If it's free until the Max platform is functional and stable, congrats sports fans on your many years of free sports to come >_>
I talk about these guys and the banana spiders a lot! Banana spiders were so cool.
That's immediately what I thought of. I remember these from the woods when I was a kid.
That's silly. I'm in a really good place personally. My best friend is my assistant manager. I just signed the lease early for another year (starting in May) in my nice apartment that is just a few blocks from my dispensary. We could reasonably be a million dollar a month location by this time next year. I've found a Discord where I can make friends with other trans people in my area despite my powerful introversion. And just being a visible trans person in a popular business running a safe place in a conservative area is fighting the good fight! I have integrated the resistance into my life. I have the financial stability to take care of some real life shit that's in arrears. And despite isolated examples of the opposite, the fact is that people are overall safer, healthier, and freer than they have ever been. I say that as someone who has been attacked in public for being trans. 2024 is going to be good. It's just going to be extra good for me.
Two honestly. They're both kinda big picture, but both are fun and easy and low stakes.
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Slow down, settle, nest. 2023 was a wild year filled with change. I got a job that became the focal point of my life, and then I got promoted. That job came with more friends and connections than I've ever had. It has been a very full, sometimes overwhelming year. 2024 is going to be my Convenience Store Woman year. I'm gonna settle into my management position, get good at it, and turn this dispensary into a beautiful weed distribution machine.
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I'm gonna keep trying for a second romantic partner. It's gonna be fun because flirting is fun. And the stakes are low because I already have a fantastic, stable relationship with my wife. Failure means continuing the happy life I'm living now. I'll just keep trying to get the attention of boys with good hair.
2024 is gonna be good, but easier than 2023 plz
To make some sort of major change or take a specific big picture path. The classic "stop smoking/drinking" would be high stakes resolutions.
In fact, one systematic review found that the average prevalence of surgical regret was 14.4% among all research studies analyzed
Holy shit that's actually crazy to me. [I actually tracked down that number because I was so curious] (https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1007/s00268-017-3895-9) It's over half cancer surgery. I've known that the regret rate for transition surgery was low for a long time, but that piece of context kinda blows my mind. You're more likely to regret a variety of life saving procedures than gender affirming surgery, and it's often by insane orders of magnitude.
Right offhand, Rita Pfeiffer. There have been times where I was her only Spotify listener. Probably also nobody has heard of Knife the Puppets but me and my wife. My favorite musician at the moment is probably Ashley Virginia, a little known folk singer out of North Carolina. I've been obsessed with the Hushabyes since Lindsey Verril of Little Mazarn introduced them to the world. I'm getting a cassette player mostly for New New Sincerity, Lindsey's label, but there are some cassettes I want from the Spinster Sounds collection.
I'm sure I've seen some ultra rare movies, but I watch so much weird old trash that I have no idea how well known any of it is. I've seen Tales from the QuadeaD Zone twice. I follow Blood Tea and Red String on Instagram. I excited for the sequel. One of my all time favorite movies is a 1977 X-rated version of Cinderella with full song and dance numbers (a few of them genuinely fantastic!) and Sy Richardson as the fairy godmother.
EDIT: I forgot the real crown gem! We own a copy of the original cut of a movie called Freedom Deep! It's basically a feature length music video for a band called Goya's Child. The version of Freedom Deep you can find online is the new cut. It has lots of obnoxious narration over the music and nonsense 9/11 content thrown in. The rare DVD version is still not a great movie, but it's a painfully fun ultra long grunge music video! Oh I need to make some people I work with watch Freedom Deep.
My wife is half fucking snow white. I'll be fine as either, but I'd prefer cat. Me and the current cat need to have a cat talk.
This is fairly common in both depression and ADHD, so maybe check on them? Like, make sure they are personally okay. Someone who needs to be consistently stimulated is probably uncomfortable at rest. Being bored all the time is something I struggle with personally. I have ADHD and depression and trauma. Addressing and working on those things helps immensely with the chronic boredom. When I'm more depressed or anxious, I'm more easily bored and crave more stimulation. So, yeah, play Ted Lasso and check in on them.
