About 5 years ago, I had this dream... I was sat at the bottom of a spiral staircase, in what I knew to be my house, having a party with my fiancee sat next to me. I laughed and said "How did I get so lucky, someone pinch me!". Fiancee pinched me, I said "ow!" and we laughed. Then I woke up, fucking brutal sense of loss for a wonderful life that suddenly didn't exist.
I still remember it quite clearly. Last month my landlord served notice on me after 13 years (wants to sell), I'm self employed and always thought a mortgage was out of the question. Well... I have tenative approval from a lender... and an offer accepted on a house... still time for it to fall apart. So I refuse to get excited till keys in hand.
Anyway this has turned into a bit of a long ting. But just wanted to share, for anyone else who thinks it's impossible... it's very hard. But do-able.
Reality:
You get fucked by big companies. Your snow is reduced to februrary because of climate change.
Finding a special other is almost impossible due to social media fed anxiety. Meeting people outside of the internet is unknown and people on the internet are the weirdest ones.
Owning a house is a privilege of the upper society.
Thanks to our parents and grand parents the governments in most countries are more right wing than before.
Choose Life. Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family. Choose a fucking big television, choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players and electrical tin openers. Choose good health, low cholesterol, and dental insurance. Choose fixed interest mortgage repayments. Choose a starter home. Choose your friends. Choose leisurewear and matching luggage. Choose a three-piece suit on hire purchase in a range of fucking fabrics. Choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on Sunday morning. Choose sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing, spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing fucking junk food into your mouth. Choose rotting away at the end of it all, pissing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, fucked up brats you spawned to replace yourselves. Choose your future.
God I hope I don’t have kids in my late mid 40’s. Can I imagine living in a shack I built on some land I bought and I don’t have to talk to idiots everyday about nonsense? Nne of that shit in the meme appeals to me.
c/aboringdystopia
Boomer fanfiction is so hot right now.
The nice part is "the kids are asleep" because kids are so much fucking work when they are awake. "You made it" means you finally got the kids too sleep because they ate too much sugar and were bouncing off the fucking walls because "I can't sleep because I'm too excited".
I remember seeing this meme about twelve years ago and thinking Yeah I got this. Well, I didn't and I don't.
Snow, in this climate?
Must be nuclear fallout.
I'm 8 years in right now, 2 more to go but damn what a struggle. Building a house while simultaneously raising 3 kids and working a full time job is really hard. Thank God for the best wife I could ever ask for.
I do not dream of labor. Ten years from now I hope I am building apocalypse resistant shelters with my affinity group, growing my own food and filtering my own water, and growing cannabis for trade.
Not the hard work addressing my alcoholism, apparently
I could, but Christmas Day 2033 is a Sunday.
Oh brother...
I don't see it. I wish I did but I don't :(
the kids are asleep
So unrealistic
10 years from now ... It's snowing
cherish it
Didn't happen
Alternatively, skip the kids and get there 20 years earlier.
Kill me right now if that's my future lmao
I mean, there's "wholesome", and then there's "pull the other one, it's got bells on".
This but no kids
Already married (more than a decade). Nice home (but renting). Disabled so can't work but that's OK, we make the best of it. We don't celebrate Christmas but I can imagine Winter Solstice or Matariki. Kids are almost asleep, so close enough. My spouse and I snuggle like this most nights. Holy shit, it's snowing?! It doesn't snow here so I'm simultaneously delighted for a once in a lifetime snowfall but also disturbed that it's snowing.... We homeschool, what day of the week is it again? The hardwork is indeed worth it.
Still 7/10 ain't bad 😅
Every day is 'making it' though and will be for the rest of our lives since life is ever changing and ever evolving. Find hygge and gratitude every day and you'll realise that you don't need to achieve some fake "made it" state because you already have 💜
I dig your username.
I don't want a job or kids. Both sound stressful
Oh bother
I got it a couple of times. Waiting for the next time.
Lmao I thought that 10 years ago. Now I have a house, a good job and 3 cats.
6 years ago my wife died. I chose to keep on going for our cats. I've since remarried, we have a daughter on the way, two dachshunds, we bought a house, and I reconnected with my mother after 15 years. Life is so fucking hard but sometimes we get lucky. Keep rolling the dice until you can't no more.
if this was 1975 I would totally picture it
