Not many people admit to being offended by something that someone said. When was a time you actually felt hurt and/or insulted by someone?

I cancelled to go to a thank you dinner that was organised for a thing I volunteer at. It was a few hours before and I was feeling really sick but up until that point I didn't think it was that bad. Most people in the group chat said to feel better soon but one of the organisers posted a whole thing about taking responsibility and informing at least two days beforehand since they weren't able to cancel for me with the restaurant last minute. I didn't say anything but that was really hurtful. As if I were choosing to be sick to inconvenience them??

You don't plan out your illnesses by coordinating with the Virus Collective regarding which days they're allowed to infect you? That's incredibly irresponsible and you should be ashamed.
- I know, but my local one doesn't have any contact details and they refuse to reschedule. They are completely impossible to work with.

When my brother-in-law thanked me for not coming to visit my other in-laws because "well, it's a bit awkward".

It, in this case, being that I was the wrong race to marry his sister.

What the actual fuck.
Jesus christ. The nerve of some people.

This is a good question! Honestly I can't even think of a time. Usually when someone says something insulting or hurtful, I just lose respect or consideration for them. After all, it says more about them than it does about me.

To add an example, I recently got told to "go back to my country you [lazy racial slurs]" by a MAGA loving shithead neighbor.

I was born here, and the old asshole who said it emigrated here less than a decade ago. It was a flabbergasting experience.

Had a homeless guy get right in my face and shouted UGLY!

I know that probably has more to do with his life than mine, but it's hard not to take it personally and wonder if it's what everyone else is too polite to say.

It's, as you have already said, most likely an emotional issue on his side.

There is no such thing as "the beauty standard".
- Well, yeah. I agree beauty is a flawed, racist, social construct that is just societal opinions in bulk. But money is also a fake social construct that has very real affects on everyday life. We can deconstruct the term "beauty" all night, but that doesn't change the lived reality of being called ugly having a real, genuine, hurtful effect on my self esteem.

When I was told to get lost and go back to China because the pandemic reliefs were for the fellow countrymen.

Are you from China? Anyone who managed to escape that country should be praised, not told to go back.
- Not China, but you know the rest... like that Laotian character from King of the Hills who gets asked "So you're from China or Japan?" everytime.

My manager introduced me at a company picnic to the guy who hired him years ago. We no longer worked in his org, but he was still someone who my boss admired. The guy had already had a few drinks and reached out to shake my hand. On my way to shake his, he happened to glance at my badge (I forgot I even still had it on) and noticed I’m a contractor.

“Oh, you’re a contractor?” As he immediately withdraws his hand. “Are you at least working to go full-time?”

He literally never shook my hand. It’s been over a year and I don’t think I’ll ever forget that. What a dick.

I used to be less-than-feeling-bothered about how a lot of people feel about my asexuality, I always thought it was just a simple hiccup in the science community, but over time let's just say the revelations have sunk in as disheartening. I've been a pariah because of it, it's the most common talking point when I see people jab at me, and even amongst acquaintances I'm told they're dismissive of anyone saying they're asexual.

Psychiatrists have told me it's a flaw of mine, family members would think of me suspicious for it, and when I later found out the acquaintances of mine (who I still consider friends to an extent) are into Jordan Peterson (you probably know where this is going), I though "maybe I can paraphrase this great genius in their presence to help my case", only to realize he is no genius and actually champions the idea of asexual dismissal. Pardon my French, but how hard is it to effing say "intimacy is NOT a given?"

Up until recently, asexuality hasn't had any widespread slurs, but the label "worthless" really does it when you want a deep connection just like everyone else. Recently however, some slurs have developed, though for obvious reasons you'll have to look them up, as this is Lemmy.

Weird how sex is simultaneously taboo and expected of people.
- I think a lot of people believe reproduction is a living being's only purpose.
- It's more like anything that deviates from how it normally works is considered contrary to the point of it all and thus that becomes taboo, i.e. the details of how you might like dressing up as authority figures to get the ball rolling.
  
  Make no mistake, people in ancient times were fine starting the very first chapters of their scriptures with "and then the first man and first woman hit it off" which they no doubt relayed to people early in their upbringing.

My mother told me that she hated me. After a really dumb argument we had, as adults. I still talk to her and play nice in front of our siblings but I haven't forgiven her and I don't think I ever will. I lost a lot of love for my mother in a single day and then nothing anyone has said to me since has ever matched or beaten that feeling. How do you trump your own mother hating you? She moved on like she never said it. No apologies. Never mentioned it. You can call me every name and slur and hang me for all my fuckups and oddities, but you can't hurt me. I'm already at 0 HP emotionally

Oof. Mine wrote me in a letter that she wasn't my mother anymore. Later pretended she never meant it. 20 years pass. Then she writes me a message saying I ruined my kid's life. I cut contact then. I still miss the friendly mom she sometimes was.
- My mom wrote a similar letter with all that she thought of me. I picked it up and threw it out. Idc what it said there I never will. Bitch be even more self-centred then idk who, I have my flaws but I also know to try and not take it out on other (sometimes).
  
  I don't think she evel will be able to
- I, in your stead, would fight back.
  
