Scrolling.
Lemmy just doesn't provide that perfect itch that Reddit provided. It's definitely better here, but damn, there is a certain dopamine release I'm not getting and it's been hard this past month adjusting.
Yup. I'm with you, man. I know I'll catch hell from what I've read around, but I'm still hanging onto my Reddit account until the site literally crashes and burns. I was on there since 2006. I really only check it for a handful of things now. Kinda saw the demise several years ago.
I gave u an updoot, hope it helps
My cheating boyfriend. I should dump his ass but i keep going back. It’s just like some kind of terrible drug addiction, where i keep sabotaging my life and giving endless resources down a black hole at the expense of everything else, especially myself; my friends are at a loss and growing tired of the cycles of nonsense. It’s killing my self respect and self esteem
Sorry you have to go through that :(
Thank you. It’s my choice, I know, but I feel weirdly helpless about it.
I'm genuinely curious why you haven't dumped him.
Couple of good reasons.
The sex is really good and enjoyable, and plentiful. I have a high sex drive and it’s been a struggle to find someone who’s a god match for both the rather extreme amount and style that I’ve always wished for. (Could be part of the addiction?)
The really big one is that I’ve been going through cancer all year. And he ran toward me, not away. He nursed me after surgery so tenderly, kindly, lovingly. I’ve never in my life known anything like it. He knows all the bullshit and details about the whole experience. We have gone through it all together. I was helpless for a chunk of it, terrifying to someone like me who couldn’t ask for help. I have never in my life felt so safe and cared for. Oddly enough he says he looks forward to caring for me like that again after the next surgery. It’s stunning.
I suppose it’s bought my undying loyalty. I only wish it went both ways.
Also, I’m basically a deeply lonely person. I had a cold, cruel family of origin, pretty extreme combo of neglect and emotional abuse. I’ve made poor choices in my life romantically, always choosing selfish people and trying to ignore my own needs too, which I’m very good at. This guy is selfish, but also loves to care for me quite selflessly. It’s bewildering and humbling and welcome like rain in the desert.
Computers! I love to build PCs, Servers, Software and other stuff. I often loose track of time and waste whole days on solving issues. Need go turn it down a notch. Have a good day everyone. :)
My phone. I really need to work on not holding it at all times and opening the screen, looking for notifications, and closing it again every 30 seconds.
Sugar
As ridiculous as this sounds, spending time with my dogs. I didn't grow up with dogs, but got my first as an adult, and it's been a revelation. When I want to go run an errand, go out to eat, go take a walk, whatever...they're always up for it. The best part though is that when I'm done, they're happy to follow me in being done too. Outings last exactly as long as I want, they're always silly and fun, and when I get home I have a tired cuddle buddy for a nap.
I have a very healthy social life with friends I see every week, a husband, and family I love...but spending time with my dogs just scratches an itch I didn't know I had. They're just the least complicated and demanding relationships in my life, and I really value that. Taking my golden out for pancakes and a trip to the park on a Saturday morning is one of my greatest joys in life. It's simple stress-free joy, and if life gets busy and interferes with my dog time I'm just cranky and unhappy.
Awww, this is adorable. They clearly think of you as the pack leader since they are so obedient! I'm in the opposite boat. I haven't had dog since I was a kid and have never been in the position to have one as an adult.
Literally? Coffee.
Nicotine
Oof. So sorry, bud. She's such a cruel mistress, ain't she?
I quit real cigarettes like a decade ago by using vapes
I quit vapes about 7 years ago by using nicotine gum
I’ve gotten down to 2mg gum, the lowest they make, but just can’t stop that. At least nicotine by itself isn’t that harmful.
Nicotine itself is still pretty harmful, but I don't see you getting any real negative side effects from 2mg gum though
I didn't see your response before posting my own, but same, bud. I'm in the process of quitting again and it hasn't been easy.
Best of luck! One of these times it'll stick, and until it does every attempt is worth it anyway.
Sugar and caffeine. I am always tired, I've gone 20 years in a constant state of tired. If I sit still for an hour I start to fall asleep. The constant sugar and caffeine intake probably dont help...
I know that you know this yourself. And I know that I am in no position to tell you what to do.
But dude, fix that. You are hurting yourself and you could feel so much better.
