This is amazing. I had never seen this before. Thank you for sharing.
Not being coy: can you help me understand the word choice of "opportune"?
I've recently become fascinated by history and the underpinned stories that really get to the answers to the WHY questions.
I logically know this, but I just can't seem to get past it. Hence the question as the title.
I've invested quite heavily in therapy, both individual and group in the past couple of years.
One of the biggest things that I've come to realize is that despite my PO parents saying I was their priority they failed to move towards me when I needed them most. It's their lack of attunement that hurts.
Yep. Distance is different than cutting him off. I have a ton of guilt. We recently had our first child and he hasn't met his grandchild.
It's not. I promise. I recently made this account because my others were too identifying of me.
Thanks for your empathy and understanding.
I try to talk about this in therapy but I still seem stuck. I wake up in the middle of the night angry, sad, and crying.
Even trying to set boundaries and communicate them to him leads me to rage and sadness. For years I didn't recognize that when I've spent any time with him it usually takes several days to come back to being fully regulated. I could probably recover faster now that I've been to therapy, but I'm frozen in fear that he'll try to use his wealth to try to control me and the decisions I make for my family.
I've been noticing a recurring sentiment among Americans - frustration and disillusionment with the economy. Despite having gone to school, earned a solid education, and worked hard, many feel they can't get ahead or even come close to the standard of living their parents enjoyed.
I'm curious - is this experience unique to the United States, or do people in other countries share similar frustrations?
Do people in Europe, Australia, Canada, or elsewhere feel like they're stuck in a rut, unable to achieve financial stability or mobility despite their best efforts?
Are there any countries or regions that seem to be doing things differently, where education and hard work can still lead to a comfortable life?
Let's hear from our international community - what's your experience with economic mobility (or lack thereof) in your country?"
I haven't spoken to my father in almost two years, and it’s been a painful and complicated journey. One of the pivotal moments for me was on my wedding day. I didn’t receive any message from him—not even a simple acknowledgment. I had hoped to hear from him, and his silence cut deeply, making me realize how distant we had become.
I feel a lot of anger and sadness because it seems like we will never have the relationship I’ve always wanted. I long for a connection where he takes interest in my life and my choices, even when they differ from his own. Instead, I often feel dismissed or disregarded, especially when it comes to my boundaries. For example, whenever politics comes up, I feel disrespected because he tends to push against the limits I’ve tried to set.
There's also a significant element of fear in our dynamic. I worry that if I attempt to rebuild our relationship, he might use his financial resources as a means of control over me and my family. This fear makes it hard for me to see a path forward that feels safe and genuine.
Right now, I’m in a space where I’m trying to determine IF or how I want to re-establish any sort of relationship with him. I want to find out if it’s possible for us to interact in a way that respects each other’s boundaries, takes a real interest in one another’s lives, and supports each other’s choices—even when we disagree. It’s a difficult and ongoing process, but I’m trying to be honest with myself about what I need and what I’m willing to work towards.