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MrSadSack @ MrSadSack @lemmy.world
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What do you do when all of your insecurities are confirmed by your wife?

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  • I'm always up for a good read. Let me know if you happen to remember the title.

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  • I hope I'm not offending you, but you posting this is a cry for help because you know how fucked up it is but are way too close and probably in a little bit of denial. It really fucking sucks but the only way to be happy is to end this relationship.

    You are absolutely not offending me. Yes, I'd say that this has been more a cry into the void than a cry for help. There probably is some degree of denial in there, yes. But there's also the fact that while the situation rhymes with others that are extremely predatory, golddigger things, it is not one. I am very deeply loved. I've been hurt, deeply, but most of the situation is not one where there is someone to blame. Which, makes it worse in some ways because there isn't a concrete "enemy" that can be used to make things feel better, just abstract feelings and mental illness.

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  • Somewhat. They've had to contend when both the undermined confidence and my other meds, which is a challenge. Right now? There's no way in Hel, Hades, or your favored choice of underworld that anything's happening down there. The pills will only work if you're capable of arousal, which I'm not particularly at this anhedonic juncture.

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  • Huge red flag bro. That’s not a fuck up on your part, that is a reasonable question to ask at this point in your relationship after everything that has transpired.

    In this case, it's not as red flag as it would seem. She has huge guilt baggage from having cheated on her high school boyfriend who was an alcoholic who neglected her physically and emotionally. On my end, it was the insecurity that I was feeling picking the worst case scenario that I could think of and using it for emotional self-harm, without caring about how deeply the implied accusation would hurt her.

    Hugs brother. I hope you find happiness soon, life is too short to spend it with someone not emotionally invested in the relationship.

    Thank you very much! And really, that's one of the worst parts of the situation. She IS emotionally invested and is overcome by shame and guilt over what's happened. Knowing that it's happening but because she is choosing it or because she genuinely isn't interested in me kinda fucks me up more. At least if it were willful, I'd have someone concrete to blame.