply as my dead self or not.
I haven't changed my legal name yet, so my job applications immediately out me as trans and even if it didn't I don't pass at all currently, so if I got an interview I'd be outed then. I've been reading about how hard it is to get a job as a trans woman and I'll need all the help I can get to get out of this shithole state.
It would kill me to have to go back into the closet for work, but the alternative is being potentially stuck in a place that will forcibly detransition me which is way worse.
Has anyone been in this situation or has any advice?
There was a thread I saw recently, that really struck me as a growing trend I have been seeing online. It has been bothering me and I felt the need to write my thoughts about it. The post in question is about a trans woman joking about being in denial and having tea parties because they are awesome.
Whenever cis people see trans people discussing signs of their gender identity online, they immediately feel the need to jump in and discount the signs in a number of ways. Whether it’s because they did the same things but are still cis or that trans people shouldn’t “police” gender roles, or that kids should be allowed to do what they want without assigning identities to them. Many of them seem like they feel their own cis gender identity is being attacked.
In the beginning of my gender journey™, I clung to signs from my past as a way to justify to society and myself that I am in fact trans and valid, because the truth is, I was extremely insecure about my identity. I grew up during a time that said trans people don’t exist, and the ones that do are to be shunned, and there was only a very narrow way to be trans.
Despite it being completely and utterly wrong, the phrase, FEELINGS AREN’T FACTS are a part of the cultural zeitgeist, and it infects the way people think, including myself. So much of being trans is based on feeling and when you’ve been shoving feelings down and ignoring them your entire life, it can be impossible to hear them. So, for people in similar situations, signs are all they have and they were all I had for a time.
After becoming secure in my gender identity, I truly don’t believe you need signs to be trans. The official diagnosis doesn’t even include signs among its criteria. I actually think it does a pretty good job aside from the clinically significant distress/impairment part. I would be hard-pressed to be convinced that someone isn’t trans if they meet the criteria, but aren’t distressed/impaired by it.
However, I do not think a cis boy enjoying a tea party because it’s awesome and a trans girl enjoying a tea party because it is affirming are two competing ideas and can easily coexist in the same space. You don’t need to have enjoyed tea parties to be trans, but if it was a way for you to feel gender affirmation then it is absolutely a sign. The same goes for any other common trope or sign that trans people use.
This could easily be transphobes being disingenuous and trolling, as they are relentless online, but I still wanted to express my feelings on the matter. My wish is for online spaces to become more empathetic to each other's experiences (fat chance I know) and to stop competing on what makes someone's gender identity in threads like these. There is room for everyone's experience of tea parties and they are all just as valid.
Doc Impossible made a wonderfully written article that is more coherent than I will ever be about signs and gender identity last year that I highly recommend for more reading on the topic.
The blood doesn't lie, but it seems crazy to me
I've been feeling down lately and I started re-watching futurama for some good nostalgia, but it keeps making transphobic jokes which is kind of just making me feel worse. Anyone have any suggestions for comfort shows to watch?
[The Is This a Pigeon? meme template with the words “MY CLUELESS ASS” over the character’s head, the words “OBVIOUS SIGNS OF DYSPHORIA” below the butterfly and captioned with the words “IS THIS A CIS FEELING?”]
Hi all,
This is my first guide ever so if I get anything wrong or there are any changes I should make please let me know!
Some of us unfortunately start our journeys without all of our hair. While others get to watch their hair grow with the rest of their body, we don’t. This sucks, it really does. The WPATH standards of care say that feminizing hormones won’t cause regrowth. However, we can take fate into our own hands. With that being said, in all my research results here are all highly variable and there aren’t any guarantees. Rate of regrowth seems to depend on how long someone has had their hair loss. Regardless, even if you’ve had hair loss for many years I would still attempt to recover it. You never know what will happen!
I have seen some trans women who didn’t do anything except HRT and were able to regrow their hair, but I personally would explore every option available to me to maximize recovery. The following are the main methods of recovering hair and are considered the gold standard.
Finasteride
Finasteride is a medication prescribed by your doctor taken as a pill orally once a day. It works by blocking the conversion of testosterone into DHT by your body. DHT is a stronger version of testosterone that shrinks the DHT sensitive hair follicles on your scalp. If your testosterone is already blocked you shouldn’t need to take fin as you won’t have any testosterone able to be converted. It is however worth getting your DHT levels checked just in case. Normal DHT levels for women are below 20ng/dL. If your testosterone isn’t blocked or if your DHT is above 20 ng/dL it might be worth considering. If you aren’t on HRT yet, I would highly recommend trying finasteride as it can carry some feminizing effects with it, including less body hair, lower libido and gynecomastia.