  I seriously mean it. Drive up to her and explain her why she is such a stupid person. I guess that you will feel better then. It's important to always be honest, and that includes sometimes saying difficult truths.
I don't think she meant it. She probably said it in the heat of the moment and then forgot she even said it later.
- Oh, you have no idea.
  
  In an ideal world, every parent loves their child.
  
  Unfortunately, some people do not live in an ideal world. There's a lot of parents who mistreat their children, and that doesn't exclude mothers, unfortunately.

My husband recently said that I had a nice ass when I was younger, but currently it's "just something that happens to some women when they get older." I'm 40.

yikes, what a dick. btw, daily squats work wonders :p
Did you tell him you preferred when his balls didn't leave drag marks on the floor
Ass is ass. I'd take any ass!

I've only been offended at my work place once ever. I worked with another guy for years. We got along decently and I even went to bat against a senior in our company for him. When he retired he refused to shake my hand and my congratulations for retirement.

I still have no idea why he refused but that one got to me. I didn't even have bugle dust on my fingers!

In real life or....? I'm insulted pretty much daily on here by some dipshit or another. In reality? Less. But as a queer person living in an area full of conservatives I overhear "faggot" said a lot. Generally not at me, but it's still offensive and it makes me uncomfortable being around people who yell it at random people on the street as they drive by.

I'm out of the loop. What does "removed" mean?
- You ran into a slur filter. The word that gets shown as removed is the one used for bundles of sticks and sometimes can refer to cigarettes in the UK.

The time this one dude lied to me with my friend so he'd have an excuse to talk to me. He wanted to get to know me and couldn't fathom walking up and striking a conversation like a normal person so he asked my friend to pretend that they knew each other for a long time when I got back from the restroom. I found out when things weren't adding up. I felt so manipulated that I had to walk out of the club to clear my head.

Many times by my mom. Recently in reference to me balding, she said "you look like a <family name>, that's too bad". It was so bad even my dad did a double take.

As a marginalized person, it tends to occur more often than not; but, it's not like that's necessarily unusual.

There's a comment here that would say that's a you problem. Must be nice, not having your Identity be a matter of political "disagreement" for people.
- Must be nice lol

I cannot go into depth about it but I had an issue with some stuff and talked to the people responsible about it. Was told to expect a response that never came. Someone else then told me about discussions that were happening behind the scenes and how one potential fix was floated. Said fix being something that didn't address the core problem but was instead a pat on the head and a lollipop to me so that they could keep doing thing anyway.

If you don't wanna address the issue that's fine but don't insult me by floating something that doesn't listen to anything I've said and addresses a problem that doesn't exist.

Back when I was in high school, a friend of mine introduced me to his friend. This kid, knowing that I'm Jewish, started to go on a rant ending with "the only thing Hitler did wrong was not finishing the job!"

Him saying that me and my family should be killed for the "crime" of being Jewish... Well, offended seems too light of a word. I blew right past offended and landed in ANGERED.

Now, usually, I'm a pretty relaxed guy. I typically don't get angry even if I should. But this made me want to punch the guy right in his Hitler loving face. My friend had to hold me back.

(And before anyone asks, this wasn't the kid being "edgy" or trolling me to get a reaction. He actually worshipped Hitler and thought he was a great man.)

How was it going to highschool with Trump?
- Hey, I may feel old, but I'm not THAT old! Now, if you'll excuse me, I need to yell at some kids to get off my lawn.

I have it happen far to often unfortunately but for me when I tell someone how I am feeling and they respond "no you dont" or "I don't think you do" completely dismissing my feelings all together.

I had a girlfriend, and for a short time a wife, who was really religious. That's fine, but she had a real problem with the fact I wasn't religious, and she wouldn't remove herself from my life, no matter how many times I told her that it wasn't going to work.

She would tell me that I wasn't a complete human because I wasn't religious.

whats that one religious group that sends women out to pick up men to basically convert them?

Thats what this sounds like.
- Challenge accepted.
- I doubt she was part of some organized group. But I don't know what the issue was.
Dick, meet crazy.

Just a moment ago me and my SO were talking about the company my dad works for and she said it's a shame they don't have work for me too (I'm unemployed) while knowing wery well I'm trying to gather up the courage to start my own bussines.

I don't care about the opinion of people I wouldn't ask for advice

I'm reasonably thick skinned, and often if I feel insulted I think about it awhile and decide I am wrongly interpreting whatever pissed me off. Only a couple of times I have kept getting madder and madder instead, so then I address the person who made the remark, and it's gone pretty well each time.

Once when a boss congratulated a new president of the "activities committee" by saying now we had a real president (after I had done it the year before, and gotten a lot done). This was years ago. Couple days later I confronted him and he said he'd been thinking about how rude that was, and was going to apologize.

I guess my point is - if you are easily insulted maybe it's you. If you are not easily insulted and get insulted you may have to communicate with the insulting party to be able to let it go.

When an ex told me she didn't think I had ambition, because she was getting a degree and I chose not to go back to school.

Fast forward, I have a very successful and fulfilling career, and I believe she never used her degrees. Whoops.

I told my first ever girlfriend (after several months of being together) that losing my virginity with someone I cared about was something important for me and she told me to "go find a whore". Now, I sure wasn't the most mature person in the world at the time, but that response hurt in a way I don't feel was warranted.