Hello Reddthat đź‘‹
Hello Reddthat đź‘‹
Hi, ADHDer here. I just deleted my reddit account last night and have come by here, made an account (I did make one for sh.itjust.works first to try out, and there's nothing wrong there whatsoever, but I feel that this instance would do me a little bit better) and everything. I'm pretty sure my change in medication made me RSD myself out of there, deleting my Reddit account in a moment of high emotional turmoil.
No no, no one was truly to blame for me ultimately leaving that site. The mods there are just extremely busy, and thus would've no choice but to enforce certain rules rigidly and ambivalently if they were to ever get anything done. I think I might've pushed an unknown boundary by cross posting on a sub, and the resulting no communication, a new rule seemingly appearing in place, the deletion of my post, and all of my comments (probably some kind of automod did that part of the cleanup), was a bit too much to handle.
They impartially and emotionlessly moderated their sub, which wasn't wrong of them to do so. They likely don't have nearly the energy to separate the spammers and trolls from the genuine participant sharing passionately and enthusiastically about something that means a lot to them and them only. And in typical ADHD fashion, I was too much. I crossposted to 3 other subs, the mods used "mod discretion" and cleaned me up.
There's no hard feelings here to them from me, not really, not even from the very beginning of the ordeal. But that doesn't mean I wasn't hurt emotionally, even if I didn't disagree intellectually. I should be out of there completely for my mental health, I have left that place for me and me only. Not that the people on Reddit weren't genuinely good people, but just seeing a bunch of people arguing and arguing—and the algorithm robotically pushing and pushing those conflict generating (high interaction) posts higher and higher up my feed—and being generally negative wasn't doing me any good as I doom scrolled my time and mental energy away, even when I barely even participated in the majority of them.
This is a new start, I kept trying to go back to reddit.com, but my heart knows it has done the right thing. It's surprisingly freeing not having this chain around me anymore, despite the initial angst I had felt with that irreversible decision.
The inability to downvote nor see any downvotes, and thus me not having any urge to engage with negativity, would hopefully also be a positive change to come.
Hello Reddthat. đź‘‹ I hope I'll end up a net positive to this homely community. And I'll try not to be too much again if I can help it.
Welcome ! And good decision. there quite few active communities already on adhd
Point to note there is no algo to farm your dopamine here and your eye ball time. So be mindful of that, it might seem boring at first with less activity but it is a good opportunity to participate:)
Enjoy the ride.
Thanks a lot. I feel so welcomed already.
I'm counting on the lack of algorithms and even the lack of endless niche content of every conceivable subject to make my use of "Reddit" a far healthier affair. Reddit wasn't good for me, but I know I can't give up on an online community entirely. I love to participate and share way too much not to be sucked in again, and without an alternative, I fear I would've likely returned there, and shackle myself once again with a new account.
I wouldn't want that.
I know there are other, more active ADHD communities out there, in fact, I deliberately chose this one because I didn't want this to be some public performance. The ADHD community here is the very definition of dead, I'm the only post here after all, and only Reddthat users should've seen this at all on their local feed if they even would, or at least that was my intention.
Seeing a comment from another instance is a surprise. Not an unwelcomed one, a very pleasant and special one in fact. You must be 1 of the only 80 subscribers here (previously 78), a tiny—and can be argued, were this Reddit: positively insignificant—amount in social media terms. There are no algorithms of discovery that would otherwise bring my post to you, what are the odds. What are the odds.
I had never gone into Reddit to chase inconsequential numbers, and a few comments here and there in a 100k subscriber sub is just inevitable, even if they would make me happy when they're the positive and encouraging kind.
This, this is special.
Lots of people (myself included) browse Lemmy by /all and just block comms they don't wanna see. So no matter how "empty" or "dead" a comm is, after a few hours you'll almost always get some activity.
I love Lemmy. Been here over 2 years now and never looked back.
I normally browse /all/hot till that runs out, then go to New or Scaled if im desperate or bored
Yes you got it. Have fun! And if you go in all you might find some niche communities (like I did to see your post)