I can't really be cursed to begin with. I run a zero faith build, so unless I find myself structurally cursed I'm pretty safe, and structural curses are easy to figure out at least. You either disrupt the structure or remove yourself from it.
I am already an active practicing Discordian. My work is religious. Every day I distribute a substance that uproots the normal workings of the mind. Hail Eris! Hail Yourself!
A markedly less successful ripoff of Tubular Bells
Bummer. I really like the direction they've been going. Make it weirder. Make it more uncomfortable.
None. I wish I could see more content. Not enough is made of the fact that you only see content your instance is already connected to. Part of my frustration with the platform is that I joined a neutral instance to have as much content as possible, but relatively little of it is shuffled to me in the all feed. I like discovering new things online. I hate the catch 22 of federation content access, where being on a large enough instance to be certain you're well connected means being on an instance that has blocked a lot of content to appease its larger userbase.
I love Ari Aster movies. Hereditary makes me feel like I'm going to puke. We own all three of his movies on Blu Ray, including a special edition director's cut of Midsommar with a bunch of little dicks on the spine. Beau is Afraid only kind of fits the topic, but it's probably my favorite of the three.
If you're of OG Futurama age, King of the Hill is pretty good about not being transphobic. I will always love Hank refusing to speak to Peggy's friend Caroline when she answered the phone in boy mode. No, he's looking for his wife's friend Caroline. Please don't try to confuse him with stories about who she used to be. He used to sell jeans, and only people close to him know that.
Random trans folk I see look right past me.
I had this happen with a whole group of trans women staying at the motel I used to work at. I passed to them to the point that there was no "oh hey!" moment, no Charlie Kelly meerkat eyes. It was a strange experience, at once sad and satisfied?
Now I work at a dispensary and smoke or vape weed every day. For better or worse, I'll never voice pass consistently in a world with legal weed. Which I guess is fine. I'm not especially fond of the "oh whoa" moment on the faces of straight men who have decided from a distance I was a hotgirl(tm) and they were gonna treat me a certain way, but I guess I'd rather disarm straight people than be invisible to young trans girls.
the models and movie stars and idols and influencers
Most of them don't actually "look like that." They are photographed from the best angles with expensive camera equipment and lighting. Then they select the best photos from a series of mediocre to great shots. These selected photos are often then edited. There are billions of women who could look like that if they had $20k to drop on a professional makeover and photoshoot
I personally am in a phenomenally stable polyamorous relationship. I've been married to my wife for 12 years, and she has had the same boyfriend for about half of that time. It's a really fulfilling arrangement for all of us in various ways. We're all genuinely happy and satisfied. I'm kind of casually looking for a boyfriend of my own.
But I feel like I only hear negative stories about other poly experiences. It's always unstable people and situations. It's always two out of three people happy at most. Surely there are other success stories out there, and I just hear the disasters because they're more memorable and fun to tell. Does anyone else have or know a polyamory success story?
EDIT: This blew up a little while I was asleep. I promise I'm at least reading every comment.
EDIT 2.0: ngl I did not expect the trope of polyamory to fix a struggling relationship would be so real. We did just the opposite and are both baffled. Don't use volitility to fight the volitility.
It has been brought to my attention by several coworkers that most of them find cannabis--thc specifically--makes time go much faster for them. The day flies by compared to normal. I'm just the opposite. Any amount of thc stretches time to its limits. It makes the day feel so, so long. Even a little bit of H4CBD has me in the time tunnel. I feel like I'm gonna be here forever. I'm curious if I'm in as much a minority in the grand scheme of things as I am in this building.
He was investigating.
So they all work well. The Squeezes are unfortunately bitter, but they're a good deal per mg. The Lemon Lime isn't too bad in some lemon Sprite. The Stiribles are perfect. They add zero flavor and dissolve into flat liquids beautifully. I had some mixed with a Seltzer recently and couldn't taste it. They hit faster than normal edibles. A lot of people report feeling like they hit harder than the number suggests, but I think they just prefer that sort of high. Personally I prefer the feel of normal edibles. They're supposed to work better for people with low amounts of the enzyme that converts THC, but I can't speak to that personally. They're definitely a fun addition to my alchemy cabinet.
