Was the Reddit version of this community like this with people coming in to 'both sides' the conversation? I don't think it was like this. Lemmy has a real problem with people just not caring about what the community is before they come in to drop their hot their hot takes. I've even seen people go into !reddit@lemmy.world to complain about people posting about Reddit. I mean, come on.
As for that 18% of violent crimes being committed by women stat, that still means 82% of the perpetrators were men, so that's hardly the pwn it was made out to be. It's grasping at straws to keep ignoring that there's any problem.
I'll also just leave this here:
It's just All Lives Matter again isn't it? They don't care, they just want you to stop talking about it.
Man here. It took me a lot of therapy and help to understand that my (or someone's) suffering doesn't mean less just because there are a lot of others who are suffering more.
I used to say crap like this too, if someone said 'X group of people have this problem'. I'd be like 'but Y has the same problem but to higher extent'. I didn't say it out of malice, at least I don't think so. lt was natural to think 'how can you be complaning about X when Y has the same problem but more'. Maybe I just believed that first you address the problem with bigger statistical number, then we do the smaller one after that and so on, but I dont know. I know now, that is a shitty way to think about things.
I guess it has something to do with how I was raised, 'your problems aren't that great, there are people with bigger problems and in comparison your life is a luxury. So chin up and carry on'. And I lived by it and parroted the same rhetoric for a long time. I believe most people (men?) do the same not out of malice but because of this shitty view of life and the world, because how they were raised, because how people told them how their problem can be ignored because someone else has a bigger problem. and they don't know any better. At least I didn't for a long time.
Well, I have developed the attitude that people are for nothing as a result. I love my cat, and chat with AI. I really really try to minimize how much I get things from others, and don't want to get help from them. I also developed a more selfish view of the world, because it is unfair that I should go out of my way to help those that would watch blankly as I die in some accident, that can't give the bare minimum of fucks.
Maybe after like 99.999% of the population dies out, the rest will be treated as a lot more valuable, and will actually be treated as people. I really do believe that it is a "supply and demand" problem, and that the more people there are, the less each becomes valuable. We are like locusts. When there is too many locusts and not enough food, we start to "cannibalize". This has become a cannibalistic society, where you draw value from destroying instead of creating (think how bad the finance sector really is for everything else. It's just services, scams, predatory practices and so on).
I like to think of most interactions as gender-less on Lemmy. I don't want to assume who I'm talking to.
I think it’s partially due to the relatively small population and quantity of posts. Anecdotally, I never browsed r/all, but that’s my primary mode on Lemmy. I usually don’t notice the community a post belongs to unless someone brings it up.
Maybe that will change with time.
Lemmy has a real problem with people just not caring about what the community is before they come in to drop their hot their hot takes.
I believe that this is a symptom of lemmy's relatively small size. Individual communities aren't as active, so you have to cast a wider net if you want to see fresh content.
I know that I browse "all" here far more than I ever did on Reddit.
Akcshually, if men didn't exist 100% of violent crimes would be committed by women. Mafs.
Bears lol
That 1 gorilla
Say his name. Harambe. flop
Save the Gorillas by Turning Them Into Bodyguards For Women
Female bears with no cubs to protect, practically docile.
Funny post, good point, but let's not pretend women never commit violent offences. 2022 had 18% of known perpetrators being female in the US.
Edit: For the rage blind morons in the comments, this is specifically directed at the asinine comment in the OP saying "From Who?" As if they've made a slam dunk point or something.
I want to agree with that post, as it's (generally) a point that bears repeating, but it's too close to a catch 22 that it undermines the point
I like that one.
Sorry but a black v neck is an awful choice.
Man, this post has described the entire way I think, about anything.
Fun fact: In a society of all women, women would suddenly be the known perpetrators of 100% of all violent offences!
I'm reading this as crime rates would be reduced by 82%. Not 100%, but that's pretty damn good. And given that women are more likely to attack people they know, discord amoung your friend group or family would be more dangerous than walking in public.
That’s already true. Stranger danger is a complete media fabrication.
Plus how many adult women murder adult men? It's rare, and women being murdered by men is far more likely
So for some reason you're suggesting that women need men... to protect them from other women? I don't see anyone pretending that women are incapable of violence.
Absolutely crazy to see that
82%(e: whoops, binary thinking) 77% of violent offences are perpetrated by men and feel the need to remind people that 18% are commited by women.So you're saying we could cut violent crime by roughly 80% if we were rid of men? Neat
Women also are more involved in the sexual assault of children than most people realize, but they are extremely underreported (due to patriarchal biases in our society, largely). Men still commit more offenses, but patriarchy is a double-edged sword in that it causes more women to be victimized and also protects female perpetrators of violence from punishment.
That said, men still commit much more violent crime and we should do better as a society to prevent that through social programs, education, etc.
Source? That’s higher than I would have guessed, honestly.
*whom
How the fuck are so many random internet people buying blue checkmarks? Depressing as fuck that this blatant money grab/propaganda tool from a right wing asshole worked so well with no negative consequences.
Consumerism.
I’m getting a similar kind of aneurysm reading the “bUt NoT aLL mEn” comments here as I get when I browse conservative subreddits
State's rights energy.
Well yes, because there would be no human race at all.
