A recent study found that the rate of women 18 to 30 getting tubal ligations doubled in the 16 months following the Dobbs decision. The number of young men getting vasectomies also shot up, but men still get sterilized much less often than women.
My friend with severe PCOS and who would never be able to be pregnant had the hardest time already trying to get a hysterectomy at 28. Even asked about her future husband being ok with this decision.
I can understand making absolutely sure that this is what the woman wants, but don't bring in an imaginary person into the decision. That is for her and the person she starts seeing down the line and whether she wants to tell him on the first date.
To be fair, men also get asked if they're really sure by some doctors when going in for a vasectomy. Even when closing in on 50 and with three kids at home. But as long as they perform the procedure I don't care.
It's exceptionally difficult already for a woman to get sterilized. The decider may be whether sterilization has the same stigma/religious fervor around it that abortion has in that people will willingly waste their weekends off protesting against it.
I'm optimistic, but America likes to disappoint me.
Honestly it’s so difficult to get done as it is that they don’t even need to outlaw. It’s virtually unobtainable for most women unless they already have “enough” kids, whatever that means to a specific doctor, or they travel to find a willing doctor.
It took me 8 years to get it done because I’ve never reproduced (childfree by choice). And I’m one of the easier stories. I got it done at 27, in 2015, and while some doctors are more willing now, most aren’t. Especially in conservative areas.
All they have to do is keep making doctors scared to offer proper reproductive care, make it risky and they stop going into that field. You don’t need to make it illegal, just impossible. Rich white people will still be able to choose, so they don’t care.
I had to deal with a whole bunch of people asking me hypothetical questions. What if you regret it? (what if I regret having them?), what about your future partner? (If they are right for me they also don’t want kids, and I don’t plan to get married anyway). What if you change your mind? (I will adopt if that happens. I don’t believe sharing my junk genetics is important, and the chances of issues are high anyway since I’m also broken, and there are plenty of not-infant kids who need homes if I get maternal, but kids under 5 aren’t my jam and probably never will be, and I’m probably too negligent to raise them right anyway). Ultimately they couldn’t argue with my logic but it took years of finding the right doctors getting the right consultations, etc.
That's why I hauled ass to the doctor and got a bisalp scheduled asap. I ended up getting them to agree to a hysterectomy this year, which is what I really wanted, but I wasn't willing to take a chance on that not happening. I'm no longer in the young category, but I was only 38 and potentially still fertile (and way more likely to have complications from being "geriatric").
It's already super hard. I was lucky and found a doctor who understood, but I'm not young. People in their 20s face a whole bunch of bullshit, enough to get in the way and prevent them having the procedure. It's fucked.
I am going with a while. They just don't change their minds quickly and get distracted easily. It took them almost half a century to get abortion banned in a few states, only 2 of which have any real population size.
Sure eventually they will grok on that abortion was the last resort option out of many tools but not overnight. Then even when they do they have to come up with good arguments to hide their goals. Which again will take time.
If you read to the end, the article mentions that the first time Ferst tried to get sterilized (and her old doctor was being difficult) she still had a male partner. I think she's bisexual.
As it turns out most men and women aren't weird doomer weirdos who spend a considerable amount of their lives being miserable online. Most people want families, and there's nothing wrong with that.
Oh they understand people fuck, and the people who want to ban abortion and contraception want people to have kids they didn't want for various reasons.
Blows my mind that vasectomies are the less common procedure. Got mine done cheaply many years ago. Super easy, barely an inconvenience.
Partner got tubes done recently (so that insurance couldn't deny her for medically necessary hysterectomy later, what a dumb system we have) and she was miserably bedridden for quite a while, with the scars to prove it. Would have been expensive if she wasn't maxed for out-of-pocket already.
I get that reference, but also I'd like to support the statement. I've sat on my couch for 2-3 days, frozen peas in my lap and just took it slow. A week later I could barely tell that anything changed.
Toxic masculinity, all my friends that don't want to be convinced have the worst excuses possible but most times it's about not wanting to feel like a lesser man.
That's so bizare, since I swapped out to unleaded we fuck constantly and not worry about contraception. nothing makes you feel like more of a man than fucking raw dog every chance you get.
