The ADHD Burnout Cycle

I've never been diagnosed with ADHD (although I've never been tested and my daughter has it) but this describes me very accurately. I've gotten through 46 years without any sort of help with ADHD, but maybe if I had been tested and gotten help for it, I would have been more successful.

I feel similar.
I have spoken about this topic with a good friend of mine, and his response was a long the lines of: "Yeah, I feel the same way. We all feel the same way. This is the normal human condition".
And I think along the lines of: Well, maybe both of us have ADHD and we are good friends because we relate to each other. Or, maybe my friend is right, and to a certain degree a lot of ADHD discussions over-pathologize behaviors and experiences that are common to healthy humans. I don't know. I haven't looked at the research on this topic.
An interesting study would be one in which this or a similar comic is shown to a random selection of college students with and without an ADHD diagnosis, and they are asked to rate how strongly they feel identified by the cycle presented. I am sure many studies like this have been done... If any of you has some literature with experiments like this one, I'd love to check it out.
- The main reason I think I might have it other than fitting a lot of symptoms generally is that my daughter has it and I would not be surprised if there were a genetic component.
- Will it's like the difference between sadness and depression. Yeah, everybody experiences sadness and scatterbrained-ness but if you have depression/ADHD it goes beyond localized incidents and begins to affect your day to day life.
  This can include your personal affect, even if you present fairly normal on a macro level.

I appreciate how much content you bring to Mander but don't burn yourself out lol!!

I just spent like 10 hours in the ER it's all good. 😅 Keeping me sane while I wait for surgery on my foot.
- That's a bummer, I hope you heal up quickly! I am curious while we are on the topic though, do you make use of any bots to assist with the number of posts, or do you just frequent certain news/scientific journals?
- Ugh, the ER is the worst. I've had to go three times so far this year and the shortest time I was there was six hours. And I went early in the morning all three times so the waiting room was empty when I got there.
- Hope you get better soon!
I just discovered this community and these resources are invaluable. But yes, OP shouldn't get worn out from posting all this 😄

Don’t forget a few new hobbies mixed in there!

"Avoidance"

It can be. This is a good, non-dry read: https://mashable.com/article/what-is-adhd-myths-stigma?europe=true
- Thanks! Very nice article. It addresses to a degree the comment I made above (https://mander.xyz/comment/797389)

I recognize myself in this cycle every time, but can’t break myself out of it

It helps a ton when you see it and learn to stop and re-evaluate. Those tips on here are pretty good advice. HALT helps too short term!

Is there a way to "save" posts on lemmy like you could on reddit?

Yes, there is. It appears as a star on the desktop browser. If you are using mobile, you may want to switch to the native web app, as it has all of these features. When you visit lemmy on a mobile browser, you should see an option to install it, it should say something along the lines of "add to home screen."
I hit the little bookmark icon (using Connect app).

I really feel this chart speaking to me

What phase are you on? I'm about 3-6pm.
- Yup, same for me. Moving into guilt and neglect. I'm moving and I should be packing boxes and cleaning my room, instead I'm here. I also have coding projects which I havent' worked on for a while, but I would like to finish soon 🤷 (for them in particular I'm close close to entering the quitting phase)
  Edit: What about your phases?