Waldelfe @ Waldelfe @feddit.org

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I had a coworker who told us every winter that "There always used to be winters with little to no snow, the alarmists just make that into a big deal." and every summer that "There always have been hot summers." When pointing out that he is saying that every year and when did he have 3-4 hot summers in a row in his childhood, he'd just say "oh it's just 3 summers. Shit happens. It's no big deal and doesn't mean anything." (And the year after that it was just 4 summers and the year after that he denied it was even that hot 5 years ago.)

Complaining about "redditism" on a website that is built to look and feel like old reddit is a bit weird. Oh no, someone made a post and another person commented. That's just like reddit.

How about we don't throw out the baby with the bathwater and if something from reddit was helpful we have our own version of it.

Wenn das denn funktionieren würde. Ich habe zum Beispiel in meinem DHL Konto einen Zustellhinweis hinterlegt, nicht bei einem bestimmten Nachbarn abzugeben. Wird regelmäßig ignoriert.

See that's the neat part: since it's not an organization, you can just call anyone and everyone Antifa and lock them up. How would they prove their innocence?

Hutmuseum in Andijk, Noordholland. (Eigentlich eine Privatsammlung, die für die Öffentlichkeit zugänglich ist.)

Ich svhaue mir gerne die Sehenswürdigkeiten an, ich mache aber auch oft etwas ähnliches wir zuhause. Im letzten Urlaub in den Niederlanden haben mein Mann und ich uns eine DnD Gruppe vor Ort gesucht, die auch spontan Leute für einen Abend aufgenommen haben. Wir schauen auch schonmal nach Brettspieletreffen vor Ort. Da lernt man dann nette Leute kennen. Außerdem schaue ich mir lieber ein gutes Museum vor Ort in Ruhe an, als 10 Sehenswürdigkeiten abzuklappern. Wir haben auch schon interessante kleine Museen entdeckt wie ein interaktives Dampfmuseum. Wenn du nicht das klassische Sightseeing magst ("Ah, cool, ne Kirche") findest du vielleicht trotzdem Aktivitäten, die dich interessieren.

The name and character are from a children's book and for that it's a fine name.

I don't know Latino Trump voters, but I know immigrant AfD voters here in Germany and I assume their reasoning is similar:

1. They don't mean us, they mean only the criminal immigrants. I work here and speak German.
2. Well they could never go after all of us, that would be stupid! Entire industries depend on immigration and would collaps. So you see how their rhetoric is exaggerated.
3. All politicians lie, that's what politicians do. They never do what they say, so the AfD will never act against immigrants.
4. They are against gay people! I don't care about the rest. I habe a good job and speak fluent German, so I'll be fine. As long as they go after gay people, I don't care for any other policy.

And so on. The point is, every single non-native or non-native-looking voter of fascist parties thinks they are the exception.

"Was schöne Frauen bevorzugen, ist bestimmt gut. Und was gut ist, soll man kaufen."

Unschlagbare Logik.

Some countries make it really hard to give up citizenship. It took my husband 15 years, 3 lawyers and a lot of money. He started the process as soon as he turned 18 because he wanted citizenship of the country he lives in, but his country of birth did everything to slow down the process. Some countries also don't have a working beaurocracy.

Don't think that's the case for Ireland, but I know several stories like that.

Ich weiß nicht, ob denen das klar ist... Die meisten denken vermutlich, dass nur die "Richtigen" rausgeworfen werden. In deren Köpfen bleiben dann ja immernoch die, die die ganze Arbeit machen.

Wir haben ja mal auf der Arbeit durchgezählt wer alles wegfällt, wenn jeder nicht in Deutschland geborene das Land verlässt. War gut die Hälfte. Viele sprechen noch nichtmal die Muttersprache ihres Geburtslandes, weil sie hier aufgewachsen sind. Braucht mir auch keiner zu erzählen, dass "die nicht gemeint sind". Sieht man ja in den USA, wie sowas in der Praxis läuft.

But then men should also be allowed to have long hair and pull it up.

This just reminded me of the "self-defense training for girls" we had in 8th or 9th grade. It boiled down to "Every man potentially wants to hurt you." Someone walking behind you? Turn around and yell at them to stop it. A man standing too close to you? Yell "Back off".

