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@WhyJiffie Disclaimer: I'm not sure if Friendica is respecting the thread format from Lemmy, in my first attempt, Friendica sent this reply as a whole new sub-thread instead of part of the previous sub-thread. Sorry if this is being sent outside the sub-thread, it's a glitch from Friendica.

I’m sorry for your bad experiences

Thanks

sometimes the person is just in a hurry or something

On the one hand, it makes sense. Hurry is perfectly understandable, given how "modern life" often vampirizes human time (while also vampirizing our attention span, which also corroborates with, and exacerbates, the phenomenon you described as severe attention deficit).

However, the hurry to reply is just another symptom/phenomenon brought by online activities: we're often expected to act "now", reacting to real-time information, prioritizing action over (deep) thought... and there's a Brazilian saying "a pressa é inimiga da perfeição", roughly translating to "hurry is the enemy of perfection"; things don't need to be as fast, at least not immediately (not that we need to seek perfection: here, "perfection" it's just euphemism for well-thought interactions).

For example (a meta-example): this reply to your reply wasn't written so recently. I saw your reply when it had been 10 minutes since you had sent it (11 hours ago). Then I read it, then I read it again, and again... I read it several times so I could understand all the points you shared. Even though I wasn't going to reply immediately (i.e. as soon as I saw), I began to gather fragments from my thoughts-replies (which started to pop up inside my head as soon as I began reading), writing these fragments as notes so I could further develop and compile them, only effectively sending when my reply was complete and ready. It's an old habit of mine, gradually writing and preparing a text/reply/post over hours or days.

Maybe I got this habit through literature, where I often write down and compile my thoughts as they pop up. Maybe I got this habit from Geminispace (a cyberspace within the so-called smallweb/smolweb) where its protocol prefers and encourages raw text over media. Maybe it's a fundamental part of archetypal traits from ND and/or PDs... In any case, it can be reflected as a proof-of-concept of how interactions can happen without needing such a hurry from the modern web, allowing for better interaction depth.

Also, it can be pointed out how developing a response gradually over hours, in a way, helps with both attention deficit and anxiety. Of course, there are no simple one-size-fits-it-all solutions because each person is different, but it seems like an useful approach (saving/bookmarking what is going to be replied and developing the reply gradually over the day or over a few days, without a hurry to do that so immediately; IMHO, the Web would be slow-paced, but richer and deeper in content than it is nowadays).

brainrot platforms like tiktok really don’t help with this worldwide issue.

Exactly. This is also why I mentioned Geminispace in my previous paragraph: there's a jarring contrast between its raw text format and the fast-consumption media (not that much of a difference from "fast-food": readily available, but unhealthy) from TikTok and other mainstream "social" networks, with the former prioritizing brains and the latter prioritizing gains.

very short, meaningless comments, which also have other properties I don’t know how to put into words.

Another word I would think of is superficiality.

The cases where I find deletion problematic always had something useful in them, either the post or the threads.

Losing useful information/knowledge is frustrating, especially in a world that is becoming increasingly scarce of purposeful knowledge.. Although I'm not sure how much the things I ever wrote and sent on Lemmy were that much useful for people, I guess there were possibly helpful contents (explanations, tips, etc) among hundreds of personal entries that got deleted. That's because I deleted my Lemmy account as a whole, so I had no means to keep certain entries I wished I could keep.

One solution could be ActivityPub allowing for a departing user to update its own actor from given posts, replacing it with a community/instance-wide actor (thus a "de-actorification" of sorts), so the activity would effectively become part of a public domain (given explicit consent from both the actor, the community and the instance, of course). But it's not an easy thing to implement nor to fully achieve in practice, unfortunately.

as others have said, generally a privacy issue type deal. Sometimes regarding data being collected then sold.

I don't agree with the mentality tbh, if you were concerned about that just don't post. Nothing is stopping the data collectors from collecting it anyway(I'm sure they already have their own instance set to auto sub and ignore deletion requests), the only people who are effected by it are the users who wanted to see the post, and the people who put effort into responding.

I think it's trying to minimize their digital footprint/reduce the amount of LLMs that will ingest their post.

Sometimes it's because they're getting answers they don't like.

I deleted a post because it was the dumbest shit ever written by humanity. I was drunk at the time...

No.

It would be nice if there was some sort of account handoff process between instances. Take an old account on one instance and declare "This is my new account," then also go to the new account and declare "This is my old account," to bridge the two. Import settings, statistics, content, etc. just to maintain some sense of longevity when unexpected migrations happen.

Welcome to sh.itjust.works, btw!