It's not enough to tell men what not to be. What is a positive vision of masculinity? | Anark
It's not enough to tell men what not to be. What is a positive vision of masculinity? | Anark
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I don’t see gender roles bringing a lot of value to the world, so I’d rather work towards rejecting them outright rather than trying to refine them.
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I agree, and the creator of the video actually goes into that toward the end, suggesting that positive masculine and feminine traits are actually just universally good traits to have, and any attribution towards one being more attuned to one gender or another is an artificial social creation.
However, our shared stance on gender is still quite uncommon, I think, so the video creator is attempting to at least direct those who still hold firmly to gender roles as a concept toward a more positive outcome, instead of adopting negative traits and thinking it's good because it "makes them a man/woman".
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I agree, and the creator of the video actually goes into that toward the end, suggesting that positive masculine and feminine traits are actually just universally good traits to have, and any attribution towards one being more attuned to one gender or another is an artificial social creation.
They do, but there is a difference between acknowledging that men can also have feminine traits, and asking what these categories are really doing for us in the first place.
Still, I should say it's a solid video. The concept of near enemies is very useful when thinking about any set of goals or values, and if it helps some people arrive at a healthier view of their own gender that's great. Variety of tactics and all that.
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My positive vision of masculinity is using your power to protect the vulnerable, rather than punching down at them. As others have said, that is what Aragorn did.
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That was a fascinating video, thank you for sharing. I have to admit, I was hesitant to click because I didn't want my feed to be full of toxic masculinity stuff, but I really appreciated it.
I think the worth of it is as an aid to "deprogram" the manosphere types - the concept of near enemies really helps to show that, yes, the ideals taught were in the right general area, but just slightly skewed.
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To me, the epitome of positive masculinity is Aragorn from the Lord of the Rings movies (and also the book). Gentle, caring, not afraid to show emotion, cries, kisses his friends on the forehead, and yet a total badass, and Viggo just looks like a masculine dude. I don’t think even the most conservative Christian nationalist could argue that he’s feminine. If I had a son (who chose to identify as a man) and he turned out to be like Aragorn, I don’t think I could be a prouder parent.