i didnt know about them aswell untill last year. this year the populationnof those exploded. with current global change we can find a new kind of insect every year now.
why did i waste so much time dealing with my mental health when i could just instead go to lemmy where strangers can tell me how easy it is to deal with. Seriously is changing persoective so hard? as said before i dont even ask for help, or for anyone to change their lives. yet people get so pissed of by the notion that hypersexualisation might be hurtful to one (1) person. (it hurts more but in this thread i feel to be alone on this side)
ill link this short video, since it is more well put then i ever could: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2IrG68YTMjo
I dont ask for much. literally just wanna follow my sfw hobbies without beeing forced to confront my inner demons every day. I agree that i should "get over it". but maybe you dont realise the scope. this is at best a years long therapy process that in the end might never pay off.
And quite frankly are you also telling war veterans to get a grip, because people like fire work? are you telling parents to stop crying about child protection because if we dont sexualise cartoon characters online we would cease to exist?
i dont even ask to be helped i just wanted to rant. i am aware that 99% of people dont give a damn about trauma. why be so confrontational towards me?
wow. you must have many friends.
still its nice to know someone cares ^^
yeah i know. i just like to dream of a world where i could live without it. Also i really apprechite lemmy for that. its other sites i struggle with. sites with "cool userfriendly algorithms"
yeah, mine too ^^
i am looking since ereydsterday. eversince the pandemic waitlists are months to years in my country. i moved any couldnt continue with ly old doc. havent found a new one for two years now
First of i am very sex repulsed. It triggers some trauma (i am very sure i am ace anyway tho).
Seeing people sexualising themselfs or others is the worst for me. it can literally end the day for me, because i have to stay in bed for the rest of the day trying to deal with the emotions. So naturally i try to avoid that. all my friends are very suportive. On the internet i obviously dont go to places where such things might be. today i way watching roadrage videos. should be save enough right? ofc not. because some people gotta but sexualising content literally everywhere. The otherday i looked for chess openings. found a guide who ??? sexualised the chess pieces???
i am just tired. nsfw already has the majority of internet traffic. cant i just have some small portion where i can feel save?
I know i am an extreme case but it just feels so darn isolating. i am scared of joining any discord server. i used to my partner check subreddits (thankfull lemmy seems to be less bad in this regard) before joining. the internet gives potential for so much community especially for an introvert like me. but beeing so very sex repulsed locks me out of those communitys right away.
Thanks for reading. I dont think there is help or a solution. I just needed to rant to someone.
depends on the order. if you build abs on testosterone (t) then go on estrogen (e) then you just can with relatively easily upkeep them. if you went on e before working out, its just as hard as for cis women. so hardcore cis women body builder go on t for a short time (some weeks) to get big muscles easier before retuning to e.
just wanna add that it is easier to get them with testosterone. i think it makes sense to make that distinction here since there are literal cis women body builder who take it as performance enhancing drugs.
oh thank god. seeing this post on the second and it made me question taste as a general concept xD
Naja, abgesehen davon, dass der Tipp sich nicht bestätigte (die fesgenommenen hatte keinen Haftbefehl gegen sich) und Schusswaffen eingesetzt wurden.
Ich stimme zu, dass der post faules whataboutism ist. Aber es stimmt schon, dass öffentlichwirksam rechtsextremisten weniger aufmerksamkeit und "gewalt" abbekommen als linksextremisten. Was etwas schade ist wenn doch immer versucht wird beide seiten als gleich dar zu stellen.
I think i was in a similar spot before (eventhough it lasted way less years). the problem i realised was, that i put my former partner on a podest. they were my godess/queen or whatever. i realised thats because i was romantacising it way more than it was in reality. I did meet them again after a few years and they seem to have changed. thats when i realised maybe they never changed but i didnt see them for who they are back then with youthfull naivity and rosecolourentainted glasses.
i started to change my mindset, in the sense that i dont need them or any partner for my perfect life. i just need me. i am the most important person in my life now, as it should be. it took time, it took therapy, but i got there and life is better without feeling dependent on such (at least partly) imaginary things.
i hope things turn around for you, and you can enjoy the future. as you said the past cant be changed, but the future can.
Edit: typos
Edit2: my wife has adhd and i love her dearly. just as a reminder that you are lovable too the way you are.
