You should know adhd people often have superior long term memory and faulty short term memory. So we may be able to keep 4 things we need to do in our heads but a fifth will push something out of mind. On the other hand I remember in vivid rage most all the people who did me shitty going back to elementary school.
I was about to say... "That's not how this works". You've hit the bullseye.
The trick is to rev up the ADHD distractions to put le shitty occurrence out of short term before you focus and replay the scenario into long term
Yeah, this tracks more than OPs bullshit
I’m not saying it’s impossible but probably not as common.
Well, according to my therapist all brains, not just ADHD ones, do this - negative memories are evolutionarily more pertinent to survival (i.e. "this rotten/poisonous fruit made me sick" trumps "this fruit was really juicy").
On the other hand some people say ADHD can come with RSD or "reaction sensitivity dysphoria" (i.e. stronger reactions to negative feedback, thus salient negative memory etc.) - and sometimes that feels right to me, but the evidence is thin so far.
I'm also really really really good at "keeping" secrets.....
Just don't talk to anyone about it, ok?
Talk about what?
I always was explicit about this. When people would ask me if I could keep a secret, my response was "Of course, I'll forget what it is within 2 days anyway."
So true! The worst part is that I can be blissfully unaware that I hate someone but then something reminds me of them and my brain goes "Whelp.... time to speed load every single feeling about this person in the next 5 seconds".
What's up with those random capitalizations?
It's for emphasis, most likely. Italics would have been the more common option, but it still gets the point across this way.
I hate it. Makes me think it was referencing like song titles or titles of some other media
I've seen it a lot on the internet, used for emphasis in a different way than italics.
It feels closer to bold but I couldn't find anything online about it
(aside from a wikipedia page offhandedly calling it 'capitalization for signification')
minor note
the parenthesized text is meant to go with the previous blurb but it was hard for me to read (the 'wall of text' effect) so I separated it
I'm as chill as a capybara, typically. I think that works.
Ooooh
Totally off topic, but Maggie is just awesome. If you aren't familiar with her, I suggest doing a deep dive into her video essays on cinema and pop culture. Here's a link to her site. Also, there's a really interesting episode of Behind the Bastards with her as a guest, talking about being a descendant of notorious cannibalistic child killer Albert Fish.
I have nothing to add on the actual topic though.
I, without ADHD, but autistic. The caffeine addiction stops me from holding grudges, because I only have ~3 people to drink coffee with.
