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is this the right way to establish boundaries with my nosy coworkers at the hospital?
  • I can't image HR getting a complaint that you aren't making small talk, and saying "That's outrageous! We'll demand his medical records right now!"

    HR exists to keep the company from getting sued, and I think there's a lot less risk for them to tell one employee "He doesn't want to talk to you, deal with it." vs demanding medical records for a non-work-role related issue.

  • is this the right way to establish boundaries with my nosy coworkers at the hospital?
  • You said you were out sick for 4 weeks? Do they know why? Maybe you could spin that, say "sorry, I got some scarring in my throat and talking can make it worse, so I really need to only talk about work or I'll be up all night in pain". Or something like that.

    Or you could try "sorry, I like working with you, and I know I've talked in the past, but I need to admit that I have Asperger's/autism, and trying to make small talk is very stressful for me, so I hope you're not offended but I feel like I'm going to burn out unless I make some changes like sticking to only work-oriented discussions from now on. Thank you for your understanding."

    Bonus points if you type that up and hand it to people, like you can't even tell it to then directly.

    I know both my answers are "lie in a way that makes you look abnormal" which you may feel like isn't something you should have to do. Which is true. But you want to minimize them thinking you're judging them, and they KNOW you are able to talk, so the best way I see is to make them think it's a problem you have, not about them.

    🤷‍♂️ Good luck!

  • What's the most likely end of mankind and our world as we know it?
  • I vote starvation. I think a big percent of the world will starve, with a few countries holding out. A bit later I think all those people will starve too, with only like 20 billionaires surviving. And then when THEY run out of food a few years later, I dunno, they'll OD on drugs?

  • Man with carload of weapons and ‘hit list’ that included Biden, Obama and Clinton gets years in prison
  • It does sound crazy, but some of their echo chambers have spent YEARS repeating two conflicting messages 1) we need to use violence to "fix" the country and 2) anyone who actually tries to organize any activity is an FBI member trying to arrest people. It's true that a sane person still wouldn't try to go kill politicians by themselves, but it's no surprise to me that some of those members eventually do come to the "I am the only person who can fix this" conclusion.

  • What's something you want to stop doing but can't actually stop?
  • To get out of those spirals, I just remind myself that I've probably forgotten hundreds of things other people probably regret saying/doing, and odds are most people probably forgot mine. Even if I'm sure someone didn't forget it, I doubt they ever think about it anymore.

  • Riven | Official Launch Trailer | Available June 25th
  • Looks gorgeous, like the original. I'm curious if it'll be harder than the original, being in full 3D. With the ability to freely run around everywhere, it might be easier to miss something than if you only jumped between predetermined points. Maybe not, I can't remember if everything important in Riven was visually distinctive, or if there are things hidden in the background that are easy to overlook.

  • How Trump's deny-everything strategy could hurt him at sentencing
  • Even if he played Sorry, when he knocked someone back to start when they were on the home stretch, he probably STILL wouldn't even say "Soooooorrrryyyy!" in a super sarcastic voice, like you are supposed to do.

  • Side of bed debate - Which side is left?
  • Ah, but as you say, people only care when they're "going to" lay in it, meaning they're not in the bed yet. Once you're in bed, you pretty much never need to specify the left or right side, you can say "shit, i spilled a drink on your side!"

    So, since we only care about left and right sides while we're not in bed, I say who cares about the in-bed perspective. What matters is how it is oriented while you're standing up and looking at it. So that's how I'd assign left and right side.

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