16 year olds are physically indistinguishable from 26 year olds. With a few changes in hair, make-up, and wardrobe 16 can pass for 26 and vice versa. People sexually aroused by 16 year old bodies are also aroused by 26 year old bodies, and vice versa. This is just an obvious fact.
What exactly do you think I'm inexperienced at?
There's a difference between attractive and attractive :-D
Hetero men are attracted to boobs and hips, female secondary sexual characteristics. They are sexually aroused by that. This is simple biology.
The social things, the personality of a potential romantic partner is a completely different thing. That's mostly not biology. That's psychology.
My local priest is sexy as fuck. but I don't want to date him. He's a priest. and I'm married. See the difference?
That's absurd. If teens were easy to manipulate they'd be doing all my yardwork for me for free :-)
They are notoriously stubborn, which is the opposite of easy to manipulate.
And their brains are much faster than older adults'. i.e. they learn everything much quicker. In some ways they are the smartest humans.
If they've been infantilized, and constantly told they're idiots, then, hey... take a minute to learn what a self-fulfilling prophecy is :-D
Plenty of countries all around the world all throughout history have respected the bodily autonomy of young adults aged 14-18 and they all did just fine. It's very strange that only now in the USA post 2010 are they suddenly brain-dead idiots. Hmmmmmm. Bizarre outlier.
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EVERYONE is running around screaming "Pedo! Groomer! Pedo! Groomer! Pedo! Groomer!"
The Cons think the pedos and groomers are gays and perverts. The Libs think the pedos and groomers are fundamentalist white men.
but all of that is noise. NONE of that has anything to do with real pedophilia, and "grooming" is pure fear-mongering bullshit.
The Trads don't think that a young woman, say 13-years-old needs protection from a good white fundamentalist Christian man who wants to marry her. So for them her father's permission is enough.
They think that all teens desperately need protection from homos and transvestites who will convert the next generation to the worship of sodomy.
In short fathers must control the sex lives of teens.
The Libs know damned well that dangerous homos aren't canvasing high schools for potential converts. But they are terrified that a mythical "sex predator" will brainwash ("groom") their sweet innocent 18-year-old and "abuse" (break her heart) him or her.
Normal hetero men who find teen women sexy (this is 100% of het men) are therefore very dangerous.
So they believe that the law, cops, prosecutors, and judges must control the sex lives of young adults (aka teens).
The real solution is to respect the bodily autonomy of young adults aged 14-18. Let's get our laws off their bodies. Ultimately they decide anyway, and that's why trying to give control of their sex lives to fathers or cops always causes far more harm than good.
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When you're baking bread and you make multiple mistakes, and it's getting worse and worse, sometimes you have to throw it all away and start fresh.
Social change doesn't work like that.
Dr Robert Epstein does a great job of diagnosing the problem. He clearly describes what's happening and explains why it's bad. He fails however to give a practical prescription for fixing the malady.
In his interview with Tom Woods he says straight out that we need to wipe the slate clean and start from scratch. This will obviously never happen.
I believe, however, that we can make real change. We can push back, fight hard, and reverse the trend. The specifics will be debated forever. But the principles need to be acknowledged and upheld.
The main thing we need is an attitude adjustment.
Here are some steps:
We can go back to calling teenagers young adults. (yes, they really are young adults. this is basic scientific fact)
We can stop conflating the terms minor and child. This means we stop pretending that laws decide who is a child and who isn't.
We can stop infanilizing teenagers. We can stop calling them idiots and/or claiming they have bad brains. We can treat them with respect. We can give them a chance.
We can lower the age of majority to 16. Older teens need basic legal rights. All throughout history young adults have risen to meet the challenges presented to them. Legal adulthood at 16 will be no different.
States that have added driving restrictions on minors must remove them. Discrimination based on age is simply wrong. End double standards. The same rules must apply to all.
Let 16 year olds work and drive just like all other adults in all 50 states.
Lower the drinking age to 16.
Lower the enlistment age in the Armed Forces to 16.
Decriminalize the sex lives of older teens and drastically reduce the penalties for statutory "rape" when the "victim" obviously consented. Yes, this means believe victims even when they contradict the dogma sex-phobic Puritans are trying to impose on them. (plenty of countries have good sensible age of consent laws. let's emulate them)
Workers' rights are not about age. All workers of all ages should be treated with respect and have safe, healthy workplaces and decent pay.
Child labor laws will of course always stay in place. We can make sure however that kids who want to be active in the workplace have some opportunities to do so.
Gun safety and/or gun rights are not a function of age. Multiple laws for multiple age groups solves nothing. End double standards. The same rules should apply to all.
Mandatory schooling will not end any time soon. We can take concrete steps to make schools better, more flexible, and much less oppressive.
The entire foster care system must be reformed from the ground up. Plenty of countries do this far better than we do. We can learn from them. (in addition, doubling or tripling the minimum wage would do more than anything else to prevent abuse of young people. given the opportunity to support oneself financially means abusers have far less power over their victims (further benefit: when regular work pays a decent wage this is much less pressure/incentive to do sex work))
Teen-phobic Bigotry Laws like age-based curfews must be repealed. It's appalling that anyone ever thought that was acceptable.
On an individual level:
When people use phrases like "young girl" ask them what they mean by that. It's very likely they are inadvertently using language that infantilizes young women. "Would you call a 22-year-old man a 'young boy'? Aha, so it's demeaning, ageist, science denial, and sexist."
When people say "teenage boy" or "teen girl" correct them. Let them know that teenagers are young men and women, and that only science denial, or ignorance, can justify their inadvertent bigotry.
When people say "women and girls" ask if the people they mean are all post-pubescent. If they are, point out that the word "women" is enough.
Call out bigotry against young people. Don't let bigots get away with saying "Teenagers, they're all shitty." Don't let people brag about how they were morons at age 14 without letting them know their flex makes them look like assholes. In real life and on social media, tell people that hating on young adults (aka teens) is just as bad as hating on homosexuals.
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Journalists wildly exaggerate how much neurology knows about brains.
but assuming that a good prefrontal cortex is helpful for good decision making,
a soldier occupying a country w/ a hostile population where he doesn't speak the language, has a desperate need for one.
If the "prefrontal cortex" myth is true, how on earth did we send 18 year olds to war in Iraq, Afghanistan, and Vietnam?
There is no job in the world that requires more rational thinking than making life or death decisions effecting civilians, all your buddies, and yourself.
but no world government has ever said that in combat they'll only have men over 25 years of age.
Never.
Not once in thousands of years of this obvious problem, has anyone noticed the problem, written about it, or tried to fix it.
(hint: it's bullshit)
but when it comes to sex,
women under 25 who decide to date a rich, famous, good-looking movie star
are immediately diagnosed with the young stupid prefrontal cortex syndrome.
Having romantic relationships
is so much harder than living in a war zone
and being sent into combat every day and trying not to kill civilians, or get killed, or let your comrades get killed...
Gotta have full brain development before you kiss a hot guy. I mean OMG.
#SPR860
They are an invasive species. They should be exterminated.