After two weeks I visited reddit again. Holy shit the misogyny and lack of critical thinking in the comments is something else.
Eternal summer over there
Absolutely. This place may be less active, but discussions have definitely been much more civil and constructive. So far, I haven't had any toxic reactions to any of my comments, whereas on reddit no matter what you write or however careful you write it, there would always be someone taking offense at it or being awful in the comments.
I don't mind discussion or disagreement, but on reddit this often means "bringing the other guy down" instead of making your own point.
As this started happening more and more throughout the years, I've often wondered if it was me, if I was so out of touch, but it turned out it was really the children (redditors) who were wrong.
On Reddit, I gave up on engaging with anything that people even have strong opinions about years ago because I wasn't there looking for a bad time. It's a hard habit to get out of; I'm basically that pink blob in a box meme.
I couldn't agree more, discussion is a lot more civil. Even when we're all disagreeing I've found people are giving each other room to put their point forward and listened (apart from one climate chnage thread but nothings perfect).
As this started happening more and more throughout the years, I’ve often wondered if it was me, if I was so out of touch, but it turned out it was really the children (redditors) who were wrong.
my personal hypothesis is that the empathic and constructive people are exactly the ones driven away by the money hungry deconstructing antics that reddit leadership currently display.
The first batch of people to make the jump IMO would have been quite open-minded and not afraid to try something new.
Add in the entry barriers (When I joined, the big instances had either closed or manual signups, prior to lemmyworld and shititjustworks exploding in popularity) and that kind of faff probably weeded out trolls and people looking to cause trouble.
A lot of the "awful" people don't care about the API or Spez's attitude, they just want to consume, so have no reason really to make the jump to Lemmy/Kbin
Bad day? Because there's no way to word myself more neutrally, that came out of left field and it kinda makes you come off like one of those "can't be racist against white people" people...
The “/s” is used to indicate that the previous text was sarcasm. It’s a fake HTML formatting tag, meaning the sarcastic part of the text is over.
“/s” was popular on reddit (though not with everyone), probably because so many users didn’t speak English as their native language, and sarcasm could be hard for them to detect. Even for native speakers, without tone of voice or body language to rely on, sarcasm could go unrecognized.
Also, some users were willfully ignorant and looking to start a fight, some were oblivious, and others were just morons.
Heaven forbid TwoXChromosomes not be a default subreddit. I remember when not every OP was badgered so badly in the comments that she had to go back and ETA "not all men" to the post text. Or how women with scathing and accurate insights about the patriarchy didn't have to always have reddit cares reports filed on their accounts!
This subreddit is the reason I jumped ship before the blackouts. I loved interacting with people there and I don't want to participate in what's it's likely to become. Once the third party mod tools are gone there will be no relatively safe spaces for the ladies on Reddit. I don't want any part of the trolling and misogyny that's being unleashed over there.
"I promise I make up fantasies where I get to punch women because I totally just believe in equal rights and not because of misogyny or anything!" - every time. oh and you'd get downvoted to hell if you pointed this stuff out.
I was just saying to my spouse this morning how it seems that the smart people have left reddit as there is a discernible drop in the comment quality in some of the communities I frequent. Unfortunately they haven’t even been registered here just yet. I am quitting reddit in a week anyway hopefully by then more of those communities will migrate here. I created two (Signal, Amex), hope others will follow suit.
I've been saying this to friends, but I'd be careful with even cursory viewing of Reddit for the foreseeable future. It took a long enough time as it was for Reddit to become not overwhelmingly reactionary. The Reddit migration moving into primarily leftist spaces is going to leave behind a website that is quite literally conservative, and bitter. (Note that I am not suggesting people stay behind to re-balance it, merely to be aware that the site is not going to be just the same site with less people on it.)