This is my wife and me. Also, she loves to plan trips and I love to be spontaneous. The compromise is she plans everything for the trip and doesn't tell me anything. That way she gets her organization and I get my surprises.
Last trip I went on I packed six days before, but on the night of the trip lay in bed awake, anxiously worrying that I'd chosen the wrong luggage and wanted to use my other stuff instead, so I had to get up and start repacking everything at 2AM and I was destroyed with tiredness the day of the flight.
I'm usually a night-before kind of packer. But I usually over-pack and over-prepare. I'll bring everything from sunscreen, to rain coats, extras of every piece of apparel, even extra toiletries when I can.
I go from being totally unprepared two days prior, to basically ready to go on a month-long trip for a week vacation, in less than 4 hours.
We agreed a week in advance to pack a specific size luggage. I had my luggage packed a week in advance. The night before she finally packed and we had to check a extra bag.
Oh, I almost never go far from a major metro. I can buy anything I forget, generally a replacement is less than 10 minutes by car at most, and usually less than 5 minutes walking.
There's just something satisfying about the SO going "darn, I forgot my brush/comb/usb charger/phone cable/toothbrush/whatever" and within seconds I produce one for them.
I don't usually travel by plane so checking bags isn't usually a concern.
In my case it's similar, but specifically I overpack work stuff (camera gear, mostly) thinking I'll be taking time during vacations to film personal things/try new techniques/update my website/plan future shoots/do marketing/etc etc etc. All the stuff I never have time to do while grinding away at home.
Sometimes on big road trips where we don't visit family, I manage to film some personal stuff (landscapes, etc), but right now we're on the annual family visits trip and feeling like fuck no am I not gonna bother haha. Then I spend the whole time complaining about why on earth I felt the need to bring this cumbersome stuff every time I'm packing the car...
I'm the sort of procrastinator who avoids tasks because I will obsess over them until I am consumed by them. I have a trip in three weeks, and I want to start packing right now so that there's time to shop for anything we might need but don't realize we don't have, but I also know that I'll be doing laundry the night before we are set to leave because I always forget that one thing.
My wife will pack a few days in advance, and will pack the clothes she has clean. Maybe there will be one load of laundry to wash the one thing she knows she wants to bring but she knows it is dirty and knows exactly where it is. She will do that load of laundry three days before we leave. She's like some kind of sorcerer.
What I don’t get is when I was a yoof I was a disorganised, impulsive, random mess.
So how is it me that’s the organised one who has everything planned and packed and my wife who’s literally doing her laundry the night before.
Life is very odd.
I am panicking right now about how I will be packing the night before my flight in a month and a half. Fuck you brain! I have a system. ^what if that system fails?^
I have enough close that I could wear something different daily but I don't. I just cycle the same few pieces. I also haven't night hardly any clothing in the past 15 years.
I travel two different ways. Either with kids, or for work.
Either way I try to travel as light as possible. I don't want to pack more than 2 days worth of clothes if I can avoid it. Having kids means they are going to bed early at least every other night and most hotels have a laundry room.
I just don't want to deal with it.
Plus wherever I'm traveling probably has a store where I could buy a shirt if I really needed to. Hell, casual wear is my usual souvenir when I travel anyway. Trucker hats especially, but hoodies and T-shirts as well.
How much work is doing laundry? Put it in one machine, press a button, put it in another machine, press a button. Fold it enough that it doesn't wrinkle. Done.
I'm just gonna sit in my room and stare at my phone during that time anyway.
I have no idea why there's downvotes on this. Whether it's for a day trip or two weeks, ideally I'm bringing a single backpack, and I'm always a little miffed if that's not possible.
Particularly if I'm going somewhere urban, I go to a laundromat one morning, grab a coffee from nearby, make some small talk with the locals or just chill waiting. It's a nice break before going on with the rest of your day.
I day before and have a list on my phone for the things that can't be packed until the day of (cpap, meds, etc.). I mark them off as they get packed. Then I reset the list to use on the next trip.
My wife talks about packing early, but always ends up putting it off to the last night before the trip. Then she gets stressed out that she is missing something because she refuses to write down a list.
Outside of trips I can't keep track of most things because of ADHD and she is the reverse, not needing lists for most things. Our travel habits are the opposite of the rest of iur lives!