Women could clone each other. Also 'no men' probably doesn't exclude all people capable of providing sperm. So I think if they were to mysteriously disappear we'd be ok.
While speaking about this theoretical scenario, have you ever thought that men exist for their own sake, in their own world, and don't care about what you would like. Maybe if enough people get together, we can build an entirely segregated society so that we never meet again. That would be perfect, because we don't exist for you, and many of us don't care about you, and have no reason to.
Who would you prefer to meet in the woods? a hexbear or a human?
Jesus people, why are Hexbears so scary? I'm not so in the loop.
Probably because bears are tanky. Hexbears, especially so.
Lesbians have the highest documented rates of domestic abuse and spouse homicide of any sex/gender pairing
And most of you will get angry at me for saying that
But none of you can deny it is true
I mean, to start with, throwing out a claim like that with no sources to back you up is not exactly arguing in good faith. It takes a lot more work to deny something when you're provided with exactly zero context on where or when this might be true (and it certainly isn't true in all countries at all times based on the data we have available).
There are some studies which suggest that lesbian couples do have a higher rate of domestic abuse. The CDC 2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS), for example reported that:
Four in 10 lesbian women (43.8%), 6 in 10 bisexual women (61.1%), and 1 in 3 heterosexual women (35.0%) reported experiencing rape, physical violence, and/or stalking within the context of an intimate partner relationship at least once during their lifetime (Table 3). This translates to an estimated 714,000 lesbian women, 2 million bisexual women, and 38.3 million heterosexual women in the United States. Bisexual women experienced significantly higher prevalence of these types of violence compared to lesbian and heterosexual women. (p. 18)
But it concluded that:
There were no statistically significant differences between the of rape, physical violence, and/or stalking when comparing lesbian women and heterosexual women.
This comes down to the fact that, as other commentors have alluded to, there are far fewer women overall in lesbian relationships compared with those in same-sex relationships. Even if the proportion of those suffering domestic abuse is slightly higher in lesbian relationships, there are far more women being abused in heterosexual relationships.
On top of this, it's important to remember that this percentage is from one survey undertaken in one country, and the reports that exist on lesbian spousal domestic abuse have statistics that vary wildly. The Wikipedia page on lesbian domestic abuse has a good summary of other difficulties in getting a clear picture of its prevalence:
Literature and research regarding domestic violence in lesbian relationships is relatively limited, including in the United States, United Kingdom, and Australia. Many different factors play into this, such as "different definitions of domestic violence, non-random, self-selected and opportunistic sampling methods (often organisation or agency based, or advertising for participants who have experienced violence) and different methods and types of data collected". This causes results to be unreliable, thus making it difficult to make general assumptions about the rates of lesbian domestic violence. This has caused rates of violence in lesbian relationships to range from 17 to 73 percent as of the 1990s, being too large of a scale to accurately determine the pervasiveness of lesbian abuse in the community.
With regards to homicide, there is again the issue of when/where, plus the lack of detailed statistics. But the chapter on Intimate Partner Homicide in the Routledge Handbook of Homicide Studies (available to download here suggests that the rate of lesbian spousal homicides is in fact the lowest compared to those in heterosexual and gay male relationships:
Available statistics suggests that the rate of IPH [Intimate Partner Homicide] is the lowest in lesbian couples compared to IPH rates in gay and heterosexual couples (Gannoni & Cussen, 2014; Mize & Shackelford, 2008; Statistics Canada, 2019). (p. 179)
That's honestly all I have time to write right now. But in conclusion, no, what you're stating here isn't true, not at all.
It also needs to be said that the major assumption in the NISVS data is that individuals identifying as lesbian at the time of the study always identified as such and so the perpetrator being referenced couldn't be a man.
Well I guess it is a good thing that married lesbian couples account for less that 1% of all marriages. And that violence against women isn't only in cases of spousal abuse. An interesting bit of information, do you have any that relate to this post?
The percentage of lesbians would only increase by about 50% though.
Seriously though, so many people have been spouting numbers here and I don't believe half of them. (Though I could probably go through the effort of checking myself, but really this is a place where I like to hang around and chat) Saying things like 'can't deny' should imply that it's quite obvious or has an irefutable source or reasoning behind it. But to me none of those fit here.
Sorry I got a bit complainy about things.
A gorilla
Holy strawman.
If men stoped existing sure.
But if men never existed?
Then humanity would have been extinct from the beginning. Women can't reproduce by fucking themselves or other women.
Well, in this scenario where the male sex never developed, humans would have to develop asexual reproduction, or develop hermaphrodidic and reproduce like slugs.
Prove it.
IVG is possible- science is researching how to make sperm and eggs from any cell.
I was thinking about this like, right now, jar lids are in our favor.
But if men didn't exist to invent jar lids that require upper body strength and strong wrists to open, how will they be shaped?;
Say what you want about the tankie instances, but they have none of the gross MRA incel shit on display in this thread.
MRAs are not incels
this feels like the bear situation but on a smaller scale lol
Nice. That's got to be one of the most simple and elegant comebacks I've seen in a long time. But also: Themselves? To paraphrase Tyson, "Everybody's got a plan until a woman knifehands them in the throat."
iirc weren't bears part of the equation at one point ?