Of course the situations were all mundane and it was pretty clear you couldn't just yell at or confront any man that comes within ~3 meters of you. So all that "training" did was give me the uneasy feeling that if something happened, it would be my fault. I didn't preemptively yell at the man within the first few seconds of seeing him.

Although I have to say it doesn't make sense there either. Either short hair is necessary, than everybody should have it. Or it isn't. Gendered hair styles are stupid.

Just from my experience I can tell you that relationships that only happen online are always more flaky than ones in the real world. If I understand it correctly, you never met this person. At the and of the day, you never knew what they are really like or how much of what they told you is true.

I have found good friends online, but we met up quickly and our friendship developed mostly offline. My advice for you would be to focus on finding friends offline or online friends who live close enough to meet up IRL.

The other thing I noticed is that you seem to have made yourself and your happiness completely dependent on that person. That is not only a bad idea because one person can never fill all your emotional needs, it can also feel very overwhelming for the person being relied upon. Maybe they had their own problems and carrying your package on top of their own became too much.

You cannot change her decision, but you can reflect on your behaviour that contributed: you accused your friend of not caring for you when they where probably busy IRL. You used that person as an unpaid therapist and when they didn't "perform" the way you wanted, you "said things you regret". You say you don't know what happened, but you can try to find out. Maybe go through your chathistory, read your message and try to see the conversation from their side: Did you only vent about your feelings? Were the conversations very negative? Did your friend have the possibility to vent their frustration or was it mostly about you?

Lastly, you say you don't want to see a psychologist or therapist, but honestly that's exactly what you should do. Unlike your ex-friend a therapist is schooled to handle other peoples problems. They can listen to you and actually give you advice without being overwhelmed. A friend can listen to you, but if you put all your problems on them and are dependet on them it will crush them.

Removing a tampon that isn't sufficiently soaked is pretty uncomfortable because it irritates the vagina. You also should change the tampon every few hours to avoid toxic shock symptom. If the tampon is too big, it won't be soaked enough and very uncomfortable to remove.

My father was 41 when I was born and just from my personal experience I wouldn't do that to a child. My father was very active and played sports regularly, but still when I was in elementary school he was already too old for many things. Accidents happened and at that age the body doesn't really heal well from injuries. His back hurt too much to pick me up, no riding in daddy's shoulders. A lot of "Please be more quiet", "Don't be so wild" etc in my childhood. I always resented that, because I saw other dads being very active and going out, playing, running with their kids the same age as me. No matter how active your husband is now, his body won't tolerate injuries or sleep deprivation as much anymore.

When I went to university my parents told me they wouldn't be able to support me as much as my older brother, because my father was retiring soon. Have you thought of the financial aspects? If your husband retires around 65, your child will be in his early teens. Will you be able to provide money for school trips, college funds etc.?

You also have a high chance of any health related problem quickly becoming exponentially worse with age. As I said, my father was very active and played in a local basketball team. He had a knee injury and needed surgery when he was around 50, so I was still in elementary school. It was a minor surgery and would have been no problem for someone younger, but at his age it never fully healed and kicked off a lot of related health issues. He visibly deteriorated after that and within 10 years he became slower in moving and thinking. He was still as active as possible, but that wasn't very much. Being a teenager whose father always demanded peace and quiet, who needed things to be repeated several times because his hearing was failing, wasn't very fun.

You will deprive your child of a lot. Their father won't be there for them in many key ways that other parents are: he'll be too old to help with moving to the first appartment, too out of touch and tired when the question of buying the first car comes up. There's a good chance he won't be there anymore for the wedding. And you aren't doing yourself a favor either when you're going to have to take care of an aging husband and a young adult who just left the nest and still needs support in your 50s.

And all that is if you can get pregnant quickly, which is also getting unlikely given his age.

Oh wow. Yeah, I'm pretty sure that wouldn't be allowed.

Yes, basically it has to be a real name. If you choose a name that isn't common you have to prove that it's a name and not a made up word. That can be for example by providing examples of people with that name or historical documents that show it's a person's name.

Also, you can't name your child something that could lead to ridicule or otherwise harm the child. So even if "Penis" is a perfectly normal name in your language, you wouldn't be allowed to register a child with that name here.