That's precisely why I'm not there. I'm too fat for the gym. There are women and Children present. I'd scar them for life.
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To clarify: This is not what happens, this is my own self conscious, self loathing behavior giving me excuses for not bettering myself. I am aware of my mental health problems, I'm just not dealing with them.
Literally no one makes fun of overweight people at the gym OP probably never stepped foot in a gym in their life. People are too busy doing their own thing to care. Plus gym goers are supportive people who would respect you for trying to better yourself anyway
Definitely was one of my biggest fears growing up. People absolutely make fun of people at the gym, just not to their face and normally not about their weight. They normally just make fun of your form and stuff like that but only when they’re slackin.
I might quitely make fun of the form of muscular gym bro who is displaying a smug attitude and clearly doesn’t know what he’s doing, despite going there for the last five years. But never a fat person, never a beginner taking their first steps.
Nah bruh, most gym communities are pretty welcoming places. I love seeing fat folks making an effort - how the hell are you going to give someone a hard time for trying to make themselves better? That's pathetic and I don't think that happens much at all.
I'm on the other end being a wimpy twig, I step on machine that a 50yr old woman just steps off and I cut the weight in half of what she had it on and start grunting. I'd be an easy target I guess if people wanted to be jerks, but I've seen nothing but respect thankfully.
Building muscle is hard for some folks and it takes time. The biggest dudes at most gyms are the nicest folks. The "big guys" that make fun of people... Get eaten for breakfast by the real gym kings. You don't get huge by being full of yourself, you get that way through a ton of hard work and learning to humble yourself.
I knew a dude that was a pro wrestler, huge AF. Had the world's biggest comic collection in his basement, total sweetheart. He played a heel to further add insult to injury lol
OP is lying, probably never seen a gym in person. This literally never happens. Many/most gym goers started overweight or at least nervous, intimidated. Everyone is very sympathetic for this situation and if anything, you will get encouragement and genuine help if you need. But most like, people will just mind their own business, unless you muster up the courage to ask them to show you how that machine works.
No bullshit my homie, a good gym, one that's more focused on strength training in specific, is the best place to start. I can't promise there won't ever be assholes, but even the fairly generic gyms that do more aerobics and cross fit type of stuff are good about it. And the typical weight room, even when it's body builders rather than folks that are strength focused are often going to be more than welcoming.
You have no idea how many really big guys didn't start out that way. A lot of them started lifting because they didn't have a good foundation in physical fitness as a youngster (myself included). So I can promise you that assholes making fun of you are extremely rare.
So, if you ever manage to get past the self consciousness enough to try it, I think it would be the perfect start. Even if all you do at first is go in, do some curls on a machine and walk back out, I promise you that you'll start to see improvement from it in a few weeks at most. And once you see that first little bit of change, it'll help your brain realize that the rest can change too. It's your body, and you can own it the way you want it. It's hard fucking work, every single time, and it never really stops. But it's there when you're ready to do that work.
I can't think of many things that shut up the inner critic more than physical fitness efforts. For me, it was lifting and then marital arts that made things work. Dealing with that kind of self esteem and doubt and fear is a giant barrier for sure (again, I've been there), but if you can get that first step taken, it's worth it.
I've been considering it more and more. There's a gym nearish with a pool, and I'm a very strong swimmer, and it's one of the few exercises that isn't physically painful because of my bad back and feet. But for real, I know no one is actually making fun of me or other heavy people in that environment. It's more my own brain narrating the worst possible opinions and applying them to everyone I meet. Which, funnily enough, is me doing to everyone else what I fear they are doing to me: being unkind.
Oh man! Water exercise is so sweet when you've got a bad back and/or joints. Being able to get a decent workout without being laid up for two days is a beautiful thing for me :)
But, I feel you. I've got that same inner critic sniping away. As I've gotten older, it's less about physical things and a lot more about mistakes made, things that were hurtful that I didn't have the ability to see as hurtful when I said or did them.
But along that, I did figure out that the old truism about having to give yourself something first, before you can really give it to or get it from others holds up. If I'm not kind to myself, if I can't forgive myself, and love myself (at least a little), it's nigh impossible to genuinely give those things to someone else.
I don't know if that actually applies to everyone or not; maybe other people can give truly of themselves without accepting good things from themselves first, but it seems to be the case.
Aside from the fact that no sane person would mock you for trying to better yourself, you could also start smaller and just, say, go for walks or swimming at a local pool or other not-gym forms of exercise.