Minneapolis mayor calls remote workers ‘losers’ who sit at home with a ‘nasty cat blanket, diddling on their laptop’
Thrillhouse @ Thrillhouse @lemmy.world Posts 14Comments 397Joined 2 yr. ago
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To be fair the correctional system in its current form in North America is primarily constructed and controlled by capitalist interests.
Maybe a card in the mail?
My question is: What’s in giving these interviews and making these statements for him? He’s exited the role, he’s made himself clear about the stance he took when he was in the role. Why continue to talk?
When I leave a job and go somewhere new I’m not obsessed with dragging my old workplace.
Thank you.
There are a few considerations:
- This is a small town. My philosophy is to be friendly with everyone and not burn bridges. Being friendly doesn’t mean being friends or going to coffee. It could be that we might end up working together some day or being at a party. In small towns you do need to exercise some social grace to make sure you don’t hurt others’ feelings.
- The amount of times women say “no thank you” directly and still get interrogated by a series of why not questions. This is so common. I shouldn’t have to rationalize, defend or explain why I said no.
- Then, women get into a situation where we really firmly have to say NO and suddenly we’re a bitch if we say that to the wrong person and open to violence, threats or stalking in the worst cases.
- Also, we are socialized from a young age to be “nice and polite.” That doesn’t just go away. It’s like why don’t men talk about their emotions? It’s a social structure - it doesn’t mean it’s right, or that we shouldn’t work to change it.
Oh I have friends of different genders - I know how it works.
This person, for me, has made it clear they want to relitigate high school and started, without any invitation or explanation, randomly trash talking someone we went to high school with. I didn’t respond. Like what am I supposed to say to that? It’s not a positive person I want to hang with. I think they got stuck in our small town and are fixated on the past.
I think when I say I don’t have time because of personal issues and explain what those issues are (impending death in the family), that is a clear sign to the other person to not bother me until I reach out, especially since they are just a former classmate. We never really hung out.
There is a bit of social “take the hint” skill required, and people need to be aware of the general vibes they are giving. I don’t want to hear negativity if I don’t have a previously established relationship with you. I think some people try to jump the gun on friendship. In the early stages, as acquaintances, if I’m being nice it doesn’t mean I want to hear about all of your problems.
Establishing a trusting, reciprocal friendship takes time and I think people who have social challenges are often not aware that they are coming on too strong and too fast.
I think the point that what felt like friendly conversation to OP may have felt intrusive to her is so important.
I’ve been dealing with this a little myself recently and an old classmate from High School. This person keeps messaging me every few months on Facebook, has asked to go for coffee, knows I am in a relationship. I told them hey I’m dealing with a lot personally - I don’t have time to meet up. I’m not really interested in meeting up, but they still keep messaging. I don’t respond and they still message. I want to have good relationships with people from my hometown but what do I do? I thought I made myself clear in the nicest way possible. Initially I was ok to say hi from time to time but this person has come on too strong and too fast.
I worry that maybe this woman felt she was making herself clear and OP was unable/unaware/unwilling to read the signs because they were impaired. Rather than saying her actions to seek help from the institution were “austere”, perhaps OP should accept that she felt she had to seek help because the actions were threatening to her. Was it too much and too fast? Did she feel cornered and that she couldn’t exit the conversations? Were they deep conversations every day when a wave in the hallway would have been sufficient? And especially something that I feel was missed in the initial text - was there touching at all? Impaired people might feel like they’re touching in a friendly way but it can be extremely intrusive/unwanted to someone who is not impaired.
Merci pour cet article. C’est un bon sommaire des issues et pourquoi les agriculteurs font cette lutte. J’étais curieuse de la cause de ces démonstrations. Les nouvelles en anglais ici au Canada n’en parlent pas. Je m'excuse s'il y a des erreurs, le français est ma langue seconde.
Fuck these guys for real. I had just set up a raspberry pi and nfc tags. I’m not buying their shitty ecosystem even harder now.
There’s a concept that we studied in literature in University about never truly being able to go home again after you grow up. We were reading an Alice Munro short story collection but Tom Wolfe famously wrote about the topic.
If people are going to Twitter expecting nuanced, perfectly balanced and fleshed out essays then that’s an internet literacy problem. Men give all sorts of opinions on the internet about how women should be, dress, look, have sex, etc - I don’t see how this is any different.
