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I like misser! It reminds me of Messer, and that feels quaint!

Do you have any suggestions on sir/ma'am? I'm from the south, and genuinely don't know how to stop saying sir/ma'am. I always try to go with whatever the person is presenting, and I have tried not to say it at all. But that southernism is deeply ingrained. Like at a drive through or something, where you only have a voice to go off of it's especially bad. I do try to avoid it, but I wish there were a gender neutral version, because language just feels rude without it to someone who grew up with that instilled in them. All adult people must be addressed as ma'am or sir, regardless of age in any kind of setting that isn't close friends. If I forego it, I feel rude as fuck, and most of the time whoever you're talking to also acts offended. But the last thing I want to do is misgender someone, especially with words like sir/ma'am, that are such... Strict terms. Halp?

Okay, so it is a problem specific to fish. Thank you for replying!

Actually the dump truck did do that. Haha. I could do in the raider, too, but it was much more finicky about stalling out.

Gather round, ye honored men I have a tale to tell Bout a Klingon named Kum And his battle with a mighty whale He ventured out upon the sea And unfurled his massive sail He travelled all round Kro'nos And ended in the east A mighty man, never once morose He sought out the vicious beast Searching high and low And when he found the great white thing Kum knew it was time to blow

That's the best I can do at 3am. Lol.

WTF is that 3rd picture of a shifter? I've never seen anything like that.

Drove two vehicles like that. One was a big ass dump truck that didn't have reverse or 1st gear, and had to roll started. Popping a clutch in second was... A unique experience.

The other was a little dodge raider that didn't have first gear and had to be roll started. I had to pop the clutch in reverse every day. Lol. I was so happy when we got the clutch repaired. I loved that car so much. A month later it jumped time and we had to sell it. :(

That did it! Thank you!

Sometimes I feel like the only one. It just grossea me out. I don't know why. :/

I gave in and made out with a dude during a hookup two months, though. Got. Fucking. Mono. -_-

Curious, are you against eating animals at all, or is there something specific to fish I'm unaware of?

Tried to phrase that in the most polite way, but I can't get the phrasing to not sound like I'm being a snarky dick. I'm genuinely asking. I'm not vegan, but I do try to limit myself as much as I can given the diets of the other people I cook for. Also not a fan of fish in general, but I'll cook and eat it when someone in the house goes fishing at the local lake or river. We never buy fish.

Okay, so, basically, you know how like, 99.9999% of everything is empty vacuum? Like, the vast, vast majority of space is just empty nothingness? Quantum foam says that that's not exactly the case, and that constantly particles and anti particles are being created and destroying each other. So instead of empty nothingness, you have this sort of cosmic, bubbling, boiling foam of creation and annihilation.

Or, at least, I think. I'm no rocket surgeon.

Meant to mention in my first comment, I haven't met many other people who like to randomly imagine the ways major structural changes would take place. Lol.

I like to pick a huge project. Like, say, single payer healthcare, or the nationalization of an industry, and then imagine the individual steps that would need to be taken to get there. Doesn't necessarily have to be a project I'd support, I just have fun imagining the ways it would need to happen.

I'm glad you have a good relationship with your son. :) I'm one of those weirdos that's super close with my mom, and it's an absolutely awesome relationship to have a parent that you're close with. Not enough people get that.

Honestly, in a relationship, the closest I have gotten to is essentially friend with whom I bone. :/ Part of the problem, I think, is that it takes me quite a long time to really consider someone a friend. Like, I need to know someone really well before that bond forms, and none of my relationships have lasted that long. I also saw my mom try in a bad marriage, she thought she could "fix him," and that's a fate I've always wanted to avoid. I think sometimes I bail because I realize they're not the person I want to spend my life with, so what's the point in dating them, y'know? What I want out of a partner is someone with shared interests, and someone who has a similar approach to life. Someone I can talk to about philosophy, or the books we're reading. The culture where I live doesn't lend itself to that, generally speaking.

Yeah, it bothers me to a degree. Less because I really crave that relationship, I do to an extent, but more because I desperately wanted to be a dad, and the only way that'll happen for me as a gay man is to be married so I can adopt.

I'm also not what you'd call a great looker, so finding a person to go out with on something other than a hookup is kinda rare. Not fishing there, just acknowledging a fact. I'm at peace with that on most days. Lol.

That sounds terrible. I'm sorry you go through that. internet hugs

Existential cocktease is one of the best phrases ever coined, and exactly the phrase I have needed for years to explain many of my dreams. I don't fall in love. Like, I've dated, and had a few relationships, but I've never really connected with a person in a romantic way. I love my family deeply, in a non romantic way, so I know I'm capable. But I just have never had that with a romantic partner.

But I routinely do in dreams. Several times a year, I'll have a dream where I fall deeply in love someone. And then I wake up, and I'm depressed for days thinking about it. It's an existential cocktease.

Thank you for giving me the language to describe that.

What's the hardest part of being out as trans, other than the obvious transphobes? The subtle stuff most people don't think about, I mean.

Yes. Jesus, why can't Europeans educate themselves on real measurements! We measure in feet and bald eagles for distance. We measure in shotgun shells, elbows and pounds for weight. We measure in ATNT for temperature. That's Ambient Truck Nut Temperature, which is the temperature of a pair of truck nuts after driving for 80 bald eagles at 40 bald eagles per Active Shooter Warning, at sea level on a Wednesday. It's not complicated.

I honestly hate that argument. "it would cost so much to change all those signs" is just negative talk for "it would employee a shit ton of people, create a lot of jobs, and be a major infrastructure project that could help our economy.". Honestly, the economic benefit of major infrastructure works is rarely talked about as much as it should be. Mainly, I think, because the people it benefits are the ones actually doing the work. And that's scary to a certain segment of society that would like very much that not to be the case.

That's the great thing about being a metric user in the US. It's not the common system here, and the only people who really use it consistently are those who do so for work, and those who just enjoy it the same way one might enjoy learning a new language. It's sort of a grassroots thing here. And because it's not the standard system, there's no one here telling us what measures are socially acceptable to use and which aren't. Use the decimeter. Hell, if you like it, use it in Europe, you might get a weird look, but it won't be like asking for the distance to the deli in leagues. They'll still understand. In the US, use the decimeter if you want. I've used the metric system exclusively for so long, started as a sort of personal test, that I tend to think in metric now. I look at something and think "30cm" more than I think "a foot," occasionally I'll think "bout a 1/3 of a meter."

Have fun with it. Also, hot tip. If you ever struggle with temps, it's percentage of boiling. 0% of boiling is frozen. 100% of boiling is boiling. 20% of boiling is nice.