Basically what it says on the can: why do you use weed? Are you a purely recreational user? Do you use for medical purposes, with or without a prescription? Do you use for a mental health condition? We're all probably some blend of these. What's your use case?
Personally, I do use cannabis medicinally to help me sleep. Neither weed nor melatonin cuts it alone, but weed and quick dissolve melatonin is just the right thing. I also use for recreational purposes. It's just fun to do things stoned. I also use heavily for religious/spiritual reasons. I'm a Discordian, and keeping a flexible mind full of doubt is important to that. Weed is helpful in resisting the siren call of comforting certainty. As a casual psychedelic, it keeps me thinking in interesting ways.
I love this thing. I wanted a Volcano for years. It feels like both science and magic at the same time. I can put enough flowers into me to be as stoned as I need to be without the gross respiratory effects. I've always struggled to use flowers through the winter months when holiday anxiety redoubles my weed need. Between this and my employee discount, I bet I can avoid my traditional holiday season drinking. If I can manage that, it'll have paid for itself twice. It was expensive af, but I paid for $200 of it with a gift card I got from a sales competition. So far it has been 100% worth it.
EDIT: Sync doesn't display my extra pictures! =O
In a very different direction from my other Halloween submission, Iris Marlowe! She's the best spooky lesbian cowgirl you've ever heard. She has a heart of metal and a lot of talent. And she's a pretty cool person too, has some cute rabbits. This is my go to fuck shit up song right now. I listen to it on my walk to work a lot.
clipping. goes hard as fuck. They're most recent two albums are horror themed. I've been listening to them seasonally. This is one of my favorites, but both albums are phenomenal, overwhelming.
I often have a lot of detailed, nifty things to say about music I listen to. I only have complex, hard to communicate feelings about Little Mazarn. This is from their new EP, Honey Island General Store, maybe my favorite of the lot, but I've only had it for a day. I was so excited when I opened Spotify for something totally different and saw the new release. I hope Lindsey's Austin residency continues to be this productive.
Little Mazarn, my heart, my love. I'm not sure how to exactly express how I feel about Little Mazarn. They're a guaranteed religious experience every time for me. I'm aware that they can have an incredibly niche sound, but I am moved deeply every time. This placid, perfect rendition of an old folk song brings me joy and serenity. They have a new EP out, Honey Island General Store,
https://spotify.link/Pyzo6eq0jDb https://youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_nByosVf3wYZs1IXUcQEuzkaOFyteF_Y9U&si=rzXTATJ-gphPxWTD
and I've decided to share here in celebration. I promise this isn't marketing. I'm just a genuine adherent.
Do I have more gay country music? Yes, yes I do. Iris Marlowe is cool as shit. She's incredibly versatile. She has fire and brimstone numbers that devolve into heavy metal guitar solos. She has fun, high energy romps. She has sincere love songs and solemn contemplations. She has an annual series of Halloween thrmed covers that's about to get a new entry. She's one of the musicians I'm most excited to see the future of.
I'm gonna keep bringing lesbian country to Lemmy because holy shit I love gay country. Melissa Carper has a voice that can melt me and an awkward confidence I can't resist. She's the master of the brand new old time song, routinely funny, and I will love her forever.
In honor of the decline of the southern accent. S.G. Goodman is phenomenal, the sound that lured me into and drowned me in lesbian country. Space and Time can still make me lose my balance
My wife loves games with that sort of gameplay loop, where you have a main gameplay style/loop within a world of people and places you get to know for both flavor and gameplay benefits. Persona is a series and SDV a game that we have put a lot of time into together. She was talking about playing P4 again, but I crave novelty. What are some other fun games with a little community for us to get to know?
LegionEris [she/her] @feddit.nl Leading a one woman branch of the Erisian Liberation Front! In love with almost everything all the time.