Spouses do end up doing chores sometimes, but if I recall correctly (maybe this was updated away) sometimes they end up "watering the crops" when you have sprinklers do it all or something like that… it is unintentional but usually by the time the farmer is ready to propose marriage they are also far enough in the game the chores they do around the farm will not always be helpful.
I'm still working my way through experiencing all the romances I'd like to. But for some reason I often marry Haley. I am not romantically interested in women. ??? I know I'll pursue them in games anyways to see the story bits, to learn more about them, but I have already seen the story and learned more so not sure why I do this. Pretty sure it is not a case of secret closet for various reasons that are probably off-topic to Stardew Valley.
Mary, she's just generally the most happy to live her life still and yet ecstatic to be living with you as well. It seems like the most wholesome relationship imo.
By now, I feel weird going for those that feel barely out if their teens. I like Leah and Elliot. I love creative types and those who work hard to pursue their passions, even in the face of adversity. I also like that they still pursue their passions when they live with me. Others have felt kind of empty after moving to my farm. One time I chose Krobus over marriage, no regrets there either.
On my first playthrough. I'm in year 6 and just about ready to start doing Qi quests once I finish off perfection. Haven't romanced anyone yet. Thinking about either Leah, Penny, or Abigail.
Interestingly, the first accessory I picked up was a "Perfect Ice Rod," so combat has been easy since that. I have a big stone chest that is about ¾ full of all the accessories, but only one Level 3 Parrot Egg.