I’d agree with her opinion in the context that it’s the same for any friendship, or relationship honestly. If you are so sensitive and vulnerable with me all the time that it’s unbalanced and I have no room to have and express my own emotions then it is not a friendship that is worth keeping. It’s not black and white be a stone or be a puddle. It’s that relationships are built on empathy and empathy is an exchange. Just as I hold space to help you through your issues, you too need to hold space for me.
There was a post on I saw on Lemmy a while ago of an OP asking for friends in a local community because they lacked friends due to a laundry list of baggage and mental health issues - they felt that friendship could solve those. The issue is why would anyone see that and be like wow that is a fun positive person I want to be around, I’m totally equipped to handle all of that. No - the solution was why doesn’t that OP go to a therapist or support group and work on those issues first where it is possible to find community related to those particular issues.
The basis of any relationship can’t be one party constantly being the pump-up person and emotional cheerleader for the other party, which is a role that women fall into A LOT. This goes both ways obviously no matter what your gender, but women in my experience tend to spread out their emotional support needs across a larger network - friends, family, therapists etc. It’s actually become something my sister and I have noticed with our guy friends - they like hanging out with us because we do talk about our emotions, and they feel freer to talk about theirs. However, no one person monopolizes the conversation.
I have another friend who every time she shows up to a party she talks about all of her past trauma. It’s a lot. We have sat with her on multiple occasions but the friend group now has to move her along from talking about it because it can easily spiral and become the basis for the whole night. This person needs therapy in a big way and we have encouraged this. But if the relationship is one sided and you’re not having fun and getting anything out of it, what do you do? How do you proceed if this person won’t also follow through to do the work on themselves? A quote that struck me lately: “Mental health is not your fault, but it is your responsibility.”
If men are getting out of toxic masculinity and are not equipped to be in a healthy relationship they need to seek therapy for help with that. It is above any partner’s pay grade to shepherd them through that alone if they do not also have the support of a therapist.
How many times on the internet do I see “Your wife/gf isn’t having sex? Break up with her!” There could be many reasons for this. If there is a libido mismatch, if there’s something mentally or physically wrong. If the non-sexual partner isn’t willing to do the work on themselves to arrive at a compromise, isn’t seeking outside help, and then wants the sexual partner to do all of the work 100% of the time, then yeah what exactly do people expect the sexual partner to do other than break up?
I think this statement about emotional labour is being misinterpreted and knee jerk reactioned. People are getting angry and jumping to conclusions about men not being allowed to have emotions, but that isn’t it.
Of course partners are supposed to support each other. What this is talking about is someone who prioritizes their emotional needs over the other person the majority of the time to the detriment of the relationship. Your partner is there to be your partner - the role of full time therapist is above their pay grade. And I’m wondering whether this is highlighted as an issue because men are less likely to seek therapy where needed and rely on their partner for this. Helping your partner through issues is one thing but sometimes it’s healthy and necessary to zoom out and get perspective from a professional. This happened in my relationship and I had to honestly and kindly say I don’t have the expertise to help you with this issue. I’m willing to hold space for you and sit with you as you navigate it but you do need the help of a professional to unpack this.
Have you ever had a friend who every time you hang out with and the whole time it’s them talking about themselves and their issues to the point where they don’t even show any interest in you. You’re effectively acting like that person’s therapist 100% of the time.
I had an ex brother in law like this. He had many mental health challenges but everything was 100% about him all the time for the whole family. His likes, his dislikes, his issues, his interests. He’d ask a short how are you and dive right into all his shit. If the event or conversation didn’t revolve around him, he would leave and disengage. It sucks the air out of the room and it’s fucking exhausting for everyone.
Yes but I have no clue what to do about it.
It’s an assumption that intelligent life unknown to us is space faring.
Oh sorry I thought we were buying quality products for life in this community, how silly of me.
It’s insulated VERY well - that is one of the brand’s specialties.
What about a Zojirushi electric hot water boiler? Hot water every day on demand!
This is the one we have had since 2020 and we love it. 2 more friends have bought it based on our recommendation.
Just admit you’re queer already, Mike Johnson. It’s ok.
US files war crime charges against Russians accused of torturing an American in the Ukraine invasion
Jump
You just know Russia’s statement back to the US about this is going to be “no u.”
People just don’t want to spend what little time we have on this earth commuting, paying $10 for a shitty Subway sandwich for lunch, and listening to Elderly Manager Brian talk about his glory days to a captive audience.