I'm trying so hard to stop perpetuating the cycle with my son.
I'm obviously ADHD (undiagnosed), but I learned coping mechanisms at a young age, some healthy and some unhealthy, same as my father and grandfather.
My son is now fully diagnosed at 6, has weekly therapy, summer occupational therapy, and is doing medication trials that seem to help a ton. It's honestly amazing and so incredibly sad watching his journey. As a family we were so frustrated and unhealthy due to something he had no control over. I only wish we could have taken action sooner.
For anyone who is struggling with a child acting out, don't wait a second longer than you have to. The cost is so so worth it.
Both, though in some ways my fog has gotten worse and I believe this is from long covid and changing other medications. So it's hard for me to really judge that for now.
40s here and tried so many different things. Got on vyvanse a few weeks ago, and the best way I can describe it is I feel normal. My fear is it will stop working one day
First of all, yes, to the childhood, sooo much yes.
I finally got diagnosed at 36 when I, after homeschooling my kid through ONE MONTH of Covid went, "Holy shit this kid has ADHD." Cuz she was trying to pay attention, and I could see that she was, her brain would just drift off somewhere else... Anyway. One month, lightbulb, diagnosis, medication. Meanwhile I was literally homeschooled my entire childhood and my parents missed it.
Her diagnosis lead to mine, and at 36 there I am telling my mom that I've been diagnosed, annnnd she basically reacted like I had decided to dye my hair a different color. Like it was just a fun new fact to know about me.
I don't know why I was expecting more, I don't know why I was expecting her to react the way I would have if I'd found out I failed my kid that hard... Man that stung.
After 30 there aren’t many mysteries about yourself so it feels huge to have this new thing you’re excited about just shrugged at. Mine were like that too but they were less accepting. Did you find a way to celebrate the knowing(tm)?
Not sure, I was in 2nd grade when I got tested. My mom told me that I was diagnosed with short attention span (this was the early 90s) and was told to put me on a prescription, but she didn't do that stating that she thought it was baloney, that and we were poor back then too.
I got diagnosed at 37 last year after my wife got diagnosed a few months prior. We're the same age. And then my sister got diagnosed too, a couple months after I did, at 31.
The childhood part reflects my experience to a t. The adult diagnosis part makes me think I'm one of the lucky few, after I read your comments here. Parents took an interest in my diagnosis and discussed my childhood at length. They regret not knowing about it when I was a child but they are sort of relieved that we know the reason for my problems in life.