I'm doing pretty good. One more week of work before a long overdue vacation. Also finally had a consultation for gender affirming surgery which I am so so excited about. Things looking good at the moment!
I just started Summer Vacation today! Will be going on a hiking trip with my sisters in Norway in a couple of days, can't wait! Hope you all are doing great :)
My annual review morphed into a long meeting where the outcome was all involved realized the position wasn't going to allow me any growth, and they can't just create a higher-paying position for me (10 employees total), and they don't really want automation because what they have requires no training.
On the plus side, no one's really eager for me to go, so I have quite a bit of paid runway. I'd been thinking more over the weekend anyway about how I couldn't honestly say I was enjoying my job anymore, and I guess I hadn't been hiding that as well as I thought.
Now, all I need to do is find a new job while executing an even larger lifestyle change.
Monday. Alarm goes off. Partner says to turn it off cause she set hers for later. She did not.
Cue panic mode.
Partner looks at clock. It is 8:22. Son needs to be at school in 8 minutes. There is a class trip.
We made it. School is across the street.
Came home. Sat on couch and wasted time on internet. At 9:30 my phone pings. Says I have a meeting at 10. I think, "that's a mistake...I work this afternoon".
I check the online schedule. I have meetings all morning from 10 to 1PM.
Cue panic. Shower and eating. Dressed. Run out the door. Exhausted. Hot. No coffee.
I partied too hard this last weekend because so many pride parties. I knew artists at 3 gigs and ended up running host/mgr duty for 2 (luckily one had host assigned because it was a bigger venue). I think I ended up at like 7 different parties plus the main parade, I kinda lost count lol. I'm not sick, but I can tell I'm probably gonna be soon. 11/10 worth it, fun fun weekend
I really was dreading work this week. There are a number of large things that are kind of just getting kicked down the road so itβs hard to truly disconnect on the weekends. I have a good plan and support network but itβs just a long road.
Sometimes in life, we have to just accept being uncomfortable and work through it. I have also found a new power in positive self-talk, combining this with meditation has given me some well needed moments of peace of mind.
Starting the fun task of looking for work. Have a few prospects but god i just wish i had another option. Still, im not at risk of being back homeless and i got some time to rest so i should be grateful. I just had hoped i would be more mentally healthy before i had to go back, you know?
Pretty great actually! I just signed the offer letter for a new job and will turn in my notice at my current job later today. I've also been reconnecting with some old friends and was able connect some of them back with each other too. I stayed up a little late playing some games with them last night. It was great hearing everyone goofing around together again, it almost felt llike no time had passed at all
Well week 2 of "potentially going to just end up homeless" is pretty shit too. Looked at a house an hour away, it was awful, roof in disrepair, the guy was living in one room and smoking in it after his divorce so the whole house smelled like smoke, there was moss growing in a window. Multiple other issues. Noped out of that one.
Stared at realtor site longer.
One gets listed that's perfect, it meets every single one of our needs and isn't a long commute, we go look, put in an offer. We have the highest offer. Our agent calls saying the realtor says if we can offer a gap coverage if the house appraises lower we'll be close, we can do a small gap (5k) and still have enough to close. She calls back later, apparently they're now between us and another offer, but they have a higher gap so if we can offer 10k and extend closing date we'll probably get it. Talk to family, they say we can borrow 3k if necessary, great we have just enough.
Nope they did the same thing to the other buyer and increased the gap and chose them.
I just want to give up. Fuck all of this, fuck shitty landlords and fuck scummy real estate agents, fuck the housing market, fuck not having enough money, fml
I took next week off from work just because I can and I don't know what I'm going to do. I'd like to make the most of it but I can't decide between doing something really cool and doing nothing at all; both are tempting!
Otherwise, things are going pretty great. I might be able to go full remote at work (which would mean I don't need to quit anymore), and I've prepared a wonderful peach, feta & cucumber salad for lunch.
Stressing out!! Waiting for my broken car to get fixed, which I can barely afford, and will be fixed... on the day I go in for top surgery... on the 5th of July. So much financial juggling and trying to do things while being scared of getting sick at all.
Mine not so good. I had some problems with my mother and the relationship is not going well. I hope everything goes better with the time or I will be forced to leave home.
Life has been slow and lately I'm having a bit of self doubt. But today I get to eat dominos pizza, so... I'm happy in the moment. I dunno why but the pizza is just really good to me rn lol.
Turns out I might have either lupus ("it's never lupus", until it is) and/or SjΓΆgren's syndrome. Got a bunch of incredibly expensive blood tests done today (yay universal healthcare. Oh wait the conservatives effectively destroyed it so I have to use private healthcare and I'm uninsurable due to pre-existing conditions) and now I'm just waiting and experiencing nontrivial amounts of dread. Life was already barely worth living what with my existing health issues that already include autoimmune conditions, so this is just icing on the cake
Will be better when itβs over. Last week in a job that my days are numbered in, hopefully the next adventure will be more energising.
By the way, when I upgraded from 0.17.4 to 0.18.0, I noticed the UI for blocking instances changed and was missing my list in the admin panel (still visible on the /instances page). I added a blocked instance and it nuked my entire pre-0.18 list. Might have been a freak accident but it might be worth making a copy of Beehawβs first just in case. Oh and itβs no longer comma-separated, you have to add them one-by-one
Turbocleaned the house last night, passed out, woke up early. Not sure what I'm going to do now, but I think I'm just going to try and enjoy myself for a bit, as a reward.
