I have, on a few occasions, rebooted my reading habit from traveling by airplane.
I have found that if I do everything I can to feel as good as possible before a flight, and bring a book in my carry on, it's one of the rare situations that there is nothing pulling me away from reading. I went somewhere for work last month and I finished 2 books on that trip. That made me really happy and motivated to keep it alive.
I didn't downvote you, I think you offered a thoughtful critique of the question.
Even if parties have wildly different objectives or winning conditions, if they didn't have to compete for the same resources then they could cooperate or at least ignore each other. That wouldn't be true if it were a race to finish first, but in that case they've started competing for the resource of time.
Maybe some folks thought it was a cop out answer, since I was seeking new perspectives rather than a reason to not ask for them? But, I think your response can help guide responses to even more extreme examples than some potentially topical ones by taking you up on your challenge.
Interesting, if that's what it means in this context it would be a big relief. But that isn't what any of the reporting from either side is indicating.
First I want to apologize somehow I didn't register "ex", and parts of my comment therefore made no sense.
Do you feel physically unsafe to confront him? If not, I think you're within your right to flat out say "you don't live here anymore and you need to pack now and then leave".
He's your ex. Nobody owes (or is owed) any interpersonal relationship from anyone else, nor any favors or support.
You already know all this though.
If you do feel threatened by him, I am always skeptical about involving police, but you have the best angle for that judgement call, maybe you should get on it. I hope there's space for you to give him a chance not to need that though. Involving the police only due to being timid I think would be an irresponsible play.
Do you have a trusting relationship with any mutual friends that can help you mediate and navigate this?
No matter what you do, it's going to have to happen, I don't see any sense in waiting. You need to be able to take care of yourself and move your life forward. There are only so many years you're alive... Don't give him another 2.
Nice. I tore out my weird rotten cabinets last spring..my plan is to try my hand at building custom cabinets here. I know it will probably cost me more in time and frustration and possibly even materials and tools than ordering some, but it's something I want to try.
I answered you from my inbox rather than the thread, so I didn't notice you weren't the same person I was responding to. I figured Eliza was a character in their novel 🤦.
I guess now I wish I didn't sound like a chat bot.
That is really stressful and sad. Try to be there for her but also keep in mind what is and is not inside your (and her) sphere of influence. But you can't give yourself away for her. I hope she pulls through soon.
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I have, on a few occasions, rebooted my reading habit from traveling by airplane.
I have found that if I do everything I can to feel as good as possible before a flight, and bring a book in my carry on, it's one of the rare situations that there is nothing pulling me away from reading. I went somewhere for work last month and I finished 2 books on that trip. That made me really happy and motivated to keep it alive.