Just wanted to say a quick hello to all the other women out there on Lemmy
Just wanted to say a quick hello to all the other women out there on Lemmy
I've been happily posting away here on two accounts since just before the Great Migration, and have no problem being openly a woman on the internet. Up to and including correcting people who assume I'm a guy, and even occasionally acknowledging the existence of periods.
Which, honestly that was a bad tactic back on Reddit, my inbox was a nightmare. But here it's gone much better, so thank you to anyone who ever received one of my corrections with good grace!
It's also brought quite a few DMs my way from other women who try to stay more anonymous with their posts, a choice I can completely understand.
So today on International Women's Day I just want to wave hello to the other women out there, even if you don't want to break cover and wave back. Anonymous or not, cis or trans, I see you out there and you're killing it.
This may break the community rule on encouraging discussion, if nobody wants to out themselves to say hello back. So I guess I should also ask a question.
Um...anyone else using it as an excuse to treat themselves today? I've given myself the day (mostly) off work and am doing some fun gamedev all afternoon instead, then we're planning a takeaway tonight. Easily pleased, perhaps, but sounds good to me 😄
Cheers to the women of the fediverse, and the world, on your day. Glad to have you around :)
Hiii! Happy International Women's Day! Transwoman here.
I never understood why some people are so weird online. I've gotten tons of creepy messages. I have an Instagram account where I only post my nail art and I get tons of creepy DMs on there. It happened when I posted pics on nail subreddits as well but I didn't post there as much.
I really don't know if I'm going to be able to treat myself today as I have been feeling very low energy for the past couple days but I've been able to take a nice long shower and do some self-care and I still have some energy left so that's promising.
Since I have to leave the house to go to the drug store today, I might pick up some new skincare products while I'm there. I've been meaning to get a new exfoliating face mask for a long time, maybe today will be the day!
My whole Instagram feed today seemed to be about how white women focusing on anything other than the women currently getting genocided could shut the fuck up so I've been pretty bummed all day.
I don't even know how to express how I feel about that. So, I should just accept unequal pay and getting talked over in my Monday meetings... because I'm at work, because I have bills to pay and a career to think about, instead of camping out in front of the Israeli embassy and making a scene all day? I just... idk man I'm tired.
Don't get me wrong, I do care. But I also care about the men and children getting killed alongside the women. It's a horrible gross genocide and people are starving. But I still need groceries and don't need to be catcalled on my way to get them. I'm fucking bummed.
I don't want to invoke any negative memories but my curiosity is unsatisfied - what the hell do these guys PMed you about? We're all anonymous on Lemmy and Reddit, nobody knows how we look or where are we from and yet publicly stating your own gender is enough to open the floodgates. It is baffling to me. Don't feel obliged to answer of course if that's a problem.
Going back to the topic - hello! I used today's running routine excuse to treat myself with some sweet snacks. Unfortunately I didn't pick the best ones so I'm left unsatisfied and with a thought that I exceeded my limit. Next time I guess.
I never felt weird posting to Reddit that I was a woman, and never got any weird dms or anything.. no clue why, just luck I suppose. Or could have to do with where/how I shared that info.. either way I was openly asexually female for the entire 5 years I had an actual account. Worst that happened was a bit of banter with a user about whether or not boobs float (something I honestly don’t know); they told me to go check and report back and I said their man boobs would be more likely than mine to float since I’m thin and not well endowed.
But I’ve been more vocal about it here because Lemmy is an absolute sausage party, and it’s so so so so obvious. It hasn’t been weird here at all either, but there also aren’t a lot of conversations in which I feel it necessary to divulge (probably because it’s a sausage party, so those sorts of conversations don’t happen as much)
I wasn’t using that as a treat myself excuse, but I’m shopping for a fancy new bed frame (with headboard storage, power strip, lights, and drawers underneath to keep my cats out) and it was gunna be a birthday gift to myself, but now it’s a women’s day/birthday gift 🤭
Not a woman, but still: hello, welcome, 👋
It’s a shame a lot of women still feel the need to hide in order to avoid bad interactions online. You’d think we’d have gotten past that phase by now. After all, half the folks on this planet are women. And since it isn’t 1992 anymore, girls are in fact allowed on the internet.
Hiding perpetuates that stereotype, but I understand why they do it.
Welcome to the Fediverse!
Indeed, people are quite a bit more welcoming here than Reddit - ofc not everywhere, but more so, on average. If it helps, you can block not only individual users communities, but even whole entire instances - the latter by going into your profile, scrolling way down, and adding the instance name to that list. Do what you want, but for me, when TENS of people continue to spam-reply me WEEKS after I STOP responding, that's the signal that they are refusing to control themselves, so I take matters into my own hands and block them. For that reason I blocked hexbear and lemmygrad.ml, and some people block lemmy.ml too but I do enjoy their memes and such and just stay out of their politics community so I have not gone that far for that one. If this describes you, note that this can improve your experience in the Fediverse by perhaps 90% so may be WORTH IT. People from those instances can still reply to your posts and comments, but you will not receive notifications anymore, nor see them while you are logged in:-).
