People who don't use other social media apart from Lemmy... how do you explain this decision to the average Joe with accounts for all existing social media?

I don't. This battle is lost.

Feels like it indeed. Just wanted to find some compelling arguments to spread the word of lemmy because I think it is awesome and the fediverse should be the future of social media and internet.
- You think its awesome. Play on this.
  
  Ideology often, isnt an argument for them. Restrain, boycott, minimalism, theses are not in their vocabulary I guess.
  
  They want the cool stuff. They are consumers to act like that.
  
  Example: Regarding /r/piracy, you can say original creators moved on Lemmy. Not why. And now /c/piracy is the "place to be" to have last news, features etc and /r/piracy decline very fast in quality. And there is nothing to learn anymore on it.
  
  But just to say, dude, have faith. You brave to want convince them. Force and honor on you. But don't break your mind ^^
  
  Regarding me, I've struggled a lot to make some of my contacts move on signal. Even they knew I just have that, Wasn't enough. Then I've just said, I just have signal, its enough for me not because of ideology but because I don't see the interest in others apps because I can have groups chat, video chat, instant messaging with it. In great quality. And the application do not DRAIN my battery's cells (never had them but I'm sure they do. Analytics baby) . That's helped a lot more to help them move 😂

My main reason is that I don't give a fuck about the person behind the content in most cases. Other sites put a much larger emphasis on following content creators, not content categories.

I’ve never discussed social media with an average Joe. People I know can call, text, or email me. Never met anyone that wasn’t sufficient for that I’ve cared to stay in contact with.

Yeah I also don't talk about social media in my daily life. I find myself frequently not understanding references to mainstream media memes or topics though. This is were the discussion normally begins because most people is like surprised that I don't use social media and they don't seem to understand how bad those big platforms are.

Hard to understand what you’re asking, but really the only thing I use is lemmy.

Just started it though.

I like the customization and flexibility the platform offers, and I like the decentralization.

I don’t know what will happen in the long run but I appreciate the lack of materialism. It’s just people talking, and memes.

Sorry if I didn't phrase my question correctly, english is not my native language. I'm also new to Lemmy and I love it so far (there had been some issues but it is expected from a newish platform with a rapidly growing user base). The lack of materialism is very much appreciated indeed and I think it is very lacking in our capitalist/cult of personality driven society.

Idk if I count because I use Tumblr regularly, but I never warmed up to Twitter, Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat (I do use Instagram to find tattoo artists occasionally tho).

Personally I just hate how posting to some social media feels like having to put on a mask, or how performative it is. That and the constant toxicity and negativity. It's bad for me, mentally, so I don't engage anymore. (Tumblr is the exception because my dashboard is exactly what I want and makes me happy.)

The anonymity of the Internet brings out the worst in people, the connectivity means I see every single bad thing that happens in the world. Bad for the brain.

Personally, I've found Reddit now Lemmy to be better than other social media because the focus is on the content rather than the poster.

Instead of following individual people, you follow topics. This encourages more quality content rather than personal clout
- I also like that in this format, you can get a lot of people's thoughts on a topic, including deeper conversation, all at once. In discord, I'm always having to scroll back & forth, and the other socials are frustrating to deal with.
- This is a great point

I just tell them I don't have any social media at all. Im not gonna start explaining lemmy or even reddit for that matter to someone who was asking for socials like insta and fb.

I don't, I guess. I don't really have a lot of conversations in real life about my social media activity. My wife knows I'm mad at Reddit, and that I installed a new app on her phone to scroll memes. 😂

All the average Joes I know use facebook and whatsapp, some of them don't even know what reddit is, no point in discussing with them lol

tho Lemmy is not the only one I use, I also have discord and accounts on a few forums (not sure you consider those social media).

Because it’s basically Reddit but actually usable on mobile

Also Kbin is better but has weird rep rules and lacks an API so there currently aren’t mobile apps I can use

I’ve seen a lot of people say that kbin is better but I’ve really gravitated toward Lemmy. What makes it better to you?
- The UI and UX (save for replying at the bottom), integration with Mastodon et al, the auto expand images option and appearance customizablity, the concept of tweeting in a sub, how users centralize on the main server (ironic ik)
  
  The only dealbreakers I can think of are the weird rep system (boosting gives rep, upvoting doesn’t, downvoting subtracts rep) and the lack of API, both of which they are supposedly working on
- Oh and also 196 isn’t full of gay NSFW text that isn’t tagged as NSFW
- Also, sorting posts/threads works a lot better on Kbin. Meanwhile on Lemmy you might get a 21d-old post while sorting by hot.

I just tell them that I have a really bad attention span, and sites like Instagram or TikTok would eat me alive. Hell, I can't even use the real Youtube App because I get sucked into Youtube Shorts very quickly (have to use ReVanced with all shorts and community posts turned off).

Which is why I gotta stick to boring niche nerd sites lol

I don't bother talking to them, generally. It's a fairly good metric to determine if someone is worth my time. Time is my most precious resource: I have very little of it free, and what little I do have, I've no desire to spend with people who are glued to their phones desperately searching for a dopamine hit whilst they're already hanging out IRL.

Doomscrolling is real, and it's addictive as fuck.

Not sure if you're distinguishing social media from messenging. I am, so as far as discussing social media:

I don't. Why would I? In Germany, at least for the 30+ population WhatsApp is the basic consensus for instant messaging (albeit there seems to be a trend towards instagram as a messenger - sharing instagram handles instead of phone numbers among younger people?). I'll have to accept that, or not communicate.

Anyways, I have a handful of people who are on Signal, a couple of people on Telegram, one on Threema, and I installed them all and use DM Me to pick the "best available" option if I need to start a conversation with someone and can't just reply to a notification.

As for other social media (lemmy), people either know it, or they don't care either way. Zero reason for discussions.

I'm not really sure what there would be to "explain", and if someone asked me to explain my decision to them, I'd ask them to explain/clarify their question a bit more directly... I'm not even trying to be sarcastic or facetious here, I am dead serious.

I tell them about privacy (which was the same for Reddit for me), if they don't care, I don't convince them.