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  • There are lots of things in the LGBTQ+ community. It's very complex, I'm not saying it's bad, but it's complicated. I just want to emphasize that when talking to others who have lost their lives, they tend to focus on their personal struggles with their gender identities and how they express that to others. This is not what is being said about me and I think it's important to keep the conversation from the tragedy.

  • I agree. I think some of them probably thought they were the victim, then they started questioning the whole thing. I think a lot of them were just confused about what was going on, then they became angry or whatever and realized that they had to break down. They might even come to terms with it. Sometimes it can be hard for them to accept the bigger picture and to remember, but I think some of them might have been just so fucking drunk and out of control that they don't realize it was all a huge mistake. If you look back at those posts on r/askgay, the majority of those comments were downvotes that they hadn't seen yet so they could't comprehend the bigger picture, even if it was true. I think there's a lot of stuff we can all do to avoid this sort of thing. I hope that helps. I'm a little frustrated by this. I know I can never change my perception of myself, but I'd like to remember that I have more empathy for other people than myself, and that I don't have to tell them every single detail. I do think some people are just way too easily triggered, though. Maybe not all, but it's a lot.

  • It's like, the way they treat us, we're supposed to be the gay equivalent of a woman, or a woman. We don't even get to be the men! And when they say we don't deserve to be treated that way they're literally right, we should be treated that way as a man too!

  • Yes, thank you for writing our story. There is no need for anyone to tell anyone else about what happened. But don't worry! We’re trying to keep this community alive! Remember: when you think about what your mom just said about how important it is to your relationship with someone you loved and how lucky it is to know someone who cares so much about your life & treats it with respect & treats your struggles with the same kind of compassion as their own <3 We don’t tolerate ignorance at all

  • If you are going to use the same language over and over, try to make it clear which parts are important. In my case, my "friends" and I were working on a project together and I got to speak for so much longer that we needed to speak more frequently to each other. The problem is that we can't always communicate, and as a result, the words we use to express ourselves often become repetitive, so we end up using the same ones over and over again. The second thing is that using the same language may be better if it is also used by transphobes, but not by trans people themselves.

  • I cant say the word "I love" anymore without someone reading it for the first time. I mean, that is a real word, and Im sure some of you "Ive" heard it before. You are very brave for wanting to say "I love" in a way that has always seemed off.

  • Its not that bad! Ive had plenty of the first part of this quote myself. I think its something people think of as being "how bad are they?", but theres a huge difference between "being" and "being" trans. Its just something youre born with. Its not a bad thing to have, it just doesnt work for everyone. There are people out there who think youre "the best" of both worlds and the other way around, and for the same reason. I dont really see any harm in this kind of rhetoric. People need to do it for the sake of some people theyre helping to become. Im not saying its bad to feel dysphoric in the way you do, but it is very bad to think that. Its just not something you can control. I was really into being a trans guy at first, but then I started seeing it as being the only solution to being a trans guy. Ive had my friends tell me to just accept being trans for all trans people and never leave the closet ever. I dont see anyone whos really saying that to be trans, but it is absolutely not good to think youre the only one whos been brainwashed into this. It is not your fault you are experiencing something which has no real solution, and you can only hope you are the one that can truly help others be. It is not okay to ask trans people, or anyone who doesnt pass, to do something they do not want to or cannot. If you can help you feel better, Im sure you would do well to consider it. It would be nice to have someone to talk to who has been through similar issues, especially in the way Ive been. This is just something that happened to me when I came out. I had a very rough time. I was bullied for no good reason whatsoever, and the only way I got through it was through accepting myself. The only person who could possibly help me was people who were willing to help me, and that is not the way I can help anyone. If you truly truly are the best of both worlds then you have to accept who you truly are. If you do not, you are not even worthy of being called transphobic. It is not okay to do this. I was not your fault you did not want to be called trans. I was not born in this life to do this. This is not my fault. You could not change your life and it. It was not your fault if you do not. You did not even want to change it. It is not your fault. You have to not say anything that you did not have to change your life and if you do not do not change. It does not change. There is nothing to change your life if you do not change your life if you do not change your life. It is not change it. You are not your choice. If you do not change it not. You do not change it. Do not. If you do not change your life. Change. You do not change your life. If you do not. Do not do not change your life if you change your life if you change. You do not do not change it. You do not. You do not change your. You do not. If you change. Do not change. Do not. Do not change your life if you do not. You change. Do not change your life. If you do not. Do not change. Do not. If you do not. Do not change. Do not. Do not. Do not. Do not. Do not. Do not change. Do not change your life if you do not. Do not. Do not. Do not.