On the flip side, I was up and working out three days after my bisalp. And my friend who got a vasectomy was bedridden for a week. I think they're pretty comparable, it's just a game of rock paper scissors whether you'll have the easy or the hard recovery.
I'm looking to reenter the dating pool in the near future and this has been on my mind, especially in light of Roe and my location in middle America. Would you be willing to share your personal experience with the procedure? Everyone says it's very easy, but I gotta be honest, it makes me nervous.
I was nervous before mine, but it wasn't bad at all. The worst part was the slight pinch in my balls when they gave me the local anesthetic. It took about fifteen minutes, and I walked out just fine.
I sat on the couch all weekend and watched action movies which was awesome. Ibuprofen was more than enough for the pain, and I was able to do light house work in a couple days.
Get some reviews of doctors in your area, but I would definitely recommend getting one if you don't want any kids.
If you're nervous, they can knock you out for the procedure. You can't drive yourself though. And not just any driver will do. They need to be responsible for you. So no taxis. I had nobody to help me out, so I went for local anesthesia.
I cracked jokes, which they said was a common coping mechanism for nervous guys. The nurses laughed, but the doc kept a straight face and steady hand. A couple tiny needle pokes were unpleasant, as was the tugging on the vas deferens, but neither particularly painful. Afterward I drove myself home to play video games and get high for a weekend. A bit of soreness for a couple days, but nothing compared to what she would have endured. I went back to work before recommended, and also masturbated too soon, but suffered no ill effects.
It seems the US is truly falling into the hands of religious zealots despite a Senate and President who pushes the other way. Tells you how much power the Supreme Court has.
It also makes it very clear that you can't jump ship just because of a bad debate. It's about policy, not one person's debate skills.
My wife holds dual citizenship and her country has many ex-pats so they have right of return laws.
Next month we have an appointment with the embassy with her country as well as the interviews. I also have them in a class where they are learning the language of her country.
It depends on the country, but many are just time based. We moved by getting work and education visas and are renewing them until we can apply for residency, then citizenship. Luckily we've been planning this for over a decade and we had managed to save up and plan.. I've personally seen several people try to do the same and had to return to the US for financial reasons. It's heartbreaking.
I recently thought about that, but realized that if America falls, it will totally screw Europe, much of South America, and probably Canada. Russia and China both have hopes to colonize Europe and many of the countries surrounding china.
In short, I think it's best I stay here and vote for all those countries that depend on us and can't vote in our elections. Keeps everywhere else stable and safe by extension.
I personally don't plan to leave, because I am not in any real danger. Fuck yeah it's great to be a hetro male on top of the racial-ethic pyramid. 10/10 would recommend.
It's my multiracial daughters who could be in danger. We are like one bad election way from Republic of Gilead. So yeah I am preparing for the worst, hoping for the best. Have enough money saved up that I can get them on airplane out, keep the passports up-to-date, and working on making sure they got citizenship in my wife's home country. As for what they would do when they get there my wife's family well-off, is big, and loves them.
From experience you better do it while you're single instead of waiting until you're with someone and having to deal with the stress it will cause them when it becomes official...
If anybody read the study, which I highly doubt, you'll see that this story is highly exaggerated. The actually study showed the sterilization in women went from 2.83 per 100k people per month before Dobbs to 5.31 per 100k people per month after Dobbs. For men, the increase went from 1.03 per 100k people per month to 1.18 per 100k people per month.
I didn't read this article, so idk how they spun things, but given the title and the information you shared from the actual study, they sensationalized, not exaggerated. 5.31 is an 87% increase from 2.31, which is a rounding error off 2x. Honestly, in medical/psychological/anthropological/sociological studies the sigmas are never high enough for my comfort as a probabilist anyway.
Usually rates that involve small raw numbers get swayed pretty significantly by relatively small changes. For example, Malta had a 3 murders last year, if that number doubled to 6, the homicide rate would increase by 100%. That's a very significant increase, but does it imply that Malta has turned into a dangerous country? Not really, no. The increase would make it's rate go from 0.561 per 100k to 1.122 per 100k, that's around the same as New Zealand which is another very safe country. It should still be noted and discussed because there's value in that, but my point is that these trends and swings in statistics can be pretty misleading if not put into proper context.