I really thought I would have more free time now that I'm off reddit

Guys, I'm starting to think the problem is me...

I totally relate to this. I didn't like the environment on R*ddit, but here people are much nicer, so the addiction is even worse!
- you are breathtaking
- Get off my lawn!!!
  
  There, did that help?
- My only complaint is it's a bit more meta here, but that's understandable given its growth and why it grew (reddit's poor decisions)
- Yeah, I wasn't really using Reddit much before Reddit had its meltdown and the threadiverse exploded onto the scene. I've had a lot of fun here. Frankly I think I understand how the threadiverse works more than I understand how Reddit works.
  
  I've had a similar experience with Mastodon. Wasn't a big Twitter user, but now I'm more active on Mastodon than I ever was on Twitter. On each of multiple Mastodon accounts.
Hi!
- You're the problem, it's you?
Yeah, i really thought I'd spend a lot less time scrolling without reddit

First couple days, sure... then i started to find more and more axtive communities, and couldn't help but keep logging in
I'd upvote, but your at 69 so I won't. If it changes: wasn't me, I swear!
- Time to upvote. That # has passed.
Feels like going from weed to cocaine. Although I have no idea what it feels like.

Oh man my Lemmy addiction is much stronger because I'm actually participating as opposed to lurking on Reddit.

Same. I stopped frequently commenting on reddit when the site became filled with outrage-bait and various agenda-pushing.

Lemmy feels more user-driven and authentic, so I'm participating a ton more.
How dare you speak for me?...

Bloody hell, I haven't participated this much for at least a decade.

The vibe here is so good though. I'm really glad to be here.

Same, I just joined yesterday and it already feels better than reddit
I'm also glad you're here.

The positive interaction on Lemmy is what keeps me coming back. On reddit, I have about 15 comments in 10 years.

Hey fuck you and your stupid opinion! I'm smarter and technically correct on this one obscure point that you weren't making! And it's spelled "for all intents and purposes," dipshit!

Crap, sorry. Those Reddit habits die hard.
I have like 400 comments in 5 weeks here across multiple accounts. It's crazy how non-intimidating commenting feels.
- I have like 80,000 total Reddit Karma on an 11-year-old account.
  
  In four weeks on Kbin I've already gotten 3,100 reputation. It's just a much nicer community than Reddit.
- It's.. not intimidating? :E
I'm hoping maybe I could get a little confidence back in commenting on things. 10 yrs or more on Reddit and it always felt like it's either a drop in an echo chamber or immediately rude responses.

I'm liking Lemmy more because the last few years of Reddit were just so filled with dumbfucks that missed obvious jokes/sarcasm and had shitty comments to make on questions, it was bumming me out. I can ask questions and get answers. I can make a joke and people get it (it might suck, still, but they understand it's a joke). I feel like this is where people who can, and actually do, read and understand everything before responding are hanging out.

It’s an interesting quandary.

There is an inherently higher quality to posts and comments in smaller communities. It’s something many people value.

People flock to the high-quality offerings, and as a result, the quality decreases.

Is there a way to get the best of both worlds, whilst still maintaining A “free speech” ethos?

Typically, enforcing quality standards requires heavy and overbearing moderation that makes the interactions feel artificial.

^ if you can crack that code, you’d be sitting on a goldmine.
- I think a lot of work has to be done with society as a whole before we have a chance of that. I don't think that particular problem (sometimes called Eternal September) is inherent to the systems of communication themselves, but really the inherent nature of humans. The same thing will happen in a community of people IRL.
  
  I also find it difficult to see how we could reconcile disparate cultures and ideologies while also unifying as a singular "human culture" that isn't constantly bickering with each other and could actually agree on how to go about doing things. I mean, short of an alien invasion forcing every human being to come together to combat a new threat.
" I feel like this is where people who can, and actually do, read and understand everything before responding are hanging out."

Don't worry, me and other new users will get that corrected ASAP!

But for real, the users and vibe here seem far less caustic and I'm enjoying it. It's been a nice journey recognizing that I want hooked on Reddit because of content so much as because of the dopamine hit I got from endlessly scrolling through a lot of low effort content.
Anecdotal, but I don't see the rush to downvote legit opinions because people disagree with them. Lemmy seems a lot more chill at present.
- i dunno, i keep getting into arguments with tankies. they like the downvote button

this!

I left Reddit because of the enshitification, not the doomscrlling.

The post volume is still much lower, but that isn't all bad, since the toxicity and quality isn't as bad and unlimited scroll time isn't healthy.

This hits so close to home

It's new and fresh, and everyone so nice and friendly, what not to like?)

I thought Lemmy would just take over my mobile usage, and I would still visit reddit on desktop. Turns out I'm just using Lemmy on both because the vibe here is more fun.

Oh god, this reminds me, is there already a community dedicated to thalassophobia here on Lemmy?

I found one on Lemmy.world, has a few posts but the fear hasn't kicked in yet.

Yup Lemmy is going great right now, in a way I'm thankful for spez being such a RETARD because I only found Lemmy from this bs he pulled. I'm sure it's gonna be bigger than Reddit was