Am I an asshole for not wanting to get a job when I have enough passive income to support us both?
Am I an asshole for not wanting to get a job when I have enough passive income to support us both?
My girlfriend says she doesn't like that I don't work and don't do anything to "develop myself". I have passive income that's more than enough for us to live rather comfortably in the city I live in. I pretty much support her at the moment, as well as myself, but she says she doesn't want to get a job because I don't have one, and that annoys her that I'll be able to sit at home and do what I want or just be busy with my hobbies.
I told her that I'm not forcing her to work, and even if she does work, she would only have to work like 2 days a week, not even a lot, but she says that it would bug her that I'm just sitting at home.
I get that she has the right to want someone who has ambition, but I also have the right to just live on what I have.
I told her that I'm willing to cook and clean and do most of the house work, but she says that she can do all of that by herself.
I'm assuming this is a Nobody Is the asshole situation?
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It could be that she feels stuck. I think she wants growth, dreams, goals, excitement. Not status quo for the rest of your lives.
Neither of you is an asshole, you just have different visions on life 🩷
But is he stopping her from growing, having dreams, goals, excitement? He just said so far that he doesn't want to earn more money. That has literally nothing to do with what you just said.
I think expecting to get these things from your partner instead of working towards them yourself is very toxic.
It's not necessarily about getting them from your partner, but sharing a certain drive or ambition. Not just existing.
I just don't see the point of complaining and trying to change your current partner. People should be who they are and not change majorly for anyone else.
Exactly, and neither is an asshole if that doesn't match