As a side note, fin can rarely carry some more serious side effects, such as brain fog, depression and suicidal thoughts. If you start experiencing any of these, stop taking it right away and reach out to your doctor. Please don’t let this stop you from trying it though!
Minoxidil
Minoxidil or Rogaine can be bought over the counter as a liquid or a foam. It works by keeping your hair in the active growth phase for longer. It instructs you to apply it to the scalp twice a day, but the half life is around 22 hours so if you need to it’s okay to take it once a day. If your hair is still grown out I would recommend the foam as it’s easier for it to penetrate to the scalp, but the foam is more expensive than the liquid. There are generic versions of topical minoxidil that are much cheaper than Rogaine.
If you find that the liquid is irritating to your scalp, you can try the foam as it isn’t as harsh. There are some rare side effects such as a rapid heartbeat, faintness or dizziness and you should stop using it as soon as possible if you experience them.
WARNING: Minoxidil is EXTREMELY TOXIC to pets, especially to cats. Any exposure at all can kill your cat and make your dog very sick. Use at your pets' risk if you do.
Microneedling
Microneedling is a new advancement in hair loss recovery with a few studies to back it up. The studies use it to enhance the outcomes of using minoxidil, but I’ve seen people recover hair on it alone, including myself. It stimulates growth by creating micro-punctures in the scalp encouraging the body to produce collagen and repair the follicles. There are two methods of microneedling, manual derma-rolling or motorized microneedling. It is easier and cheaper to get into with manual derma-rollers, but there are a couple of reasons I personally choose motorized. The first is that it is difficult to achieve the intended depth consistently with a derma-roller. Secondly this is something that is creating micro-wounds on your scalp and it is difficult to sanitize. Thirdly, the needles go in at one angle and will leave at a completely different angle, creating more damage than need be.
As far as protocols go I would start with the highest depth up to 1.5mm you can go that is tolerable. For example, I couldn’t go beyond 0.6mm without it being excruciating. This indicated that my scalp had become too thin and I would have to work my way up. I would needle for a few months and then increase the depth by a quarter of a mm. I now can fairly comfortably microneedle at 1.25mm. Mind you this won’t feel good. During the session you are aiming for erythema or pinpoint bleeding on your scalp. As far as how much the studies recommend one week at lower depths and every two weeks at greater depths. The goal here is to cause a minimal amount of damage to the scalp and not to overdo it.
This video by a doctor goes into more detail about microneedling and its efficacy. There are lots of products out there, I personally use the M8 Dr. Pen with 16 needle cartridges and bought it off a random seller on amazon.
Other treatments
Ketoconazole shampoo (Nizoral) This anti-fungal shampoo has some properties that can reduce the amount of DHT that reaches your hair follicles. Its efficacy is limited, but it can be worth trying, especially if you still have DHT in your system.
Rosemary essential oil + carrier oil such as jojoba or castor There was a study that showed rosemary oil can be as effective as 2% minoxidil. It functions as an anti-inflammatory/antioxidant on your scalp. Mix three-ish drops into a dollop of carrier oil and massage into your scalp. Leave it on for as long as you like. I put it on in the beginning of my shower and wash it off at the end. More information can be found here.
Topical melatonin It’s been shown that topical melatonin can improve the effects of hair loss. Just make sure to put it on at night as it can make you drowsy. More information can be found here.
Scalp massage There is information here stating that scalp massage can be beneficial to hair growth. I do it with a scalp massager I bought off amazon when I shower.
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Your hair grows in phases and thus any growth you see will happen in waves and won’t be steady. As a general rule of thumb, the longer a hair has been gone, the longer it will take to return. Some people respond to treatments fairly quickly, but don’t give up even if you haven’t seen progress for a year. Unlike men, once you have recovered your hair to an extent you find satisfactory as long as you don’t have DHT in your system you no longer have to worry about continuing these treatments! You’re done!
In the meantime I really recommend finding and investing in a good wig. If you’re like me, it’s scary and a huge departure from your current image, but if you can find something that matches your original hair color and texture I promise you’ll feel more like yourself than ever before.
I stole most of this information from the /r/tressless subreddit. They have an off-site wiki with more information and more treatments you can try here.
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Also, if you’re a trans veteran, I highly recommend contacting the LGBTQ+ care coordinator in your area. The VA is extremely generous with trans veteran care and will provide for almost everything for transitioning up to pre and after care for surgeries. Sadly not the surgeries themselves currently. This includes things such as hair removal, hormones, prosthetics and wigs.
Good luck everyone!!
