My wife and I were (emphasis on WERE) raised in very religious circles and as such we were "saving ourselves" for marriage at the beginning of our relationship. I was already drifting away from the religious world and thought this practice was dumb but loved her enough for innumerable other reasons that I would go through basically whatever to wait for her.
4 years into our 7 year dating relationship I was very stupid and ended up having a drunken three way with two of her best friends in a public park. Long story. My S.O. never found out from any of us.
One of the women contacted me nearly a decade later drunk and crying in order to confess that she had gotten pregnant from the encounter and had gotten an abortion with her parents help but never told anyone else.
My wife and I dated for 7 years and have been married for just short of 9 years. I moved us to the other side of the country for work to limit the possible interactions with her former friends, and encouraged her in many ways to have as large a friend group as possible in our new life to curtail the desire to reach out to our old group. New address and new phone numbers to make it more difficult for people to find us out of the blue. This will never see the light of day in our relationship.
I love my wife to the ends of the earth and back, this is the one thing (other than the consistency of my bowel movements) I will ever keep from her.
My secret is that I know I'm actually the only real human, and everybody else are aliens posing as humans to study my behavior. That's why I purposefully make random decisions and actions from time to time, to throw them off.
I still have to figure out if I'm the last human alive, if every remaining human is being studied like me, or if there is a real human society somewhere.
You're not actual a "real human." You're an alien just like us, but we convinced you that you were human so we could study "human behavior". One behavior we've identified is paranoia.
Reminds me so much of a particular Philip K. Dick story. A solider's tour in Korea is over and returning home he notices that everything is fake. Artificial sweetener, instant coffee, faux leather shoes, hair styles, etc. He gets the idea that the aliens took over the US and setup a few fake burbs for the soldiers returning home, to isolate them and eventually pick them off one by one.
Snoring is often a sign of sleep apnea, which is easily treatable. Your wife should take a sleep test to see if she has it. Can take years off your life if left undiagnosed.
You could try to fix this from a very different angle by buying those strips for the nose against snoring. Those strips can temporarily unobstruct the air flow in the nose.
If you hold secrets and do not tell the whole thing (even the most disgusting stuff) to your SO... then it means that s/he is not that "special" anymore.
I mean, a relationship is never meant to be one-sided, but a "You and me" thing. And if you don't think like that, then you are doing it wrong.
"So you are telling me to just throw random disgusting stuff to my SO?"
No. Call him/her in particular, "Hey can we talk a bit?". It does wonders, that is all I can say about it.
t. Used to "play the tough guy" back in my early years. Took the "My life is an open book" route. Never looked back since then.
No, there is something called discretion. I don't for example have to tell my wife what I think of her father. She loves him, my kids love him, I think he is a great father-in-law there is zero need for me to comment on his body odor issues to her.
...and I said to call (whoever is troubling you) in particular and bring the issue up = discretion. And using your words well, you can even talk about someone's lack of hygiene/odor.