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Yeah they just kinda fucked us up. Not only does it make kids less likely to develop resilience to challenges when you single them out and praise them for being ‘smart,’ it ties their self worth to being ‘smart’ and doing things easily. Kids who are praised for their hard work and effort, on the other hand, tend to do better long term because they internalize what is valuable about them isn’t immediately understanding things or having it come easily, but the persistence to do it even when it’s not easy.

100%. Thanks for putting this into words.
Yeah... I wasn't even that smart. I just have really good reading comprehension and recall stuff I've read. Since like everything in school was memorization based it was pretty easy for me to do well enough to get by without trying too hard. If I actually had to apply knowledge though I was average at best. I figure most shit out just by being stubborn and ramming my head into the wall until I break through. Which doesn't help when it's something I don't actually want to do. The transition into college was rough.

Flashbacks to me in college thinking "Oh, I actually have to study? WTF is this nonsense?"

I genuinely only had a couple classes in college that required studying.
They were a horrific struggle and brought my gpa way down.
Needless to say the real world is a lot more like those few classes than the bulk of them..

Was this way for a while. Fortunately, there are keys to unlock.

Also, fixed and growth mindset.

Fixed mindset believes that you are born with the talents you have, if you aren't good at something, why try, and base whole ego systems around talents. Therefore crashing entire ego systems upon any failures.

Growth mindset understands that failures are able to be utilized as amazing teaching tools, and practice is always a pathway to levelling up.

Heaps more to them than just that, though.

I also want to point fingers to the meat grinder that capitalism is, against neurodivergent grains, and that being gifted, in and of itself, is a neurodivergence.

That's just high iq adhd.

Semi-common experience. What's everybody who's gone through it doing about it today?

I try to remind myself "criticisms" are usually just observations. They rarely need a response, even the ones coming from yourself

Yuuuuup