My sleeping schedule is bananas. I decided to just give up, and I've been slowly going to sleep at later and later times. Currently my bed time is ~5pm. A month ago it was ~4am. :s
Feeling good so far: Iβm working toward my Salesforce Admin cert and I spent the morning learning about some cool reporting functionalities I never used in my past sales roles.
Also finally finished some severely-delayed Spring cleaning: I gathered a bunch of stuff to throw away a few weeks ago, but got sidetracked and left it sitting by the stairs until my brain labeled it βfurnitureβ and forgot it was there even though it was a giant pile of clutter in plain sight. (Does this happen to anyone else??)
I also went to Trader Joeβs and found a unicorn: a tired, unenthused cashier. But right as I was about to say βyou really donβt have to give commentary on my purchases, itβs coolβ another cashier ran up and complimented my haircut. Darn it, maybe Iβll escape next time. At least I know jaded Trader Joeβs cashiers exist now.
It's going well. I just got my degree. I've moved, cat and partner is settling in OK as well (cat currently resting underneath the bush outside the door, partner in the sofa). Starting my new job next week, so now I'm just enjoying the summer, gaming and relaxing.
I started therapy recently and after my session yesterday I felt really similar to how I've felt in the past after unloading a lot of my emotions in a giant cry session. I think that means I've unbottled those emotions in a healthier way this time, which is exciting!
Work is still stressful though, but I'll keep getting by.
It's going okay so far, but my area is forecast to have highs in the 100s later this week and I'm not sure how that's gonna affect me, since I only really know how to dress in layers for work (I'm a trans woman working an office IT job where I do occasionally step outside or carry computers from one bldg to another)
Like, I'm gonna be wearing a thin cardigan over a tank top and I know I'm gonna sweat. Oh, and my hair instantly goes frizzy when I sweat. I'm dreading it.
Loooong weekend with a very heavy Monday. My mind is frayed after work today, but I was actually able to make decent progress on something that's been on huge stress. I feel good about that. It certainly isn't an engineering masterpiece, but it does the job which makes me super glad! Looking forward to getting it near complete tomorrow.
Now, I just wanna go to bed, but I promised my two youngest another (what feels like) ten million rounds of Smash Bros. π« π¬
As much as mushy as my brain feels in the moment, I have a lot to be grateful for. π
Plus, there's birthday cake left over from this weekend. π€ͺ
It is already too much. I am not looking forward to the rest. I am happy alyaza is here to share all the links to keep me from thinking about work too much. Thank you alyaza!
I'm going to a nearby convention for work for most of this week. The convention itself isn't terribly interesting, but it has been nice to catch up with old friends and meet some new people.
Looking ahead, this is my first proper weekend off in over a year, so I'm looking around for a good destination for a weekend trip (something I'm told normal people do!). Any recommendations within a 4-5 hour drive from downtown Chicago?
Not bad! Had my first shift in a new job last night and I LOVED it! It's just a part time thing a few hours a week but I really feel like I'm playing to my strengths in my job at last.
Had a bit of a wild weekend (happy pride!) so I've been doing my best to eat clean, exercise and take lots of supplements. Did my first spin class in years yesterday and it wasn't complete torture! Still not feeling 100% but I've definitely been through worse.
Got a job offer for basically my same job +25% pay. Hoping my current place is willing to negotiate a match though because going to a bigger company would also give me less freedom to work on what I want.
Pretty good. I passed my licensure exam on the first try and I'm the only person I know who did that AND took the test that others avoid. I honestly just wanted my life back whether I passed or not. I studied (or thought about studying) basically every damn day for the past month or so. FREEDOM!!!
For one, I now suffers from sleep OCD. Every time I put my head into the pillow, I always have the feeling that I slept just slightly out of the middle of the pillow, even though I clearly don't.
This happens to other things, too. I kept changing the fan, the sleep position, the blanket, over and over again. And I think it's a main reason why I can't sleep well in the past couple of days. I have a really good sleep yesterday tho.
I also, temporarily, develop a fear for sleep. I don't know if this comes from me watching too much creepy TV IDs, or that one thought about a TV sign-off that is straight up horror movie to terrify the children, but whenever I sleep, I feel a sense of danger, like something is gonna come out of nowhere and devour me.
I don't know what it is. I just know it is something terrifying.
Anyways, in the past week I have been focusing more on my social media presence. I don't know why but I seem to focus more on how's my account doing, how's my art doing, etc.
I was planning to attend the local pride parade and festival yesterday, but didn't go due to sheer laziness lol. So I got stoned and watched YouTube with my boyfriend instead.
Speaking of my boyfriend, three of his Horror Bishoujo figurines came in the mail from Japan today (Chucky, Freddy Krueger, and Edward Scissorhands). He's excited to put them up and I'm happy for him.
pretty alright! finished my last exam yesterday, and will be needing to find a job for the summer between semesters, so iβve been a bit stressed and nervous for needing to do that and just the future generally. i have one atm, but i donβt think iβll be able to get as many hours as iβd like, and tuition isnβt going to pay itself π
I gave my boots to the local cobbler (one of two in a 30 km radius) because the sole is coming off and getting hole-y. This guy, whom I assumed would have maybe a couple repair jobs every few months, is completely overbooked and thus I'll see my boots in maybe five weeks or so again. But, honestly, I'm glad for him that his little shop is booming (relatively speaking)