Helping others vs. helping yourself

Honestly it's more like

Oh boy, a well-defined task with a beginning, progress, an end, and an obvious benefit to someone! I get to be valuable!

versus

I have several days' worth of clean clothes, there is no need to rush

Yeah, tbh, I tend to not do a lot of my chores because.. I don't feel the need to. Why clean when I'm ok with the current level of dirtyness? Why wash when I still got clean stuff that I want to wear? Etc.
- Just realize that your level of comfort with dirt and debris can change gradually. And all of a sudden, you are hip deep in trash
Exactly this, for me at least.

I was a failure relative to my peers in my late thirties, got diagnosed with ADHD and it’s insane.

So before I always wanted to be a software developer but I couldn’t finish shit, and just procrastinated and kept learning but never progressing.

Afterwards, I am now a software developer and working from a massive spec sheet has kept me engaged the whole time. I still suck at planning but give me a plan and I’ll knock it put the park.

What remains to be seen is if I still have the same vigour, 1 year, 2 years in etc.
For me personally, even if I don't have days of clean clothes and NEED to do laundry like right now, it's still way harder to do something for myself than it is to do it for someone else.
Wow.. true!

I don’t know what I ever did to you to be called out like this.

It's your fault for having ADHD! 👿
- I blame my parents.

Sometimes it helps to think of yourself as a friend you are helping out.

Right, but my problem is that I hate myself
- Try doing it out of spite.
  
  "That lump of shit in my cranium thinks I can't do this task, well, I'll show you, you glob of expired tapioca pudding!"

I am still fighting with back pain from last weekend, when I helped friends to carry 9 cubic meters of firewood. Would help again any time.

I am also, in this very moment, fighting to get up from my couch and start, at the very least fucking start my washing machine or dishwasher. I am loosing.

You can do it. This internet stranger believes in you.

With this site I feel it's like.. aren't these problems everyone suffers from? Or am I just projecting my potential fear of having a condition 😅

As has been said previously to this question: most people likely have issues like this from time to time, what makes it problematic is having them almost constantly and to such a degree that it's crippling.

Everyone coughs from time to time, but if you have a chronic cough that's so bad that you cough up blood every time, that's not normal and you need to see a doctor.
- See mom, I told you I am fine!
Kinda. One post I like to quote is the one that says that everybody pees too, but if you do it 30 times in an hour you need a doctor. ADHD is relatable to everyone because everybody deals with our problems to some extent, just in much more manageable doses.
The thing that separates a disorder from a normal issue is the magnitude and/or frequency of occurrence. E.G. most people that currently have a uterus will get cramps on their period, but if they're actively in pain instead of just uncomfortable something is probably wrong
- That is a bad example because many women are actively in pain with cramps and have seen a doctor about it but have been told they're just unlucky.
- Yeah that kinda makes me worried about myself tho lol
If everyone had this particular issue the world would be very different I think.
- You're probably right
https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/4051762
- Just pondering on my own misery, cause I can relate is all. Wasn't trying to put OP down for feeling it. I'll try to be more careful with the wording next time thx
Speaking facts

Guilty af.

Why is this relateble

Well this hits too close to home.