I am happy and sad for you! You are taking so many wonderful steps forward to living your best life but having to cut out someone who is supposed to love and support you no matter what is heart wrenching. Always remember the idiom 'the blood of the coven is thicker than the water of the womb'. i.e. the family you choose will always be more important than the one you were born into. Focus on the good, continue to move forward with your independence, you were going to do it eventually anyway. We will always be here when you need us. Keep being you!
One of the most important things to remember, that really helped me in the beginning, is there is no wrong way to be trans. You do you, whatever that means, as long as you're happy you're doing it right
I struggle with this constantly. I really don't have the dysphoria but I feel so much happier in girlmode. I question it alot, often wonder if I brainwashed myself somehow. But I try to remind myself I've felt this way for a long time.
I have often told others I believe we are all on a sliding gender and sexuality scale, and I'm pretty 50-50 male-female.I'm identifying as bigender for this reason, it's also just easier to be honest. I don't know, maybe I accept the male side because I'm used to it, because I don’t absolutely hate my meat suit. But then again, I'm super happy in girl mode and the more I see all the beautiful woman here and the before and after the more I wonder what I would look like. My mother obvi but still
I'm only out to my wife and a couple of friends, and can't currently girlmode at all because of my living situation. Definitely not ready to leave the house, but I've picked out an outfit for exactly that occasion.
I say all this to let you know you're not alone. It is normal to struggle and question. Just remember, would you have come here and asked the questions if it wasn't real? Why would you choose the difficult and potentially dangerous path if it wasn't real?
Hell yea! Drums are sooo fun and a great place to start. I tried to start with bass but have serious problems with maintaining rhythm. The drums have really helped with understanding rhythm. Keep it up and most importantly have fun!
Thank you for sharing, you have come to the right place! Skirts and dresses definitely feel more exposed than pants for sure. You are so used to that extra fabric right up against your back side. Now the air can freely flow, it almost feels like you're naked. There is definitely a learning curve to it, and if you like the way you look you'll get used to it.
I felt the same way when I donned my first skirt, but as soon as I looked in the mirror I stopped caring. Now it's all about not accidentally flashing people (just my wife for now but still). Learning to fold my skirt underneath me when sitting was step one. Learning to bend at the knees, legs together, back straight was step two. If there's a step three, I haven't learned it yet.
That being said, you don't have to wear skirts or dresses to be feminine. There are tons of options, what's right for me doesn't have to be what's right for you. My wife is a horse girl, all jeans or sweats, tee shirts, hoodies. Doesn't like jewelry, doesn't do makeup. I'm the girly one in our relationship and that's fine. Do what makes you happy, your happiness is all that matters.
Feel free to drop by anytime. We will be here, excited to hear how things are going and to answer any questions you may have!
Girl, same. Totes jelly