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Thoughts on why small talk is so uniquely painful
  • For me personally, I’ve been able to “learn” to respond with a few generic answers but that still doesn’t change the over analysis after the fact.

    Did I seem genuine enough? I wish I could tell them how I really feel. Why bother responding if it’s a lie? I hate lying. Etc.

    So yeah outwardly I appear to be good at small talk. (Heck I even worked sales for a few years) but internally it’s draining.

  • I feel like I'm spending less time on social media after switching to Lemmy
  • I’ve always assumed it was due to the size of Reddit. I don’t care about anime at all but because lots of other people do it reaches the front page. This is why I became very liberal with the block button to tailor the feed.

  • Good Time to Vacation in Michigan?
  • I just spent the weekend in Saugutuck (near Holland) and the AQI was less than 10! We’ve been going for a few years now so I’m biased. We stay in the town and then to get to the beach there’s a ferry for $3 and a 20 minute hike through a forested area.

  • What's the most toxic game community you know of?
  • I think you’re on to something here. I play all kinds of games with friends, and DOTA was the only one where I’d actively get shit on for my lack of skill. And that’s from real life friends too.

  • Simple Living and tools
  • Going down the woodworking rabbit hole led me to discover Mortise and Tenon magazine, which is focused on using hand tools. One of their main points is that when using a table saw for instance, we have to incorporate all these extra tools to keep us safe from the machine. (Hearing protection, push sticks and other jigs) If you use a hand saw, none of these extras matter and the effective use is completely in your hands.

    It does require more skill building but for me that’s the fun part.

    Also consider that with a properly adjusted hand plane or card scraper, you can completely replace sand paper. So on one hand you have a device that only needs occasional sharpening but on the other hand you are constantly rebuying supplies.

  • Dammit
  • Best thing I ever did was hang peg board. Two actually, one for pans (pots still live in the cabinet), and another for the most used utensils. I love having all my measuring spoons and cups hanging next to the cutting board.

  • Is the internet healing?
  • Yes, but I think it's as @Candelestine@lemmy.world says. As any form of social media grows past a certain point, the more everything becomes 'averaged out' to the lowest common denominator. IE the things that get upvoted the most end up being only things with mass appeal across the breadth of the user base. From past experience we know this is by and large rage-bait.

    Of course this can be mitigated to an extent by carefully curating what you're blocking and subscribed to. Furthermore defederating can effect this but I'm not yet knowledgeable enough to guess how effective.

  • Fixed my washing machine today!
  • Possibly but what would ground someone better than the earth. I suppose if you were holding the water line and were standing on the ground (dirt basement?) without shoes. Or if you were grabbing two different things.

    That being said I concede that the water line might not be continuous to the ground. Which would be bad.

    Unfortunately I found two sources that conflict.

  • Fixed my washing machine today!
  • If you're sure that the wall outlet is properly grounded, you could try running a grounding wire (8 Gauge Copper) from the washing machine case/shell to a cold water pipe. Depending on your area its probably no longer up to code but barring a few situations it should work. It should go without saying, but this only works if the water pipe is metal...

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