Reddit Is a Hookup App Now
Reddit Is a Hookup App Now
NSFW groups for dating and meet-ups have been among the fastest-growing subreddits lately, a throwback to an old internet.
Any device or software that allows people to communicate is going to be used for hook-ups. It's etched into the machine code at the heart of the internet.
Whoever wrote this article must’ve just got on Reddit.
Hey maybe let's not vilify the nsfw subs that are doing nothing wrong. The anti adult content trend recently is really disturbing and is pushing the culture war in the states trying to outright ban porn.
I think it's more the blending of people advertising their adult content with those presumably looking for genuine connections that people have a problem with. A lot of niche interest subs have rules around self-promotion and people looking to advertise products for what I think are similar reasons.
Yeah all that shit is getting pretty wild. A bunch of stuffy prudes are freaking out about changing social/cultural norms.
I also think this latest war on porn is a low key cover to undermine online security/privacy/encryption.
It's about control really. The powers that be are afraid people are talking online about how things could be better and they don't want that.
Man spez getting really desperate
the goods are odd but the odds are good.
This is basically an ad saying "if you want to get laid visit reddit." Honestly reddit probably suggested it. They're going to coin the phrase "reddit and chill."
"and thirty minutes later a man posted being interested", "the market is enormous"
Like wow, a guy looking for a hookup, how hard is that to find lol.
Yeah feels like a paid for opinion-publicity. Of course you have to use their shitty app to see NSFW now too so a win win right!!
Those hookups are full of scams and cops.
Ask me how I know.
How do you know that?
They're a cop that scams people.
Years ago, I had some success with these subreddits. In recent years, not so much. IF you could meet the various requirements to post, you would be flooded with some combination of OnlyFans accounts, literal scam attempts, and/or occasional actual prostitutes. But mostly the first two. More than one girl I reached out to had a long list of rules for guys who wanted to message her. Just a whole bunch of bullshit. And the "local" subreddits are 99.99999% spam accounts.
You all were hooking up?
I thought those were people pushing OF content. Or if it was happening, it was only in really big cities.
seeing the pictures of redditors that got married and met through reddit.. yeah you don't want to have been hooking up there
New notification: $adjective$noun$numbers is following you!
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Oh yeah I remember those things. All my friends who use reddit have like 20 of those onlyfans bots following them. Like how did that ever become a thing!?
thanks, I hate it
Ooh, I don't know. Makes me want to get back in there. Apparently I was following the wrong subreddits all this time
If Reddit gets seized and shutdown due to solication under FOSTA-SESTA I will laugh
I won't. That's a terrible law and its use should never be celebrated, even against someone we don't like.
And I bet most of it is fake/bots or shilling for an Onlyfans account.
"it always has been"
These are confusing times, but I am glad I moved
To be fair, reddit for me was always about getting to know like-minded people. And I met my wife through the 40+redditor seeks redditor group so if that's what it is I'm fine with it. Not in the least as I left that toxic waste dump with the exodus and have not missed 95% of it. (Yes, I miss /r/AskHistorians but I am strong, if I allow myself one subredit it will suck me back in so clean break is for the best).
I tried dating subreddits before. Results were not good.
The problem is that online dating is a miserable experience from a heterosexual perspective. I cannot really speak for the LGBTQ experience but I do have a lesbian friend who has pretty much been undateable.
On every dating/hook-up subreddit every single "M4F" post gets mass-downvoted and practically hidden from view, while every "F4M" post is swarmed with desperate and thirsty guys whose comments can be summed up in just five words: "PLEASE HAVE SEX WITH ME." You see the same shit on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Happn, Okcupid, POF and every other dating app.
Women can easily swipe right on any guy and 99,999 times out of 100,000 match with them, meet up with them and bang them in less than two hours if they wanted to. Men on the other hand get zero matches unless you look like a fucking Chippendale, are over 6ft, have a big dick, have a nice bank account and a decent job.
The internet has turned us hypergamous, and we wonder why the incel community is growing at an alarming rate...
y'know, i really thought lemmy would be better than this but i guess it is just fucking reddit all over again.
this stupid "men have to be chad thundercock or die alone!!!1111 it's so easy for women waahhhhh" shit is just a divisive incel talking point with no basis in reality. you literally just pulled numbers out of your ass too. the incel community is growing at an alarming rate because of all the talking heads on social media who purport this trash and people like you who mindlessly repeat it.
I really hate the fact that 'incel' has become this catch-all insult for a low value man, and frankly find it offensive that you are comparing me to the kind of people that glorify and worship school shooters. These people shouldn't be the reason to outright dismiss male woes with online dating, especially when a lot of online dating sites have zero interest in helping you find love and just want to make your experience as miserable as possible so that they can sucker you into paying triple the price of a WoW subscription to see what fake users 'liked' your profile.
I do not associate myself with the manosphere because these communities are toxic-a-f. At the same time I find it greatly concerning that they are growing in prominence (just look at Andrew Tate's social media following) and think there's loads of factors at play. Big tech has a lot to answer for.
Male virginity has more than trebled in the United States from 8% of men aged 18 - 30 reporting no sexual partners in 2008 to 27% in 2018. That is an alarming statistic.
But wait that's one source, I hear you say. Here is an archived post from the Okcupid blog which was taken down after Match got their money-grubbing paws on the site, which showed trends of how badly male users were ranked. Of course Match Group had to remove that from their blog because they have to keep up the illusion that it's worth paying a £37/month subscrption.
Also, no basis in reality? There is an evolutionary basis to explain this. Humanity had evolved over millions of years to find certain traits attractive in a mate. For men, being physically strong, healthy, having status in a tribe and being able to provide for a family would have been strong factors in ensuring the survival of the next generation back when we were still foraging and hunting. We had only shed our status as a hunter-gatherer species hundreds, if not thousands of years ago. Is it outlandish to conclude that our human biology has not caught up to the millennia of societal and technological change that we've made as a species?
He is talking specifically about online dating, where judging by superficial looks is the whole goal and populations that are in it for the hookups are heavily male skewed and always will be. If you think that's your only option then yes- it really is "so easy for women" and "men have it so hard". That entire ecosystem is an absolute cesspit and always has been.
If you date the "normal" way- aka, making friends and connections face to face, things haven't really changed significantly and your chances are good if you just stay clean and personable. You just have to put actual effort into being a social human being, which is where the internet drags far too many of these kids off track.
Tinder men to women ratio – Gender Statistics: 78,1% of users are men, and 21,9% of users are women
46% of the time men swipe right, meanwhile women swipe right 14% of the time
This explains a lot the fact that men are less ‘successful’ on Tinder when compared to women.
Source: https://datingzest.com/tinder-statistics/
Online dating is a bad bet for men because the odds are against them.
The new tinder
No kidding. I started to receive messages from reddit mods (not the user, but actually coming as "from /r/subname mods", with phishing/scam links.
My wife and I met on r4r, but the post was looking for friendship, and that eventually led to us dating two years later.
Always has been