One thing more I wanted to make sure that you and your friends know: DMs are not private. I don't know of any actual tools that makes reading someone's DMs possible, but the signals are out there and not only admins but anyone could, in theory. Probably that won't matter 99% of the time but e.g. sending physical addresses or phone numbers would be easy to scan for across the Fediverse by malicious actors.
Anyway, I hope you feel welcomed! (fwiw, I am not a woman, I just wanted to share these thoughts in case they would be helpful:-)
You’re a woman?
Well that can’t be right I’ve always operated under the assumption that on the internet the men are men, the women are men and the children are the FBI…
/s
You are completely right. I got so used to Reddit being thousands of misogynistic, vile, ridiculous comments at every turn, yet in haven't even thought about it until now. I haven't seen a lot of that here. I haven't been harassed at all or terrified to make a comment in fear of the hive mind making me wish I hadn't been born. Thank you lemmings for being better humans.
I wish I had the time today, but they made breakfast and lunch for all of the women in the office and had some fancy chat thing.
Happy Women's Day. Go to the spa. Take a long bath. Demand massages and cuddles. Something.
i remember playing pokerstars vr like 5 years ago. i learnt after a few days to pick a neutral avatar and mute mic. it stopped being fun real quick after that, because it ended up effectively as a 3d simulator of regular pokerstars.
haven't really done multiplayer vr since 😅
Hello and hey. I don't usually think of myself as "a woman on the internet" because I've basically grown up with it. I don't make any particular efforts to advertise it but I'm not against casually mentioning it. I've never had a bad experience on Reddit due to my gender, likely because I gravitated towards niche subs where gender was irrelevant to the discussion anyway.
International Women's Day was widely celebrated in my native country, but much less so where I now live. I don't really mind, because I don't like the whole politically-correct celebrations that feel hollow and forced ("You're a woman so, uh, here are some flowers! Women like flowers, right? Right???") anyway I had a great day at work with my favorite team, then a nice evening at home with some D&D. I just wish I had time to walk my dog - that's one of my goals for tomorrow.
Happy International Women’s Day to everyone! I volunteered at an IWD event this week and it was really encouraging and always eye opening. Many of us feeling imposter syndrome in our work and this ever-gnawing anxiety about the direction things are headed but just sharing and witnessing the courage out there was inspiring. We are out here and you are not alone!
Thanks for reaching in! I am just going to celebrate by taking care of myself this weekend, sleeping in as best I can, squeezing my cat, getting a massage, taking a walk, and planning out my balcony garden ideas for this year.
Hi 👋 I'm going to celebrate by doing my nails and taking a nice long bath!
To all you International women! Happy day!
Apparrently I am so over social media that I had to debate if I answer or not because - for all I know - you could also be a dude trying to lure girls out of their defenses for whatever reason.
But here I am, waving back my fellow female!
International womens day or not: Stand tall, be proud and hiiii!
Hello and Happy International Women's Day! I hope yours is going awesome, and your day off work is hella restful! Although, gamedev defo sounds like work to me!
I too am a lady type on the internet! I've never really hidden that though as I grew up a HELLA nerdy Millenial. I've had the internet in my hizzy since grade school and I cut my teeth on things like HarryPotter.com and GaiaOnline. Cutesy nerdy spaces. However, on the anonymous spaces, people assume I'm a dude on the reg. I usually just let it go. It's likely why I haven't experienced the toxicity to the same level that other ladies unfortunately have.
That being said, this weekend I'm hoping to be productive as hell with some yard work, and chilling out with some Cyberpunk as it's my latest obsession. And I'm definitely not cooking tonight!
Because I'm food motivated though...whatchu thinking about for take out?
Hi, sisters of Lemmy!
A bit late but hello!
Thank you for the post
Happy Woman's Day!
HELLO!!!
Oh wait… I’m a man. Sorry.
Happy International Womans day (even if you're uninational)!
For the men who want to brush up, remember what we all learned at school with this educational film
Hiya! Happy International Women's Day! I recently got back from a long break from Lemmy, and really most other social media too, but my experience on here has been pretty good too. Generally I'd say it feels more friendly and positive than I remember Reddit feeling, and with generally more productive conversations in my experience.
And yeah we'll probably just order in later too. I've been a bit sick lately so probably not much else
Belated happy international women's day! Here's to more open and equitable internet forums :)
Hai!
A bit late but hi!
Sister, you make the world awesome :) <3
Hello! Not a woman, but from what I've heard I understand the hiding. Frankly the men that do that sort of thing need a kick up the arse and I will never understand what it's supposed to achieve.
Hey! Happy international women's day to you too ❤️!
Ehm... Akshually, the entity you refer to as "woman" doesn't exist. It's just a distraction by the deep state. WAKE UP PEOPLE
/s
I like the redditish format but I wish there was more compartmentalization, privacy and anonymity features on lemmy. there is no reason why anyone should be able to see all you do on here. it doesn't add anything, it only takes away. Except for maybe the people that only post art or something.
Happy women's day
Hello! I worked yesterday and I'm working today but I took time to pretty up and feel good about myself :)
Hello back! 😊 sorry I'm a day late. I did have to work yesterday but at least it wasn't a terrible work day, so I'll take it. I did the same on Reddit with not outwardly saying I'm a woman for obvious reasons, but I've had the same great experience on here so far. Happy to see the positivity is shared for others too!
Heyyyy!