This year i started with a variation of an appletini (i know its not the right glass but the next best thing i had :D) Sour but also sweet with the rim especially. Great experience that i'd recomend ^^
Ingrediences: -brown sugar for the rim -1,5oz vodka -1oz sour apple schnaps -0,5oz lime juice -0,5 teaspoon granulated sugar (in the drink)
I got this one from the book "Tequila Mockingbird" by Tim Federle
I love those colourful birds. i hope they make their home in many more german citys ^^ (and hopefully in mine soon)
Yeah i have basicly no filter. especially audio wise. i listen to all the stuff all the time. and selective hearing is also bad. whatever is loudest, is what i hear the most. sometimes i am envious of people who are able to blend sounds out. sometimes its quite usefull tho ^^ like i dont have to be in the kitchen or the basement to hear when water is boiling or the washing mashine is done. so i guess there are some positives.
THANK YOU! you out into words what i have been struggleing so much to explain. i am diagnosed with social anxiety but i dont feel its quite fitting. i suspect heavily to be autistic, and i relate to your number 2. a lot. i mainly feel anxiety because i know i perform worse. all out of a sudden i cant do things i can do well normally and am quite proficent in, just because someone watches me do it or is just in the same room. im so focused on them and what might go on inside them. this makes spending time doing stuff with other often hard if im not hyperfixating.
ill bring this to my next therapy appointment.
Heyyy, I am so sorry for missing two full weeks, and barely beeing online. Tl;dr: had a bad depressive episode. Yet i still managed to read all new posts and comments in the meantime. i apprechiate all you people very much, even when socialising can be impossible. Love to you all!
A place to chit chat, share whats going on in your life, and generally for people who feel like talking but dont know where.
Hey sorry for the delay. i had no acces to a computer, and the app doesnt give me the ability to pin posts. Have a nice week!
i know this sounds paradox and maybe some will not understand this (yet), but i want to shine a light on some positive side effects of this primarily negative topic.
for me, i feel like social anxiety has made me more empathetic towards my fellow humans. i work as a service worker in sales, and many of my coworkers don't care about the customers and are mostly just annoyed at them. i try to show understanding since i never know what someone is going through and how hard this shopping trip is for them. i have the motto that i want to give people around me more space, and more time to do whatever. however much time they might need. because i know i sometimes need this, and i am very happy when i can see someone who apprechiates it when i don’t pressure them to buy something. i think we all can practice a little more empathy. i imagine without experiencing social anxiety myself i would have less acceptance of other peoples struggles whatever kind that might be.
Hello you beautiful people. I want to start this little experiment where i will pin a megathread each week for talking about your week, share small victories, or discuss your goals for the next week. There are no topic rules to this, any kind of small talk is welcome. :) I figured since some of us might lack a space to share about their daily life, maybe we can use such a place here.
I am mostly looking for healthy ways to cope with stressful situations. what do you do when the panic kicks?
I wanted to create a community i was missing personally. Here people with (or without) social anxiety can discuss the topic, vent, find information or just talk in a safe space.
Link #1 Socialanxiety
Link #2 !socialanxiety@lemmy.blahaj.zone
(hope i did the links correctly ^^") Have a nice day!
Hey people! I just created the hub socialanxiety@lemmy.blahaj.zone since i didn't find a Hub for that yet, and feel like i have relevant experiences and want to help the whole plattform grow. Since i never created a sub on reddit or the like before, i am wondering if there are things i can do to help the Hub grow and reach the people it was designed for?
I think we all had these annoying situations where an uninformed people doesn't know what they are talking about. Do you have any particular one that grinds your gears?
Hello all you beautiful people, I am glad you are here.
Who is this Hub for? This Hub is for anyone who finds modern social life daunting. It's a place to vent, forge low-stakes connections, and most importantly, a secure space to simply be yourself without judgment. Whether you've been officially diagnosed, suspect you may be dealing with these issues, or are simply seeking resources and understanding, this space is here for you.
Who runs this Hub? This Hub is created, moderated by a socialphobe who has spent several years to find their own spot in this world, and wants to help others' find their way in life, so they can feel save and fulfilled.
Why this Hub was created I realise it is a bit ironic to create a space on a social platform for people who struggle with being social. But I still feel it's relevant to have online spaces where people with anxieties can feel safer and can find community, connection and understanding.
So please feel welcome! Since this is a new Hub and not fully formed yet, I am always open to feedback, criticisms and inspirations. Feel free to reach out to me via DM or Post.
I wish everyone a nice time :)