Also, I said this before as a parent and I will say it again- please do not have children unless you really want children. No child deserves to go through their childhood neglected and unloved. Which is going to be a major result of the end of Roe v. Wade in the U.S. and why abortion rights are vital.
No one should have to be a parent unless they absolutely want to be a parent.
Who can afford kids these days?
When I was a teenager I wanted kids. I fully bought into 'the American dream' being sold. I'd get me a wife, kids, house, and a career. Helped that I actually like kids. Made it my life's goal to try to be the best provider, best dad, best husband I could be.
Put myself through college, I have a good career, bought a house when I was 24, and still love kids. But I gave up on dating when I was like 28(?). It just became not worth it for so many reasons.
This last fall marked 20 years since I left my hometown to start my life... And I felt like a failure (still do). I exist to work and pay bills.
Vasectomy is up there in the top 5 best things to happen in my life.
Highly recommend if you are sure you want to go child-free. There is nothing quite so worry free as shooting blanks instead of using condoms and birth control.
Jazz is an anti-natalist confirmed
This is kind of my family. My brother and I have not fathered any children, he's a step dad, with no intention to have any of his own, I'm happily in a childfree relationship.
The only (sort of) exception is that my eldest brother (of three), had four kids.... All girls.
So our biological lineage will continue, but our family name ends here, since once my niece's get married, our family name will be dead.
The closest continuance of our family name is through my one male cousin on my dad's side. I don't keep in touch with him enough to know if he has kids or he's planning to have kids, or to even be informed as to whether or not those children would be boys or girls, etc.
After that, you would have to go back about 3 generations to find someone of the same lineage that's actually continuing the family name. Second or third cousins... I believe. I'm unaware if my grandfather had any siblings, or cousins... So that part of my family tree is a complete unknown.
For my brother, he wasn't in a stable relationship long enough to get married and have kids (though, he's on his second marriage, the first did not last very long.... It's a long story as to why)... And since his second wife (his current wife) already had children from a previous marriage, he has no interest. For me, I never cared either way, and stuck to the philosophy of "I'll let my wife decide". My current, and longest, relationship, under which we've been together for nearly a decade now, is with a beautiful woman who has been very childfree for a long time, and I support her in that. I also wouldn't be able to financially support children, which is why I kept waiting for marriage before kids. I at least wanted the illusion that someone was going to stick around before making that commitment.
My oldest brother got married pretty young and to his credit, they're still together. I'm mostly estranged from him, but I'm aware of some of the details of his life. His children are at the age where they can start having kids of their own now (which should give some indication of how old I am... I'm "great uncle" age). I don't have any pressure to have kids at this point because my SO doesn't want them, my breeder brother is estranged, my father is dead, and I'm estranged from my mom. The only time I even hear about kids is either from my sister-in-law taking about her (now post-teen) children, and from my SO's family, who we see online only a few times a year at most.
I don't feel like I'm missing out.
I mean real talk, how many generations back are you actually disappointing? Like I'm only going to disappoint my dad, as once you go up to grandparent level I have plenty of cousins who can and have already passed "our line" down.
All good things must come to an end.