Skyrim
I'd love to warp back in time to when it first came out, and sink in dozens of hours on my first playthrough all over again.
That's the beauty of patient gaming. You get the game for peanuts, with the nastiest bugs patched, with all the DLC, community mods and other trimmings, and it now runs beautifully on an average laptop.
Free and open source software
A spoon of Nutella in my coffee.
Sitting with my thoughts and processing my feelings.
I used to find it incredibly scary, but I look forward to meditation and sitting with myself.
Discovering why I react to and which traumas from my past has been an addicting and enlightening experience!
It's nice from to time. I mean, I can do it. But I strongly prefer not to. More often than not I am reading something.
Screens, realistically. I know that it's a "soft" addiction and nowhere near as serious as a substance, but going even five minutes without pulling at my phone, using a computer, or watching a TV starts tugging at my brain. That's something you develop as a kid and I don't see myself fixing it unless I totally "detox."
Music.
When working remotely I listen to music 8 hours a day, as the headset from work makes me hear my own body when there's total silence.
So, on weekend days or when working in the office, I can feel the withdrawal effects.
This comment brought to you while listening to music at 3 o'clock in the morning...
Simulation. Adhd is a bitch. Luckily I haven't tried any hard drugs... Well other than a legal prescription to Adderall hahahah
Being in good shape aka body dysmorphia
Same. Hard to see it as a problem because "exercise is healthy!"
While workouts feel nice, failed attempts at rest days just are awful. I haven't had one for months. I can't stop.
Worst part for me is when im not in the mood to exercise, so I skip it, but then I feel awful for doing it.
The termination of long-lived ideas, habits, or objects, particularly if I liked them. There's something I find incredibly cathartic in tossing something like an old well-used chair or leaving a TTRPG group that i've been apart of for years. It feels like when you recover from a congested nose, but emotionally. Is that weird?
Many many things.
Sugar and porn
Nicotine. 25 days without and I keep dreaming about smoking. I've quit for longer before and the cravings never seem to go away.
I think I remember reading that it takes months to get out of your system and also for your brain to close that connection. Stopped in 2020 to vaping and it worked. Was hard the first few months but then it became the new me.
I went from cigs to vaping, quit in March of 2022. I still get cravings
I am addicted to biting my nails and the area around my nails & knukkles to the point of bleeding. (I know, yuck!) When not using my hands, they seem to unconsciously move to my mouth ready for picking or biting. I moved from Reddit to here and reddit has a subreddit called dermatophasia (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dermatophagia) that helped me not feel alone. When meeting people, I try to hide my fingers so they don't see the scars of unconscious gnawing. The worst time for biting is when I sit in front of a TV; I am better off playing video games with a controller! See Video Games are healthier! Lol
Artificial sweetener
Food. Overweight, unhealthy, and just can't stop eating.
I have an unhealthy relationship with food & the past 4 years I have kept it in check with a lot of effort (unhealthy addiction). I go running almost every day and have always loved it since I was a kid (healthy addiction).
Nicotine currently. I get addicted quite easily. At the moment it's difficult to stop weeding in the garden. Something satisfying about pulling out Dock Leaves. In the past, running, heroin, methamphetamine, cocaine, sugar, video games, phone apps, gambling, sex. Pretty much anything with a short term pay off, I'm helplessly drawn in. Eventually it stops being pleasurable and I unwind it. No point fighting it, better to let it play out.
Stay strong, buddy. Keep replacing those bad addictions with healthy ones. I have a bit of experience with unhealthy addictions myself. Been clean a long time now.
Appreciate your compassion brother. I'm on the mend now, not the sauce XD. Being present in the moment is my new gig.
I'm addicted to a site called RedFlagDeals, which is the equivalent of Slick deals for the states. I find myself endlessly scrolling for deals on the forum and buying things I probably don't even need, but I do it anyway since the item is relatively cheap. For example a car charger that was like 10 bucks... and I don't even have a car.
I think it's out of boredom as well, and it's gone to the point where I could even tell you a specific product is a good deal or not just by looking at the current price of it as I probably subconsciously index all of the prices in my head some how from scrolling through it.
I need a new hobby.
Haribo Gummy Bears.
And coffee.
But not together.
I am addicted to procrastination.
Jump Ultimate Stars online for Nintendo DS.
