2y ago

Meta communication.

Prof. Sol, Autism/ADHD Coach on TikTok

I feel like this explains a lot of my struggles on personal relationships. Not all of it, but for sure a lot.

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When this happens it makes me frustrated with NTs
- Myabe showing them this video helps?
Wait what? He's saying that allistics don't understand when I say "let me back up..." that I'm backing up to try to clarify the misunderstanding we're having?
- I don't think it's limited to that specific phrase, rather the whole idea of some of us reasoning that we can discuss from a "third" perspective or just not engaging in the subject at hand without felling tied to coming back right at it. Clarification it's not within that concept.
  
  Right, not limited to that phrase
  But like, there's so much implied understanding of this concept in our language, our idioms and cliches etc.
  "You need to get some perspective" "I'd appreciate your perspective on this" "It would be good to hear an outside perspective" (I don't think I'm making these up, imagining their common turns of phrase)
  I think I'm misunderstanding his point probably. He's not saying that allistics can't or that they aren't able to conceive the idea of it, rather he's saying that allistics often don't notice that we've made the perspective switch when we do?
  We perhaps do it so often and so fluidly (or in my case probably with no more substantial a skip or conversational hiccup than is ordinary in my speech) ... -so often or so fluidly that others tend not to notice whatever we think we've used as a sufficient cue to designate the back-stage explanation.

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