What's one beauty standard that you don't agree with?

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I like how the standard has fractured and there isn't really a standard now, but I do also kind of like the obviously fake bodies being the standard because an insistence on natural beauty is more oppressive than the idea of beauty as something you do, an art or achievement, even a purchase.

If beauty like that is something you choose, I am free to choose it or not. If it's just by luck of birth, that sucks so bad. When I was a gawky tall stick insect of a teenager and the only girls considered pretty were the short and stacked, there was no way to meet that standard.

Later the tide shifted but as I didn't grow up feeling my body could ever be mainstream sexy, I didn't get attached to that - I do have hangups but they are my own. I just try to stay in shape, have good hair, take care of my skin and let the rest be.

But I think my unpopular opinion is beauty as something you do - makeup, style, fitness, is more democratic than insistence on symmetry of features or a particular height or build, the idea of "natural beauty" is worse. Beauty should be a choice, a hobby, a project, do or not.

In terms of what I do not currently understand, it's the moustaches. Young men with weedy little moustaches, straight men with moustaches that scream gay to me, the unopposed highway patrol/1980s gay man moustache I can't wait for that trend to pass.

I don't like big boobs almost ever.

Calling anything about beauty a standard.

Obviously fake anything. Boobs. Lips. Butt.

Trying too hard in general. Just be you.

I get we're not perfect and we all have insecurities. Why are they called love handles? But people are just people. We're all human.

I've always disliked plastic surgery, botox and heavy makeup. But that's normal enough

My real hot take is I am disgusted by long, fake nails. They make my skin crawl. They're so cumbersome, I truly don't understand how people love with them

Overly full lips. There's a bandwidth there where it should fit the rest of the facial features. Filling them up with collagen just almost never looks good.

Tabs over spaces, always

... wait, you're asking in asklemmy, not programming...

Uhhh... that thing where people glue little strands of hair to their forehead in an arc

I don't get why people try to hide freckles. They're so unique!

Ultra low body fat, e.g. high fashion models, bodybuilders. You don't see it that much in real life, but it's pretty heavily promoted in media. Plus the dehydration thing for bodybuilders, I hate that 'saran wrap' look.

Lip injections make me think of those wax lips they used to give out for Halloween

My favorite people, and probably yours too are not 10/10 hotties. The people I want to spend time with are funny and kind.

Chasing 'beauty standards', I feel, is a waste of your human potential. That time can be better used building friendships and community. Isn't that what most people really want?

If people focused their time there instead, maybe they would feel more accepted, confident and worthy instead of trying to shortcut their way to perceived success by altering their bodies. I find it sad that the digital age has pushed humanity so deeply in to 'comparative society'.

Confidence is the hottest most attractive thing to me in the end.

Mowed lawns. Just let it grow, it's easier and healthier.

This is literal and an innuendo.

What always disturbs me, and it seems worryingly prevalent on The Apprentice, is drawn-on eyebrows.

Fish lips.

Fake eye lashes. Holy God do they look stupid but somehow are so normalized. No idea how some women find the courage to walk outside with what look to me like Muppet eyes.

For the love of God ladies, tone it down. Your eyes are beautiful as they are! Mascara is one thing, but if I feel a fucking breeze every time you blink, it’s gone too far.

"Beauty has to be gendered"

I think you don't need to "look like a man" or "look like a woman" to be pretty

Thinned eyebrows, I love a good thick eyebrow.

Beards. I never understood why some women find it so sexy. But I am okay with people having different tastes. What is icky is that some women have made such a huge deal about them that it gets borderline unfair for men who don’t want to bother with grooming or those who cannot grow a full beard.

Filler and injections.

Septum rings. They just remind me of cows.

I would’ve said the tanning obsession, for health reasons, but that’s changed over the years.

Overalls. Can't handle em

Symmetry.

The =>6 ft tall obsession for males. Not one inch less.

Pure white teeth. I prefer ivory shades- not yellow, just the natural ivory. I've had salespeople approach me offering teeth whitening products and it terrifies me.

Long hair.

Shorter is better.

I dislike most artificial "enhancements" to boost your attractiveness.

Things like fake lashes, hair extensions, fake nails, breast implants, BBLs, lip injections, botox, and so on. This also extends for me to things like overly excessive tattoos, piercing, and makeup.

I personally like people who look and feel real. I don't want to date a mannequin. It's a okay to have flaws, nobody is perfect. Your flaws are a part of your charm.

I've never dated a woman wearing false nails. The same with botox.

Also, I'm not seduced by make-up. Contrary to false nails, I don't mind it, I find it useless. I like to look at actual people, and I may even feel attracted to some of them. I'm not interested as much in looking at the fantasized image people may have of themselves.

I'm also not obsessed with a person looking young, meaning I don't mind grey hair and wrinkles. Why would I? I do wear my own wrinkles with no worries, alongside those (short) grey hair I would have on top of my own big head if I was not completely bald.

Not considering the body itself, there is a 'sexy' thing that always left me wondering what was so hot about them: high heels.

I mean, I get it they help shape the legs. But they're also quite obviously less stable to walk with and they seem rather uncomfortable to wear for hours. I would tend to favor the company of a woman able to go out for a long walk with me, be it in nature somewhere or to visit some art gallery or museum in town.

thanks to all the men in the comments providing women with a free incel blocklist. your opinion may be useless, but at least no one appreciates you.

Big boobs.

5 year olds dressed up to look like a 19 year old going out for a one night stand. Kids are cute, and I was never into one night stands, but when the girl is 19 I can appreciate looking at a lot of skin.

Plastic cosmetic surgery. It’s one thing if it is wanting to repair damage (injury, illness, etc), but just getting it to change your nose, breasts, whatever, or as a shortcut for hard work (think liposuction) I don’t understand at all.

Makeup

All of them.

This post is gross af