Yeah, tbh, I tend to not do a lot of my chores because.. I don't feel the need to. Why clean when I'm ok with the current level of dirtyness? Why wash when I still got clean stuff that I want to wear? Etc.
I was a failure relative to my peers in my late thirties, got diagnosed with ADHD and it’s insane.
So before I always wanted to be a software developer but I couldn’t finish shit, and just procrastinated and kept learning but never progressing.
Afterwards, I am now a software developer and working from a massive spec sheet has kept me engaged the whole time. I still suck at planning but give me a plan and I’ll knock it put the park.
What remains to be seen is if I still have the same vigour, 1 year, 2 years in etc.
For me personally, even if I don't have days of clean clothes and NEED to do laundry like right now, it's still way harder to do something for myself than it is to do it for someone else.
I am still fighting with back pain from last weekend, when I helped friends to carry 9 cubic meters of firewood. Would help again any time.
I am also, in this very moment, fighting to get up from my couch and start, at the very least fucking start my washing machine or dishwasher. I am loosing.
As has been said previously to this question: most people likely have issues like this from time to time, what makes it problematic is having them almost constantly and to such a degree that it's crippling.
Everyone coughs from time to time, but if you have a chronic cough that's so bad that you cough up blood every time, that's not normal and you need to see a doctor.
Kinda. One post I like to quote is the one that says that everybody pees too, but if you do it 30 times in an hour you need a doctor. ADHD is relatable to everyone because everybody deals with our problems to some extent, just in much more manageable doses.
The thing that separates a disorder from a normal issue is the magnitude and/or frequency of occurrence. E.G. most people that currently have a uterus will get cramps on their period, but if they're actively in pain instead of just uncomfortable something is probably wrong
Just pondering on my own misery, cause I can relate is all. Wasn't trying to put OP down for feeling it. I'll try to be more careful with the wording next time thx