Did you even say 'thank you'?

This is actually psychotic. Do you know how many emails I get? I don't want some kiss ass in my fucking inbox. Sending me a thank you email actually shows that you don't respect my time.

Wait! How can i get the privilege to work with this smug loser?!!

Ironic that he’s a divorce lawyer, because his behaviour is exactly the sort of insane mind games that leads to failed relationships.

I recently wrapped up two lengthy interview processes (2 months for each).

Both companies were aware I was in multiple interview loops

One company was super transparent about the process, where I currently was in the process, all sorts of updates and notifications of delays etc. This loop took a long time since it was for a senior level position on a foundational team & product for the company.

The other company was playing it fast & loose. Lack of updates of where I am in the loop. Outside of the first meet & greet where I used a tool to find time on the interviewers schedule, I was chasing people to find out when the next interview step would be. After what I thought was the last "vibe check" interview with their CFO, I was told I'd hear from their HR shortly. It took 10 days and two check-in emails before I finally heard from HR and scheduled a meeting, which turned out to be more interviewing. I've yet to hear back from them, and I fully expect that they want me to chase them.

Needless to say, when the first company presented me with an offer that had everything in it I was asking for with a nice little cherry on top, I accepted the offer with very few questions or hesitation.

Treat me and my time with respect just as I will treat you and your time with respect. I have skills you need to deliver products & services and you have means of generating income from the combination of my skills and my peers to grant me an income. If you don't treat me & my time with respect, I'll go elsewhere, or even decide to become a competitor.

"Lick my boots or I will not consider you for a job."

Reeks of insecurity.

There's is nothing worse in job hunting than dealing with companies with this mentality/culture.

Degrade yourself while we give you the runaround or you don't get the job! Fuck you. Hell is not enough, I cast the Locust Plague upon ye 🦗🦗🦗

For i must be rewarded for even CONSIDERING hiring you

And YOU must show me the proper amount of gratitude for doing so

My hatred for this person is a thousand burning suns.

Real answer: I usually say thank you in person at the end of the interview. Like "Thank you for your time." Sending an email restating that would be wasting their time, no?

Self-important losers.

Whenever ai see these corporate office games I’m glad I have another reason I like my union job. None of this asskissing BS to move up. You apply for the position, if you meet/pass any qualifications and have the seniority, you get the spot. Yeah, the initial gig might need you to jump through HR’s hoops, but other than that it’s just qualifications and seniority. I suck at schmoozing and have a really hard time essentially lying to people about my motivations and feelings to jump through useless hoops to get a job, I despise sucking up to someone because they hold a position of authority.

(Yes, union jobs ABSOLUTELY have their own problems, but I’ve found the benefits of union work over time have far outweighed any benefits the corporate rat race could have.)

I’ll probably get a lot of downvotes for this, but why exactly should I send a thank-you email?

What about the potential employer – why don’t they send one to me? I took the time to prepare my application, sent them all my documents, and showed up for the interview.

I’m not begging for a job – I’m applying for one. They’re looking for someone who will generate more value for the company than they’ll pay in salary. That’s a business transaction, not charity.

So again – why should I be the one to send a thank-you email?

Personally, I think it’s enough to thank them in person during the interview.

Is this a cultural thing? I have never sent any thank you e-mail just to say thank you after an interview. Only if we agreed that I should send them some more information after an interview I'd start this mail by saying 'Thank you for the interview. As discussed, bla bla bla...'.

Dear Assface,

I'm writing to thank you. Not for the interview. For making a stupid post on a job site that you treat as social media. You are clearly deranged. I know that I don't want to work for you or with you or anywhere near you. Thank you for making that clear to me. Suck a fuck.

Best, some_guy

I've never grovelled for a job, and I'm not starting now.

so its the mind games, or "shit tests" employers like to use to see if thier egos get stroked.

As a hiring manager, I can confidently say, please do not send me any more email - even if it is to thank me.

Thank you email? Do employers make house visits or take you out for dinner when interviewing in the US?

Just read some of his other posts. Every one is the same, what a horrible person.

I have yet to see any place with a good hiring procedure, this nonsense included. People saying they work in HR should generally be looked at as if they just admitted to being in a cult, which is terrifying because it means cultists will be deciding whether you get to do the thing you do to keep from starving in the street.

The fuck? I interview people frequently. The thank-you email is nice, but definitely not required. I'd never write someone off because they didn't send me a thank-you email. Geez.

I might be old school but I see nothing wrong with a little politeness, especially if it gets my foot in the door. But then again, I’m not going to continually kiss someone’s ass for what should be a mutually beneficial situation.

I also got a hint: pass the bar exam.

While this person definitely sounds like a giant douche, it is in fact best practice to send a thank you email after an interview.

Capitalism is a sickness.

shut the fuck up marco

Why do all these shitheads want to be my mommy and daddy as well as my employer? I bet this moron is one of those alpha MAGA types who rails against the nanny state but loves being cuckolded and spanked in literally every other context. Fucking weirdos.

I would think there are very, very few interviews where the interviewee doesn't verbally thank them both at the beginning and end of the interview. Needing more than that is just narcissism.

A divorce attorney posting this. I get the feeling most of his clients are scumbags trying to get out of their responsibilities.

Why should I be sending a thank you email? You should be sending me one for showing up and staying if this is how you act. I am giving you my time during the interview that you are paid to be at.

I get it’s polite but you should be the one reaching out first.

Sorry, don't agree with this one. A simple "thank you" has been good job seeking advice for a long time. I've specifically gotten a job because I sent in a written thank you. Though that's more practical for local businesses rather than remote jobs that I seek these days.

It’s all part of the test I guess. No need to get angry, it’s just part of the game and we are usually not the ones setting up the rules.
Not until you succeed at the game that is

I'd also appreciate if employers would just inform you that you were not picked. So many just ghost you so you wait and wait and eventually just give up and look elsewhere.

Like, how hard is it to send a mail "You are not the chosen one".

Thank you for this post. I'm wearing a suit btw.

Thanks, Potential-Future-Boss-Man, for letting me know you're an actual piece of shit who has unclear expectations and plays games with their employees. Now I know to work quite literally anywhere else.

An interview is a business transaction being negotiated and requires equal participation from both parties. The only 'thank you' that should be exchanged for such things is a solid handshake and a polite "Good day" when the interview is over. Be respectful and sincere, but don't buy into the childish "I'm the boss and you must grovel at my feet for a penny" game that so many managers and corporate assholes love to play.

Ya pass

Oh my god fuck these people

Make sure to send thank you emails daily so they know how thankful you are. If you can't spam me email everyday singing my praises then how could i consider hiring you?

Thank you emails are good. The real question is, should you space it out. Like a day or two after the interview? Because sending one right after does zero IMO. You need to keep yourself on their minds and as we all do....we forget.

So keep yourself in their minds and give it a day or two after the interview

"You disgrace the oval office our office"

I got an in-the-mail thank you card from someone I interviewed once. We didn’t end up hiring them but it was a nice gesture. I know when I was first interviewing for jobs ~20 years ago it was common advice to send a followup / thank you.

If I get a pointless thank you email, I'd be worried the person will spam my inbox with useless garbage if hired. Still better than not sending emails when they serve a purpose.

Thank you emails and letters are old school ways of show appreciation for the chance for a job. IMO this is a bit dated but totally fine especially if the job is a customer facing one where their manners actually matter.

I don't want a follow-up email. Either you were selected for a second round, or you were not.

Pestering me about it isn't going to help.