And they all stopped playing music at like 19 or 20 so likeâŠtheyâre fine at their instruments, can read music, even have moments where they sound pretty good. But they ainât winning a competition lol
I'm seriously considering starting a financial management business for people with adhd like me who are in debt simply because they forget to pay the damn bill.
I wouldn't be managing anyone's finances, though, I'd hire people who aren't like me.
Auto pay saves me $1,000âs a year, that and getting a loan to consolidate all my credit cards so i would only have one late payment max a month, and itâs on autopay.
I have saved so much money with that damn loan and the All Mighty Autopay
Like how else is it supposed to work currently? Who wants to deal with people's trash? Who wants to transport people around at 4 am in his bus AND have to deal with the shit attitude of people on top? Etc.
We need to compensate people well for this sort of work. There are a lot of people doing this work right now who are not compensated fairly for this work.
I wish I could figure out if I have it. I asked my doctor how to get diagnosed, he said Iâd need to talk to a psychiatrist. I got a referral and tried to setup and appointment but they said I couldnât be tested since I have no history of it. They instead want to put me on antidepressants but Iâve gone through enough of them to know that ainât what my issue is.
Mental health care in this country is a fucking joke.
If you really think you need to be medicated, try different doctors until you find someone who specializes in ADHD. The rest have no clue what they're doing and regularly try to treat the symptoms of ADHD (such as depression about how much your life is coming apart due to ADHD) instead of the cause.
I honestly donât want to be medicated, but Iâd like a diagnosis to help me find strategies. Iâm middle aged so have figured out how to live with the brain I have but it would be nice to not have to struggle against my nature so much.
Iâm probably just lazy or easily distracted, or disorganized, etc. and am looking for excuses.
Guessing you're writing about the US? Unless you're a user on a clearly country-specific server, a large chunk of users do not know what this country is.
Hey dude. That whole experience with the psychiatrist sounds wrong. Of course you have history. And that in no way qualifies or disqualifies you from getting a diagnosis.
In saying that, I agree with db0 in that a diagnosis won't necessarily help. You can absolutely look up strategies and routines, tips ect on how to improve your experiences and try applying the ones you like and see how it goes.
Psychiatrists might diagnose you and then want to put you on medication because that is their job and how they get paid. The cognitive behavior change work is usually done with a psychologist, in groups and in your own time. There's some great worksheets available online if you look around.
well, I've got other stuff going on, depression and a brain injury last year that I'm still working through. on top of that, as a kid in the 80's I was tested for ADD but at the time they were more looking at the inattentive behaviours. however, I'm pretty sure I'm the other side of that coin and ADHD didn't become a thing (at least mainstream) 'til several years later.
Thatâs what theyâve done with my daughter. Itâs clearly adhd, but they want to start with antidepressants (Prozac).
I just wish theyâd treat the poor kid so she can start feeling like a normal person. She struggles so much. It doesnât matter what she does, sheâs doing something else immediately. She canât focus on anything.
Just like the meme says though, she a good musician and artist. Anything else though and sheâs just stuck. I hate it. I should have dealt with it sooner.
@theangryseal
This seems to be the way a lot of doctors are choosing to start..
I really think starting with treating the adhd and, if desired, a coach or therapist to work on coping techniques.
My sons and I went through this journey and the antidepressants were all horribleâŠ. Mood-altering horrible. Helped nothing in our case.. but also found many on the Interwebs that have had similar experiences.
But only "pretty good"! Which sounds neat but that is just one step above "foundational" and good luck getting to mastery after skipping that, and finding the whole proposition a bunch of bullshit and really pretty good is enough, let's do the next thing and the next until we lose a few more forgotten "pretty goods" for lack of practice!