My takeaway from witnessing a friends journey between imcompetent doctors, side effect heavy antidepressants and increasingly whacky other depression treatment methods:
When ADHD is the actual root cause, leaving it unacknowledged (and untreated) will achieve nothing and cause unnecessary harm.
Getting a first diagnosis took me about 10 minutes. I’m in Canada, and we have a doctor available one day a week at the office. After a 10min discussion he gave me a prescription and with some trial and error we found the right dose of concerta to use.
This does make sense as every little bit I manage to improve on re: ADHD significantly improves my mindstate. I have an appointment to discuss meds next week and I'm hoping they're able to help, even if it's not with meds.
To be fair, this is not just ADHD, but a curse of the digital age. Learning how to talk to people not in a digital capacity is like a muscle that will atrophy without practice.